Living alone is the ultimate in self-care, no questions needed. Anyone who’s been-there-done-that knows the neverending list of underrated advantages it brings, and if you don’t, be sure to check our previous post about it right here.
This, however, doesn’t imply if a person is in a relationship or not. And although many loners would say that there’s no bigger love than your love for yourself, having a partner can be a real blessing, too. Think of all the couples’ things you can do, little quirks you can share, wholesome moments you can have, and all the romance that accumulates throughout the years.
So in order to find out what it's like having a partner, we looked at this thread on r/AskWomen where people shared their answers to the question “What is the most intimate, non-sex thing you do with your partner?” Turns out that intimacy differs sooo much from one couple to another that we can’t possibly make a universal conclusion, but we can surely say this is wholesome turned up to the max.
#21
Cooking together. Getting close and dancing around each other to get a spice or utensil, or to taste test something. It may sound cheesy, but I think it’s so intimate.
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64points
#22
Let him see some of my OCD rituals that I don't let anyone else see.
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62points
#23
He goes to bed much later than I do, but he puts me to bed every night. I lay my head on his chest and play with his beard while he rubs my head. Then I will usually tell him, "I need some skin," and I will untuck his shirt, and put my hand up inside under his shirt and rub his chest/play with his chest hair as he rubs my head, until I fall asleep. It is my favorite time of the day, by far!
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62points
#24
I have really severe chronic depression that intensifies during the winter months. Sometimes I have days where I’ll spiral into this black hole of fear and hopelessness, and my lover will just hold me as tight as he can and tell me how much he loves me and how it’ll be okay. It helps more than I can express, and it’s so comforting to know that he’s seen me in such a vulnerable state and still continues to love me the same. To me, it’s more intimate than any sexual act could be.
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62points
#25
We just sit in car and go for a long drive and keep quite the whole time while holding hands. That’s it. The feel of being with each other side by side is so beautiful.
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55points
#26
There’s always a few moments before we fall asleep where we’ll just lay together, making eye contact. That may sound strange but it always feels super intimate and in a way that nothing needs to be said out loud. You’re just sharing this moment and know that there’s nowhere else you’d rather be.
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45points
#27
Before I had back surgery a few years ago, the pain was intense I couldn’t get out of bed. My husband had to carry me to the bathtub and wash me and my hair.
I felt so fragile. That was probably the most intimate non-sexual thing I’ve experienced.
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43points
#28
He held my hand while they changed my IUD. I hate it and it was awful. He also made sure I was comfortable after and drove me home. Or was the opposite of sexual but in in a way it kind of was since my sexual/reproductive health can effect his.
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41points
#30
I pluck my husband's eyebrows. He's really insecure with how his eyebrows look and he trusts me enough to style them for him
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30points
