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Of course, choosing a partner is definitely a two-way street, and each person has their own criteria for finding the ideal - or close to ideal - person to live with. One of the most comprehensive studies on this topic ever was conducted in 2018, by the University of Gottingen together with MyONE Condoms. The survey included 68,068 people from 180 countries around the world.
And so, according to the study results, among the main features that interest women when choosing a long-term partner were their kindness, supportiveness, intelligence and education. As for men, kindness also confidently takes first place, followed by supportiveness, ethnic similarity and intelligence. As you can see, the main factors almost always coincide for men and women. But what's more interesting is how different the criteria are when it comes to short-term partnerships...
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That and a good sense of humor, especially dark humor :D
So, speaking of short-term partners, among women in this survey the leader is 'attractive face', then kindness and confidence. For men, accordingly, the most important factors here are 'attractive body' and 'attractive face' - that is, mainly physical features. Yes, the criteria vary greatly, but sometimes it happens that short-term relationships develop into long-term ones - and then we desperately wonder why the person with whom it was so good at the beginning turns out to be completely different in the long run...
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Having a good talk with a woman has always been a huge turn on for me. I never understood clubbing hookups, doesn’t give me anything, drunk people are a mess…
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“In fact, all these criteria that people love to talk about are all great, but often things don’t work like that at all,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist from Ukraine, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment here . "You always need to remember two things. First, we are not choosing a new car or smartphone, and in the case of relationships, all impeccable logical reasonings often go straight to hell. Secondly, it can always happen that the perfect match, as it seems from our side, doesn’t look like that at all from the side of a possible partner.”
“Some writer... unfortunately, I don’t remember who exactly, once wrote a wise phrase that our psyche is nothing more than an accidental coating on the endocrine glands. So everything we think about and logically justify when we are asked about choosing a partner can always be thrown aside as soon as we feel that very incredible feeling... In the end, love does not ask us when to come,” Irina summarizes.
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However, it is always interesting to read what criteria people use when choosing partners - even if these are just words. Or just beautiful words. We choose, we are chosen... how often this does not coincide, and yet we do think this list is pretty interesting to read and discuss. So please feel free to scroll the selection to its very end, and share your own ideas in the comments as well - because we are always very interested in hearing your opinion!
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