Sometimes love is blinding. We put up with people who are often not quite as good as our feelings would want them to be. It can take a lot of time, but everyone has a breaking point. So someone asked women in a one-sided relationship “What was your lightbulb moment it was time to end the relationship?”
From overcoming guilt to truly weaponized incompetence, netizens shared their personal breaking points when it comes to downright useless partners. So get comfortable as you read through, upvote your favorites, and share your own experiences in the comments section below.
#41
When you realize you are better off without them a they add nothing
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75points
#42
When my STBXH told me I was replaceable, and when he told me “you make less money, so you deserve to do more.”
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74points
#43
I was away for a couple of months, about a month in I cried on the phone with him because I missed him, and all I wanted was to know I wasn't alone in this, that he missed me too.
He got angry and said I'm asking too much of him. So he stopped talking to me, cuz I was upset he didn't miss me.
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69points
#44
When he told me that I’ve done nothing to show my love for him, even though I was the one constantly making him feel validated and fully supported financially.
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69points
#45
We were married for six years, and I was just blind, maybe not willing to give up on the marriage. It didn't go downhill right away, he just got more and more lazy during the years, leaving all the chores for me (I also had a full-time job). Luckily, we didn't have kids. Trying to talk to him did nothing. The lightbulb moment: I guess it happened when I came across a guy who was kind to me and thought of my needs (unlike my ex). It wasn't at all easy to admit to myself that the marriage was over. I broke down because I had been ignoring my feelings for so long.
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68points
#46
He called me a "hypocrite feminist" one too many times.
But it never actually occurred to me that the balance of the meal planning/housework was tipped in his favor until much later. While I was in a relationship with him it was more like a gut feeling that something was off.
What happened was that I left for Germany to do my PhD (questionable decision, I'm not sure I regret it or not), but he was really negative the whole time. He wanted us to stay in Romania (=home country) and was telling me to come back and give up at every chance he got until I just stopped talking to him about it completely. Then we broke up because of the distance.
And à few months after being single in a different country, I just sort of realized that my work load at home didn't change. I was equally as busy as I used to be when I lived with him. Then I started talking to some people and figured out what the b did.
When we split the house work, he chose things that seem difficult but aren't done as often. For instance, he was in charge of cleaning the floors, which happens once a week, and I was in charge of cleaning the dishes, which happens way more often. And whenever he was in charge of the food situation, he would just bring some food from his aunt (who cooked with lard... à lot of lard...). So every time I would find the food gross, I wouldn't eat it and I would do something else to eat just cuz I didn't want to starve. And, of course because I'm such a kind idiot, I would prepare some for him as well.
We literally talked about splitting the food duties in half and this guy would almost always find a way out of it.
And these situations were what I would complain about or just be too tired to do anything about it and just leave my "chores" undone. So he would get upset with me and call me a "hypocrite feminist" for pushing stuff onto him. He would say things like "if you don't want me to treat you like a woman in the past, then don't treat me like a woman either". But, of course, he would also pretend like women in the past weren't treated badly...
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60points
#47
Lots of little things… but really cemented everything when I was trying to have a conversation (he didn’t talk much) and I really wanted to talk and have an actual conversation and he told me how I “didn’t give him much to work with” 🙄
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60points
#48
Simple: He didn’t want to go to a museum with me. It was the straw that broke the camel's back, after all that happened. He likes to tell people that’s why I left him...not all the other issues we had.
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50points
#49
Our sex life practically vanished and people in my life started to open my eyes to just how bad the relationship was. I wasn’t perfect in it by any means and should’ve left a lot sooner, but Jesus Christ it was such a miserable relationship with so many unwarranted hardships and so much emotional turmoil.
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49points
#50
When he told me I should tell him what he should do that would make me happy? I mean if YOU on your OWN cannot think of single thing that would be able make me feel prioritised in your life and want ME to tell you even THAT. Then sorry bye!
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21points
