Women Are Sharing The Scariest Reactions Men Had After Being Rejected (29 Stories)

We asked Jhené what bystanders can do if they see someone feeling uncomfortable or unsafe after having rejected a guy. "Realistically, bystanders must understand that they have the power to help. They can be the line between someone going home safely or losing their life," she told Bored Panda.

"People tend to get scared or feel the need to not intervene. When signs of harassment are present, you have to be aware and ready to help. Something as simple as calling out the person's nasty behavior can be enough to scare them away," she said.

"If your or her safety is at risk, don't hesitate to call the police. Always think about how you'd want someone to be there for you in a situation like that."

According to Jhené, who sparked the online discussion, toxic men have to be aware of the fact that they are toxic first. "Some are oblivious (or pretending to be)," she said.

"I believe that they have to be called out on toxic behavior. You must communicate to them that what they're doing is making you uncomfortable and ask them to stop."

She continued: "One must put their shoes in the feet of others who have been abused or hurt. How would they feel if their mother, sister, aunt, or grandmother were to be harassed and left feeling helpless?"

How you deal with rejection, whether in a romantic or professional setting, says a lot about you and your character. Rejection—like failure—is a part of life, and it’s hardly ever personal. When someone tells you that they’re not interested in your advances, they’re doing so based on first impressions. Folks who are self-aware, respect others, and have confidence in themselves as people will see it as a learning opportunity. They’ll simply accept the rejection, dust themselves off, and move on with their lives. You can’t win ‘em all!

However, someone who has serious self-esteem and entitlement issues is likely to take any rejection as a personal attack on them. They cannot fathom not getting something they want. Instead of accepting the rejection, they might lash out, resort to threats or stalking, or try to change their romantic interest’s opinion through manipulation. This is a nightmare scenario if you’re the one who’s being pursued.

If you are ever scared for your safety or that of your loved ones, immediately contact the authorities. The police will do what they can to protect you from the person threatening you. Meanwhile, you may want to consider getting a restraining order against someone who is stalking you. This shows that you’re in control of the situation: you’re willing to stand up for yourself, and you will not give in to threats or bow down to harassment.

In the meantime, if you’re still feeling unsafe and want to be more empowered, you can always sign up for self-defense classes. You may also want to consider getting some equipment to deter any assailants (e.g., pepper spray if it’s legal in your country). Having the support of a strong community of family, friends, and neighbors is also going to help you feel safe(r). 

What is the very worst reaction you’ve witnessed from someone whom you rejected, dear Pandas? What did they do and how did you react in turn? Have you ever had to deal with a stalker or someone making threats against you? What advice would you give someone who wants to feel safer while dating?

If you’re feeling up to it, feel free to share your experiences in the comment section at the bottom of this post.