56 Things Men Still Get Totally Wrong About Women

That how we dress or how we present ourselves is for them.

When they think all women are "high maintenance" and it's literally us just spending longer on hygiene.

That women always have loads of friends/support ready to trip over themselves to help if they’re going through a hard time/struggling with their mental health. I wish I was part of this so called mythical world.

That we need them as partners. A man is an option, not a necessity.

That women are dependent on men. This isn't the 50s.

That women are only attracted to the same tiny proportion of conventionally attractive and wealthy men, and we're settling for anyone else because we're not actually attracted to them.


That we will be less attracted to men if they open up to us emotionally.


That every little motion we do is an attempt to "flaunt our assets" and attract men.


And really so many more. The list of dumb misogynistic beliefs is seemingly endless.

That we think if they have a high number of partners they are experienced. They are more likely insecure and put quantity over quality. Also the number is possibly that high because no one came for seconds.

That everything we say is an overreaction. Every word is meaningless, especially if we use those pesky "emotions" to express them.

No, we're just overreacting, over dramatic, too emotional, too sensitive, can't take a joke, or the default response of: ✨️It's not that big of a deal.✨️.

What women mean when they say they want an "experienced" lover.

(The wrong kind of) Men seem to think that sleeping with a bunch of women means they are experienced, but experiencing a bunch of women and being an experienced lover are not the same at all.

What they think we want in a man. It's almost all completely wrong.

That other men are their competition. If we’re “talking,” you’re not competing with other guys. If anything, you’re competing with my peace

I also mean this as in, it’s wildly unattractive when a guy is upset that there happens to be more than one man in my life. I have brothers, I have friends with male partners, I have guy friends(mostly gay, but i had a partner who still didn’t like them because of their abject man-ness). Even if there were a million single guys in my life, I chose YOU, not them.

OK, y'all. The Adderall is kicking in. Let's gooooo.

1⃣ "Women are just after money." I've never heard a dude w money say this; it's always a broke dude. Makes me think they're insecure about their financial situation. Rich dudes are usually sitting around like, "I was told there would be gold diggers?"

2⃣ Closely related is "she divorced me so she could have more money." If both people are of reasonably average income, this makes zero sense. Divorce destroys wealth, so if it looks like she's doing better after the divorce, a lot of the time, that means her unpaid labor was subsidizing his lifestyle.

But I think the main reason men say this is to try to avoid the painful reality that she left bc didn't love him any more. Blaming women feels safer than self-reflection. Like, it feels better to them to think that women as a group marry men so that they can enrich themselves rather than face the much more painful truth: your wife, the person who knew you more intimately than anyone, made the decision that she would be happier without you. That's brutal.

3⃣ "Women get married to 'dependable'/beta men they aren't attracted to." Does this ever happen? Yeah, I'm sure. People settle all the time. But is it the majority of women? No. Is it even a solid portion of women? Again, no. People generally don't marry people they're not attracted to.

Why? Bc in my experience, even dating a guy you're not attracted to feels viscerally wrong. I've actually tried to date a man I wasn't attracted to bc he was objectively perfect on paper--incredibly smart, kind, amazing job, tall, well-traveled, crazy about me--but no dice. Really sweet guy, and whoever married him I'm sure is having a great life rn, but... I couldn't even manage to sleep w him. I could talk w him no problem, but even the idea of sleeping w him felt deeply wrong and honestly a little repulsive... And this feels very much like a woman problem; the guy is perfect, but his vibe is "off" somehow, so your [privates] refuse to cooperate. Y'all think we're being picky, but our attraction system isn't an on/off switch like men's; it's an equation, and if one single thing in the equation is off, the math don't math, the factory shuts down, and everybody goes home.

So, yeah, there is a 0% chance I'd marry anyone like that, and I've heard other women express the same thing. Why would you ever sign yourself up for a lifetime of awkwardness and terrible [intimacy]? I ended up marrying a guy I was (and still am) wildly attracted to and who I personally think is the hottest person I've ever interacted w.

Anyway, I think this is more about men misunderstanding how women experience attraction than about women choosing stability over desire. Men think attraction means “I want to bang them when I see their face,” but women often process attraction as a whole package. What men call “dependability” is often part of what *makes* someone attractive to women (emotional safety, competence, consistency, leadership, decisiveness), not a consolation prize they pick instead of desire.

That women can't problem solve with logic.

That our only value is in our appeal or fertility, that our function is to be cheerful servants and baby factories, or that we're only interested in guys who make a lot of money. It's ridiculous.

That tattoos don’t inherently mean we disrespect ourselves, haven’t got fathers, or are misguided.
Some are ritual, some are meaningful, some aren’t, but they aren’t inherently a mark of promiscuity, low moral values, or anything of the sort.
And the implication they’re not trad/are only a mark of “modern debauchery” that women engage in. There’s so many cultures where tattoos are and always have been a mark of tradition for women.

That we’re black and white creatures. We either want a guy or don’t. They struggle to understand that women may be interested in someone initially and then lose interest after his behaviour ticks us off. They all have this warped messed up ideal where they’re usually just projecting their insecurities that women would be attracted to pretty faces, or ripped bodies, or bank balance, or would want to marry before 30, all of us start wanting babies by a certain age. They can’t comprehend that some of us can absolutely want to marry late and have kids, or want to marry but not have kids, or want to have kids but not marry. Nope. Nuance is where they struggle. We’ve accepted that all humans- men and women alike- are multifaceted beings. They don’t. They’re pretty unidimensional and are bad at listening.

The most infuriating thing is when they think they don’t need to listen to us about likes/dislikes because apparently women lie or don’t know what we want. They’d rather ask other men who give them trashy advice. And yet are shocked when we’re no longer interested because they did exactly the things we already warned them makes us lose interest.

Women are individual humans, with individual thoughts, needs, motivations and actions. Stop asking us what the [hell] a specific woman's words or actions mean.

That we're out to use them/their money or trap them.

That we have it super easy on dating apps when it comes to looking for relationships. As an average looking women, it is quite difficult. Especially when most guys on the apps dont seem to actually want a relationship even if their profile says they dom.

That we’re all after money and financial stability from them. When you tell some incel online that actually, you would just be happy with someone’s time and respect, you’re met with the “yeah right!” response, because they can’t fathom that you’d actually be after something that isn’t materialistic.

I dunno what half these men are worried about anyway, sat up there acting like they’re on premier league footballer salaries or that they actually have any money for us to go after to begin with.