"He Rarely Brushed His Teeth": 30 Women Share Unusual Reasons They Broke Up With Their Partner

You know, one thing that doesn't get talked about enough is having different life goals and values as a reason to break up with someone. It's not just about whether you both like the same movies or enjoy the same hobbies. It's about where you see yourselves going in life and what you believe in.

Imagine you're super into traveling the world and experiencing new cultures, but your partner is more about settling down in one place and building a stable career. It might not seem like a big deal at first, but over time, those differences can really start to wear on the relationship. You might find yourself feeling like you're not on the same page about the important stuff, like where you want to live or what you want to prioritize in life.

So yeah, having different life goals and values might not be the most obvious reason to break up, but it can definitely be a deal-breaker if you're not aligned in those areas.

Constant arguing, especially if you’ve been dating less than 2 years. I think some people think fighting is normal in a relationship. And of course some disagreements are normal. But if you’ve been together less than 2 years and fight a lot I think that’s a sign of deep incompatibility that can’t really be “ worked” on.

There wasn’t an insane conspiracy theory this dude didn’t believe.

The first one he told me: on our second date was around the time of the Miami Mall incident. He truly believed 8ft tall shadow aliens invaded the Miami Mall and the government was keeping hush about it. His further conspiracy was that the government was overrun by “replaced people” basically aliens pretending to be people.

The most iconic of his theories: Russia is going to hack America’s electrical grid and America will lose all power and basically turn into the video game Fallout where civilization will collapse and you’ll need to become a scavenger to survive. He had a go-bag for this eventuality and truly believed his backpack and Amazon-military gear would save him in that scenario. Never mind America’s electrical grid isn’t even standardized for easy hacking.

The one that broke the camels back and we fought: he truly with his whole chest believed in the “Curse of Oak Island” (a History Channel show). I could get behind the theory that there might be a treasure buried somewhere but then they dug up a Chinese coin dating to the BC and claimed the Templars brought it to this Canadian island. I’m a history nut, so this was just outright false. He was all “shun the nonbelievers”

 

If they get in the way of your sleep. Or your food.

Honestly the maturity levels. I think a lot of women believe that they can bring their partner up to speed…but why should you take on that labor in the first place?? There were a lot of reasons my last relationship didn’t work out, but I have realized since that he simply wasn’t on my level in terms of maturity. I am someone who has no familial support network and didn’t grow up with money, while his family was incredibly involved with each other and independently wealthy. He had no self initiative and was happy to sit in discomfort until someone came and fixed it for him. I am someone who is very empathetic and I am always working towards improving not just my own life but the lives of those I care about. He was happy to profit from that and not support me in the ways I asked for.

I once broke up with a guy because I found a skidmark in his undies. Hygiene is incredibly important to me. The guy didn't smell or anything, but every time I looked at him all I could see was a dirty butt hole.

If you can't do the basic task of washing or wiping your booty hole correctly, I'm not gonna stick around to figure out what other nasty habits you have.

This is going to sound stupid but if your gut tells you that they are not fully invested in the relationship, despite what they say and/or do. I was in a six year relationship where I always felt just a tiny bit insecure about our relationship. There was a voice in the back of my mind that told me to put all but one of my eggs in that basket. Turns out, I was right. He said despite how much he loved me and taking all the necessary steps, he couldn’t continue our relationship. I was devastated but ultimately I was relieved because I knew my gut was right. I should have listened to it sooner.

They're just not making you happy. You're just not happy with them, and you deep down feel you could be happier elsewhere either alone or with someone else. They're a good kind person, a responsible adult etc but they're not "it" for you. This is often considered a trivial reason to end a relationship or marriage but it's such a BIG DEAL.

You should want to be happy and should want them to be happy too! You know when you're not happy. This idea that you should only leave a partnership or friendship because of something deemed "more serious" doesn't feel right to me. One of the hardest things is walking away from someone who is not abusing you, is really good on paper but it just NOT doing it for you because society will always shame people and especially women for leaving because of unhappiness. That inkling feeling underneath of "they might not be it for me", we are taught to just not listen to ourselves.

Not agreeing on where you want to live. I've seen people start a relationship while one or both was living abroad, thinking "we'll figure it out". But actually building a life and having kids somewhere far from your own roots, or just in a place you don't really like, is a lot.

Anything hygiene related  

e.g. doesn't flush the toilet properly / doesn't use bleach and toilet brush. 

You'd be surprised how many have this bad habit.    

Doesn't wipe the shower/bath down.   

If you're going to be filthy, you need to have your own bathroom.  

I know someone that's otherwise outwardly clean, but he would be generally considered quite filthy given certain bad habits..