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43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces

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Being a woman can still be incredibly difficult, even in 2025. There are still men out there who feel entitled to say the most vile, inappropriate things to women in public spaces. And the worst part? It happens far too often. 
This reality becomes even clearer as girls on Reddit answered the question: “What’s the creepiest thing a man has ever said to you in public?” From grocery aisles to restaurants, these stories range from awkward to outright chilling. These true stories highlight how uncomfortable and unsafe everyday spaces can feel, just for existing. It’s real, raw, and deeply eye-opening.

#1

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces
“You don’t get a view like that every day!”

I was ten, and bending down to get something off a lower shelf at the grocery store. I was wearing a new lower cut shirt but forgot to wear my training bra that day.

The guy was mid 40s probably. His wife was with him, she looked like she was about to cry. I never wore that shirt again.

I did tell my dad after we left the store. He told me what they guy did was sick and wrong, and that next time something like that happened, tell him immediately.
68points

#2

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces
Had an older man ask me to stir his mixed drink with my finger to make it sweeter. This was at a fancy-ish dinner party my family attended. I was 13, this guy was around 50. He went on to make a joke about me eating a sucker later on, something about "blowing pop". Still makes me nauseous after 20 years.
57points

#3

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces
Strange dude walks up to me and asks me if I use ugly cream. I said no but you obviously do.
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55points

Women continue to face harassment in various environments, including public spaces. In developing countries like India, there has been a noticeable increase in sexual harassment cases occurring in public spaces. This rise correlates with greater female participation in activities outside the home, such as education and employment. As women claim their space in society, they are unfortunately met with resistance in the form of harassment.

In many parts of South Asia, this public harassment is referred to as "eve teasing." It often occurs in crowded settings, such as buses, marketplaces, or busy streets, where women become easy targets for inappropriate comments, gestures, or physical contact. Despite being disturbingly common, it remains a normalized part of everyday life for many women.

#4

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces
I was wearing a Marshall Lee the Vampire King shirt. One old dude told me that he liked my shirt, I said thanks. He then says he likes it because it makes him think about ME biting him. I was shocked. I said nothing. Luckily my friend clapped back and was like "f**k off bro, your wife doesn't even wanna bite you" lol.

Glad I had someone there with me.
53points

#5

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces
I was in 6th grade and had three boys discuss my breasts in front of me like I wasn’t there. The first boy said I stuffed my bra, the second one came up and explained to him how he could know that I didn’t. The third joined in in the explanation of real vs fake like they were looking at a painting on a wall while I sat there flabbergasted at being noticed in that way.


I was 17 and cleaning a window at work(on one knee). Guy, in front of his ~8 yo son- “you like being on your knees?”


It happens a lot more the younger women are, creepy guys know that the older we are the less likely we are to stand for that s**t. So if you’re young- who gives a s**t about being polite? Give them a curled lip, raised eyebrow and a well placed “ew” and watch their faces fall.
48points

#6

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces
At work, was taking off my sweater cause it was too hot in the office. By the time I'd hung my sweater over the back of my chair, a colleague (middle aged, I'm 26) whom I'd only seen a few times and had only said 'good morning' to so far, was standing next to my desk and said, "I'll just wait here to see if she continues." (He was talking to my mentor but looking at me.)

When I, shocked, said, "Excuse me?"

Him: "You're not going to continue?"

Me, incredulous at this point: "No."

Him, smiling: "That's too bad."

After watching him exchange smiles with my mentor, I politely told him that he was very inappropriate and I'd appreciate him not saying things like that again. He said he wouldn't, but that small smile was still on his face like he didn't take it seriously...

The creepiest thing about it was how unfazed both him and my mentor seemed by the whole interaction.
48points

Legal action against eve-teasing exists, but it is often weak, inconsistent, or poorly enforced. Victims may be discouraged from reporting due to fear of retaliation, societal shame, or lack of trust in the system. As a result, perpetrators go unpunished, and the cycle of public harassment continues unchecked. 

And it's not just an issue limited to developing countries. Across the world, women continue to face lewd comments, unsolicited remarks, and uncomfortable advances, even in well-known, tourist-friendly areas. Public spaces that should feel safe and welcoming often become zones of unease. Whether it's a busy street in a major city or a crowded beach abroad, many women report feeling constantly on guard. The global nature of this issue reflects a deep-rooted problem that goes beyond borders, cultures, or economic status.

#7

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces
I was in Paris at a Christmas market and a guy came up to me and told me I was very beautiful. Before I could say anything back, he said, "You know, I've been following you for awhile and saw your friends walk away from you. I could kidnap you so quick, they would never see you again." Then he laughs, and my friend, who was only like eight feet away and heard this exchange, pulls my arm and we start fast-walking away. We cut down so many alleys, popped in and out of shops, and got on different trains since it was nearly impossible to know if he was still following us.

ETA: there were three of us and while we really have no idea if he had actually been following us for awhile, we assume he had been around long enough to know we spoke English, since he didn't approach me speaking French.
37points

#8

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces
Had a strange old man ask my 3 year old if she wanted to go home with him.
35points

#9

I was wearing my horse back riding clothes. He held the door for me and said "You can ride me!" when I kept walking into the store ignoring him he screamed after me "Hey B***h! I SAID YOU COULD RIDE ME". This is why we can't have nice things people.
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35points

According to ResearchGate, incidents of verbal and physical harassment in public areas have not received the level of attention they warrant, especially when it comes to women. This oversight highlights the urgent need for more awareness and intervention on street-level harassment.

But it’s not just strangers women have to be wary of, data reveals that harassment often comes from people they know. Whether it’s colleagues, acquaintances, family members, or intimate partners, many women report experiencing inappropriate behavior or abuse within familiar circles. This makes the situation even more complex and painful, as trust is breached in environments that are supposed to feel safe.

#10

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces
Man in club came up to me and said, "just thought I should let you know that you have great birthing hips.".
34points

#11

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces
“You’re gonna get spanking” in a sing song tone. I was working at a mom and pop burger joint and made a silly mistake. I was 19 at the time, the dude in question was 60/70. When I got embarrassed he acted proud of himself and stated “look how red she’s turning!”.
33points

#12

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces
I worked at a truck stop and needed a driver to sign something, but didn’t have a pen. He was a super gross old fat guy, missing quite a bit of teeth. He said that I could borrow his pen, but then I’d have to get in his truck with him. He was going to lock the doors and I wasn’t allowed to get out. I recoiled in horror as he gave me the most disturbing smile. The thought of raping me and telling me about the fantasy truly made his day.
33points

According to the World Health Organization (WHO), an estimated 736 million women, nearly one in three, have experienced physical and/or sexual violence by an intimate partner, non-partner, or both at least once in their lifetime. This staggering figure, which represents 30% of women aged 15 and older, does not include instances of sexual harassment.

#13

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces
Not so much what was said at first, but the _insistence_ (and continuing to walk with me on my route for like 20 minutes) that I _must_ save his email address. Words alone are creepy on occasion, but it's the absolute worst when there's an element of being trapped.
31points

#14

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces
“If I was in my twenties, you’d be in trouble!” Said a creepy elderly man to me at a gas station after asking my age.

I was very, very, VERY uncomfortable.

ETA: I just want to say I’m so sorry for all of you who commented experiencing something similar or worse (from a family member and at a young age). It’s disgusting the things some grown men say/do to children and women. I’m glad all of you have the courage to open up about these experiences. ❤️.
31points

#15

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces
I was on a tram once, a man (who looked like he was either high or drunk) came over to me and looked at my feet (I was wearing sandals) he then said "can I please hold your foot" and after I said no he quickly grabbed hold of my foot. It was horrifying.
30points

The majority of violence against women is perpetrated by someone they know, most often a current or former husband or intimate partner. More than 640 million women aged 15 and older, or 26%, have suffered abuse at the hands of a partner.

Adolescent girls are particularly vulnerable. By the age of 19, nearly one in four (24%) girls who have been in a relationship report experiencing physical, sexual, or psychological abuse by a partner, highlighting the early and lasting impact of intimate partner violence.

#16

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces
“When you’re 18 I’m going to take you to Europe,” said my Grade 8 teacher.
29points

#17

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces
I was once stalked by a man who worked in the store that was next to mine and he had told me that he made his Skyrim character to look like me.
28points

#18

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces
“Merry Christmas, baby” while grabbing my a*s in Times Square. It was the summer.
26points

Women with disabilities face even greater risk. They report higher rates of all forms of intimate partner violence compared to women without disabilities. A recent review confirmed a strong connection between disability and increased exposure to abuse. In the European Union, studies show that women with disabilities, especially those with limited income, are at significantly higher risk of experiencing violence.

#19

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces
Told me to smile more coz it makes him and his "little buddy" happy.
25points

#20

43 Times Men Forgot Basic Decency In Public Spaces
This was a guy who had found my Facebook in about half a second (I have no idea how, people I want to give it to can't find it without my help): "so uh how does s*x work for you? Does it hurt you? How do you do it?"


He'd found out I was disabled and decided this was an excellent and appropriate conversation piece.
25points
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