Some folks prioritize looking for red flags in their romantic relationships and nowhere else. Unfortunately, someone’s bad qualities don’t just come out if you are trying to get a second date. Making friends with someone who refuses to be normal can be just as bad.
A netizen posted “What are the red flags you notice in women as a “woman”?” and people shared their best examples, from ageism to acting incompetent for attention. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites and be sure to add your own stories and experiences to the comments down below.
#41
Women who change their opinion when a man voices his, or women who talk like a baby or a little girl cause they think it's attractive to men. Last one gives me the heebie jeebies.
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#42
Being too sugary sweet. I've got a pretty solid b******t-radar and every time I've come across women like that it's turned out they were terrible people.
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#43
"Boys will be boys" or some s**t like that. Boys will be held accountable to their actions.
In a similar vein, "he's teasing you because he likes you / because he wants to get a reaction out of you". That to me just reads as "sorry sweetie, but it's easier for us to make you put up with it than to teach him to behave".
Especially as a transfem I find it so baffling how un-feministic some women can be, like, would they also deny themselves the right to vote some 100 years ago if they didn't take it for given as it (luckily) is today?
In a similar vein, "he's teasing you because he likes you / because he wants to get a reaction out of you". That to me just reads as "sorry sweetie, but it's easier for us to make you put up with it than to teach him to behave".
Especially as a transfem I find it so baffling how un-feministic some women can be, like, would they also deny themselves the right to vote some 100 years ago if they didn't take it for given as it (luckily) is today?
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#44
A woman that claims to be a girls girl but doesn’t hesitate to vote away the rights of women and girls. Absolutely not to be trusted.
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#45
-An obvious change in their behavior the moment a man is around them. It’s so disgusting.
-being a girl’s girl as long as you’re not better than them be it looks, smarts or anything else that you can think of.
-backhanded compliments
-being friends and close with EVERYONE. You simply can’t be friendly with every single person unless you’re a hypocrite. I will d*e on that hill
-performative politeness. I HATE ts….
-being a girl’s girl as long as you’re not better than them be it looks, smarts or anything else that you can think of.
-backhanded compliments
-being friends and close with EVERYONE. You simply can’t be friendly with every single person unless you’re a hypocrite. I will d*e on that hill
-performative politeness. I HATE ts….
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#46
Always defending a man. Or saying things like “that’s just how men are”.
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#47
This one might seem oddly specific - appearing to be woke, educating yourself about socio economic topics etc but treating girls in your peer group horribly. And have almost no close girlfriends .
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#48
I cannot fail to notice women who think they need to perform in order to be liked. They'll either serve in order to be accepted/liked ("Oh, you need your dog taken to the groomer? I'll do that for you person I just met a week ago!") or don't stand up for themselves or refuse to state their own needs or whatever.
GIRL STOP! Take up space. Quit setting yourself on fire to keep others warm. People cannot be bribed into liking you.
I don't notice it in men. I think that's just because I was raised as a woman so don't recognize how men raised as men do their version.
GIRL STOP! Take up space. Quit setting yourself on fire to keep others warm. People cannot be bribed into liking you.
I don't notice it in men. I think that's just because I was raised as a woman so don't recognize how men raised as men do their version.
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#49
Constant competition and comparison when it isn’t appropriate. It burned me out of working in certain industries like animal rescue and elementary and special ed. It’s so draining. And it makes me feel bad for the women who feel compelled to do this, why can’t we all just relax lol.
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#50
Princess treatment. Some women out there, like a couple women I know, expect their man to do everything for them. I’m talking about always putting food on their plate, refilling their water, paying for them, etc. Yes it’s nice to be taken care of but you’re basically infantilizing yourself or treating your partner like a s***e.
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#51
Every time I’ve come across a girl who constantly posts stories with a group of 4–5 guys where she’s the only girl, she somehow turns out to be a pick me in real life 😭. And I’ve noticed that even when she does post her female friends, if she’s always the only girl standing between 2–3 guys, I get the same vibe. I don’t know how to explain it, but somehow I’ve noticed this pattern way too many times.
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#52
Any woman upon meeting you who blows you tf up. Especially in virtual settings but also IRL settings if you have clout. Any woman who does that constantly and also fails to acknowledge others in the same space is a red flag.
Those who can’t share a platform and feel overshadowed by the mere presence of another female. Instead of perhaps seeing her as a potential friend or someone who could be of benefit somehow, they recoil at the sight of you and may pretend to engage with bland small talk.
Women who cannot genuinely celebrate the success of another woman even if that success has fuckall to do with her. Be wary of those women who cannot stand your wins and would rather steer clear of you and your success, perhaps even going so far as talk s**t about you and belittle your achievement or good fortune.
Women who are insecure POS when it comes to their male straight friends. The OPPOSITE are women who pose no threat to any of their mates relationships because they know to be respectful and they’re not the “captain save a bro” type. And also on this type of women, those women who bat fod.
Those who can’t share a platform and feel overshadowed by the mere presence of another female. Instead of perhaps seeing her as a potential friend or someone who could be of benefit somehow, they recoil at the sight of you and may pretend to engage with bland small talk.
Women who cannot genuinely celebrate the success of another woman even if that success has fuckall to do with her. Be wary of those women who cannot stand your wins and would rather steer clear of you and your success, perhaps even going so far as talk s**t about you and belittle your achievement or good fortune.
Women who are insecure POS when it comes to their male straight friends. The OPPOSITE are women who pose no threat to any of their mates relationships because they know to be respectful and they’re not the “captain save a bro” type. And also on this type of women, those women who bat fod.
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#53
Women who only ever talk about themselves and when you try to change the subject, they always find a backdoor way to turn the conversation back onto them. 🙄.
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#54
Oh absolutely. The women who will stand in a circle facing everybody but the woman who's left out and actively ignore her, causing insecurities that lead to the behaviors /uncomfortably mentioned at the top of the thread
That, and weaponizing self-care.
That, and weaponizing self-care.
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#55
Women who will take up hours of your time complaining about their dates, but also place these men in pedestals. They take genuine concern about their bf/potential bf as criticism. Suddenly you’re a bad friend to them.
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#56
I dropped a friend because she had almost exclusively guy friends and participated in this really gross dynamic where women who entered their circle or hit on “her” friends were mocked and humiliated. It was basically locker-room behavior directed at women.
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#57
A woman who says she's not a feminist and treats it as a bad word.
A woman who changes her name after marriage.
A woman who wants princess treatment without any desire to treat her partner with similar consideration. Nothing wrong with wanting princess treatment, but I judge when she just expects to receive and give little back (like treating her partner gently, caring for their needs as well, etc.).
A woman who says she doesn't have many girlfriends, finds women catty, or thinks there's only room for one woman at the table.
A woman who hates all men. Someone who doesn't have the ability to discern that most are problematic, but we can't write off half of humanity either like they often do to us.
A woman who reduces every feminist critique down to "it's okay if it's my choice" without thinking about how her choices are crafted by the society around her.
A woman who changes her name after marriage.
A woman who wants princess treatment without any desire to treat her partner with similar consideration. Nothing wrong with wanting princess treatment, but I judge when she just expects to receive and give little back (like treating her partner gently, caring for their needs as well, etc.).
A woman who says she doesn't have many girlfriends, finds women catty, or thinks there's only room for one woman at the table.
A woman who hates all men. Someone who doesn't have the ability to discern that most are problematic, but we can't write off half of humanity either like they often do to us.
A woman who reduces every feminist critique down to "it's okay if it's my choice" without thinking about how her choices are crafted by the society around her.
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#58
If they leave you to make your own way home after a night out drinking and you went out together.
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#59
S**t shaming to any degree is an instant out for me, but especially if it’s comments made towards another woman whose actual s****l history is completely unknown based on her speaking to men frequently or wearing revealing clothes.
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#60
Women who never like their brother or son's partners. Yucky. If I don't like my son's gf he will never know it because it won't run her off, it'll run him off.
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