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I am not going to rein in my intellect to protect your ego. Either pick up a book or shut up.
#2
I'm an engineer, I design them for a living. This was a raised bed, no more than 0.3m high, on a foundation, holding back some soil. There was nothing to fail and shockingly, almost 5 years later, nothing has moved even 1mm.
When we split up and I bought his half of the house from him, when in an argument I was telling him what a piece of trash he was for making the whole process so protracted and difficult, he legitimately said to me 'you have no idea how stressful and expensive it is buying a house'. Matey, I've bought the same one twice, the first time you did nothing and the second time you've been too busy with your side piece to realise you'll be homeless in a week.
The most dangerous type of idiot is the one who has no idea just how stupid they are.
#3
15 years later, he still lives at home with his parents. Not saying financial literacy is the reason why….
Often, in relationships, red flags tend to show up early, making them easier to spot. Maybe they’re rude to servers, dismissive in conversations, or constantly talking over you. Those signs tend to show up quickly and clearly. But figuring out whether someone is…let’s say, not the brightest? That’s a slower reveal. It doesn’t hit you all at once. Instead, it shows up in small, confusing moments: odd conclusions, questionable decisions, or things they say with full confidence that make you pause and think, wait…what? And before you know it, those little moments start adding up to a much bigger realization.
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I was speechless.
Now, technically speaking, one way to measure intelligence is through IQ (Intelligence Quotient). But let’s be real; you can’t exactly pull out a clipboard mid-date and say, “Before we order dessert, quick IQ check?” That’s not how any of this works. In real life, you don’t get a neat score or a warning label. You figure things out gradually, through conversations, shared experiences, and sometimes…through situations that leave you staring into the distance, questioning your life choices.
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For context, IQ is a standardized score derived from tests that measure cognitive abilities like reasoning, problem-solving, memory, and spatial awareness. It compares how someone performs relative to others in the same age group. A score of 100 is considered average, meaning most people fall somewhere around that range. Scores above that suggest stronger analytical or reasoning abilities, while lower scores may indicate difficulty in certain cognitive areas. But even then, it’s important to remember that this is just one way of measuring intelligence; not the whole picture.
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Researchers have also tried to understand how IQ varies across different parts of the world. A 2019 study by Richard Lynn and David Becker at the Ulster Institute suggested that Japan ranks among the highest in average IQ, with Taiwan and Singapore close behind. These findings often spark debate, but they do highlight how intelligence trends can vary across populations based on a wide range of factors.
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And I had to intentionally use easy words when we spoke otherwise he’d get confused.
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Other data sources, like World Population Review, echo similar patterns, pointing to regions such as Hong Kong, South Korea, Taiwan, and Japan as having a relatively higher average IQ scores. Countries like Australia, Russia, New Zealand, Singapore, Vietnam, Canada, and the UK also tend to rank among the higher averages. But again, these numbers don’t exist in a vacuum—they reflect broader social, educational, and economic contexts rather than defining individuals.
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When psychologists talk about intelligence, they don’t treat it as a single trait. Instead, they often divide it into two main types: crystallized and fluid intelligence. Crystallized intelligence is everything you’ve learned over time: your knowledge, vocabulary, and accumulated skills. It’s what helps you recall facts, understand language, and apply learned information. Fluid intelligence, on the other hand, is your ability to think logically in new situations, solve unfamiliar problems, and adapt on the spot without relying on prior knowledge.
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^(both of them were idiots).
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He was going to take $15,000 and use that as a 10% downpayment to buy a $150,000 house that was in bad shape. He was then going to flip that house, doing all of the work himself, and sell it for $400,000. He estimated he could do this work for about $20,000, which he would take from the mortgage. He would then have $385,000 in his pocket because he had only spent $15,000.
He assumed his mother would be fine getting the mortgage with him because he was unemployed. He planned to get a loan to get that initial $15,000. He did not have any knowledge in building or renovating houses other than having taken woodshop in high school. He also believed that mortgages were attached to the property, not the person, so that if he sold the house, he would just get the full cash value of the sale and the mortgage would transfer to the new owners.
He refused to believe anyone who tried to tell him otherwise. There are certain things I can't fault him for, but his absolute refusal to be budged that this wasn't how things worked was what really solidified it for me.