We like to share our opinions. And if it’s a review of something we just bought or a recommendation for a movie or a restaurant, that’s perfectly fine. However, there are moments when it’s better to keep our thoughts to ourselves, and not everyone seems to be able to draw that line.
Last week, Reddit user BowlerOk1871 asked women online to share a comment someone had made about their body in passing that they never forgot. The thousands of replies they received highlight just how comfortable society is with commenting on a woman’s appearance. Sadly, as the stories show, more often than not, these remarks leave scars rather than smiles.
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#21
Walking down a street one day, some guy says to me, "Nice face, lose the weight". That was over 40 years ago.
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#22

My friend's nan once said to me: "You've got fat. Oh no, I mean, you've had your hair cut"
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#23
A bus driver said he liked my legs. I have the wrong kind of Scandinavian ancestors and those trunks are STURDY, but I guess he appreciated a girl he couldn’t easily run over.
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#24
I have a lot of negative ones that I could share, but I'll go with one that wasn't. 10 years ago a friend said I have beautiful shoulders, and as silly as that sounds, it completely changed the way I percieve my body. It made me realize that there *are* parts of it that look genuinely good and that people appreciate, and that I had been so hyperfocused on my not-so-attractive features that I never even noticed there might be some to appreciate as well.
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#25

Wanted to get my nose pierced, mum said “no you don’t want to draw attention to that nose”.
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#26

I was in sixth grade and I remember clear as day looking at my Mom to smile at her. In front of multiple people she said “Yeah, you need your eyebrows and mustache waxed”
I was a little girl in freaking sixth grade - I was insecure and awkward enough without that comment.
Tore my self confidence up.
I was a little girl in freaking sixth grade - I was insecure and awkward enough without that comment.
Tore my self confidence up.
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#27
I was trying to recover from an eating disorder. My then boyfriend laughed, poked at my stomach and called it my snackpack. So yeah, relapsed right then
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#28
I was 18 my sister was pregnant with her first and she had gained about 70lbs, I had just lost almost 70lbs. I had gotten to my goal of 135lbs size 5 pants. My sister was hormonal and crashing out to my mom. She was upset that she had gained and I was losing. My sister was always the tall, thin, blonde attractive one. When she was crying about it my mom said "you'll lose the weight and you'll always be the pretty one". I know my mom didn't mean it that way as she's the type to say anything needed if fix a problem. I'm 40 and still think about it.
She was right, she lost all the weight, I gained some back (I gave up after hearing that).
She was right, she lost all the weight, I gained some back (I gave up after hearing that).
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#29
“I like your hair better straight” - traumatizing curly-haired girls everywhere. Disappointed in myself for staying with that boyfriend another year when it was clear he didn’t love my authentic self.
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#30
My mother had knitted me a jumper - it was the 70’s - but it was brown and green horizontal stripes. The first day I wore it, she said to my grandma ‘she looks like a little fat bumble bee in it, but never mind’.
It was the first and last time I wore it and she kept asking me why I wasn’t wearing it…. I was 9 yo. Now 59F.
It was the first and last time I wore it and she kept asking me why I wasn’t wearing it…. I was 9 yo. Now 59F.
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#31
In 5th grade I was eating lunch with a girl who randomly said “you’re fat”. I instinctively said “no I’m not?” to which she doubled down and said it again. I stopped eating my lunch and threw it in the trash. My perspective on my appearance was forever altered.
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#32
In 7th grade a boy called me "chisel chin". I had never seen a sideways view of my face, but you can be sure I looked in the mirror very carefully that night. My chin is (or was, since that was decades ago) indeed a bit chisel-ish. But the thing was, I didn't think it was ugly. I don't know why it didn't bother me, because at that age everything did. However, I never forgot it, and I can still recall exactly where it happened.
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#33
In college I went to my first gyn appointment to get birth control. The doctor said she wanted to run some labs. She said she could tell by looking at me that I had PCOS because I had a "basketball belly." And since that's how men gain weight, not women, it was a sign of high testosterone.
I did indeed have PCOS. But what an *awful* way to diagnose anyone, especially a 19 year old who hasn't even finished her first quarter of college.
I did indeed have PCOS. But what an *awful* way to diagnose anyone, especially a 19 year old who hasn't even finished her first quarter of college.
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#34
I was on holiday in Hong Kong about 30 years ago. I was a size 14 UK size, at one of the markets, one of the women shook her head and me and said ‘no no no’. When I looked confused she said ‘we have no clothes here for a fat lady like you’.
I mean she was right all the clothes were tiny, but ….
I mean she was right all the clothes were tiny, but ….
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#35
I was a year younger than the kids in my grade, and where I live at the time you had elementary school split from high school, so grade 7 was elementary then you were in high school in grade 8, no middle. I hit grade 8 at 12 years old and immediately was targeted by the girls in school. Gym class I recall specifically. I was asked why I hadn't shaved my disgusting legs. I was 12.
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#36
There's a little circle bone in your wrist. In 7th grade, someone told me the reason I couldn't see mine is because I was fat.
I still look for that bone subconsciously.
I still look for that bone subconsciously.
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#37
I sent a pic to a guy friend years back of my dog that was snuggling with me. My arm was around him. My friend saw the arm and said it looked like it should be on a corpse.
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#38
Someone I was seeing told me I had a "grandma face" and started laughing while claiming it was a compliment. Things went south but we somehow rematched on Tinder a year later. The moment I saw who it was I blocked them. I still feel bad for anyone who has to look at me.
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#39
My mother would say keep your weight down, you’ll get broad shoulders. After her menopause she started to put on some weght. Her shoulders are broader than mine.
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