Society tends to want to look at a sanitized, āperfectā version of reality on social media. However, life is anything but. And if you want the truth, the real truth, youāve got to be prepared to see all the various shades of it without shying away.
American author, motivational speaker, and body positivity advocate January Harshe created the Take Back Postpartum page as a way to show the reality of giving birth and life after pregnancy. The raw photos and candid stories are a true testament to the strength of women, their unwavering love for their children, and the relationship that they have with their bodies after giving birth. Truth is beautiful. And Take Back Postpartum doesnāt shy away from this. Not from the scars. Nor from the postpartum bellies.
Take a look at the powerful stories about pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum life, as shared by the Take Back Postpartum project on Instagram. Meanwhile, when youāre done reading the article, we invite you to take a look at Bored Pandaās earlier post about the project right over here.
#1
"I would like to share my photo on your page of me breastfeeding my son on my wedding day. This picture is very important to me because at the age of 22 so many people doubted me and said I would give up on breastfeeding and here I am 4 months later and still going strong. I enjoy nursing my son and I made sure when I chose my wedding dress I would be able to nurse throughout my entire night. And I was able to. So I just want to share with women that no matter who doubts you or who turns their noses up to breastfeeding that it can be done. No one should make them feel embarrassed about feeding their child in the most natural way."
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#2
How is this considered ugly? This is #Motherhood. My story, marked (literally) all over my abdomen. This is what two healthy babies and two miscarriages in 11 years looks like for me.
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#3
āThis is me one day after giving birth. Belly still swollen from extra fluid, stretched skin and muscles, and a uterus that had grown to the max. I was prepared for that.
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One week later, I left Cubby with my mother. I needed to get out of the house and he was sleeping, so it was better for him to stay. My first solo trip. And just as I was about to enter the Target, I had this overwhelming wave of emotion that I was so very much not prepared for.
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I was totally alone.
I started crying.
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One week later, I left Cubby with my mother. I needed to get out of the house and he was sleeping, so it was better for him to stay. My first solo trip. And just as I was about to enter the Target, I had this overwhelming wave of emotion that I was so very much not prepared for.
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I was totally alone.
I started crying.
For ten months, Iād carried this soul inside me. Felt my baby kick, laughed and talked and sung to him. We ate together, we slept together, we were completely and utterly one.
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And now I was walking into the Target all by myself with my round postpartum belly but with no baby in it. .
I felt empty.
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I would reach down absentmindedly to touch my belly, to have that connection Iād once felt but that squishy belly was far from the one Iād had just a week prior that was bursting with life.
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The belly never bothered me.
The loneliness did.
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Some people will say that having a baby is like having a piece of your heart outside your body.
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Not for me. I never really notice my heart.
For me it felt more like a limb was missing, like I had forgotten to put on clothes, or that feeling when you canāt find your wallet. I was exposed and vulnerable.
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Watching that belly fade was like losing a memory.
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Maybe thatās why nature wants us to keep our young close, why they so perfectly curve into us when we hold them, why we feel like something is off when they arenāt around.
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Just maybe itās so that at least a little bit of that memory remains.ā
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And now I was walking into the Target all by myself with my round postpartum belly but with no baby in it. .
I felt empty.
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I would reach down absentmindedly to touch my belly, to have that connection Iād once felt but that squishy belly was far from the one Iād had just a week prior that was bursting with life.
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The belly never bothered me.
The loneliness did.
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Some people will say that having a baby is like having a piece of your heart outside your body.
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Not for me. I never really notice my heart.
For me it felt more like a limb was missing, like I had forgotten to put on clothes, or that feeling when you canāt find your wallet. I was exposed and vulnerable.
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Watching that belly fade was like losing a memory.
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Maybe thatās why nature wants us to keep our young close, why they so perfectly curve into us when we hold them, why we feel like something is off when they arenāt around.
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Just maybe itās so that at least a little bit of that memory remains.ā
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January, the founder of Take Back Postpartum and a mother to six children, is also behind the Birth Without Fear project. The latter provides information about pregnancy, childbirth, postpartum, and motherhood. The Birth Without Fear project was founded back in 2010 as a Facebook page. Three years after that, it grew to encompass conferences, meetups, and gatherings around the United States.
Meanwhile, in 2015, January founded the body-positivity Take Back Postpartum Instagram page. Two years later, the founder then went on to create a podcast with her husband, Brandon.
#4
This is postpartum. At first glance, my negative self talk thinks this is probably the most unflattering picture ever taken of me. I see double chins, a belly that looks like it still houses a baby, stretch marks, cellulite, and a whole lot of extra weight. Push that self deprecating talk aside, and this photo captured by my adoring husband, seriously gives me all the feels. _ I have never felt more like a fierce and strong warrior mama princess than in these first few postpartum minutes and hours (yep, even with the giant adult diaper) Growing and birthing a tiny human is such a raw, transforming, utterly miraculous act, and I can hardly believe how strong and amazing my body is. And this little human we created, oh my! The overwhelming love! Utterly mind blowing! _ Women are truly amazing (men, are pretty great too), and we should never doubt our strength and power or let negative self talk make us feel like any less of the goddesses we are!
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#5
5 weeks Postpartum! No snap back here ladies. Just stretch marks, 5 finger diastasis, and a heart full of love. After 5 weeks, I still look 4 months pregnant and Iām still a bit sore from 2 ecv's and an emergency c-section. I have been eating well and will be starting physio soon once I get the all clear from the GP. Women are amazing and everyone recovers differrently from their unique delivery experience, what matters most is that cute little face that we get to call our own.
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#6
{Postpartum} āLiving in the newborn haze of sleep deprivation, unmade beds, pjs all day, too much tv, millions of nappies and breastfeeding.all.day. Iāve been so honest with you all through my pregnancy jouney, and I wanted to continue to be honest after. I donāt want people to think Iāve just bounced back (lol) or suddenly to hide myself away - why should I share photos of my big bump and be proud of it, then suddenly become ashamed as soon as the baby is out?Ā As a society, we are so conditioned to hide our postpartum bodies, to be ashamed of loose skin and stretch marks and saggy bellies and breasts. Theres so much pressure to bounce back, suck it in, cover it up... But the stupidest part is that most of us have it, to some degree or another!! So why the hell are we all hiding away - fear of judgement? We should be proud of our bodies that grew, nourished and birthed our precious babies, and continue to feed them once theyāre out. ā _ I would be lying if I said I loved the way my body looks now, but Iām ok with it. Carrying two very large babies, gaining and losing 33kg then gaining another 25kg and having 2 c cections (which by the way - I had no idea about the C-section tum until I got it ) has left me with lots of loose skin, more stretch marks than Iād ever imagined and a bellybutton that is unrecognizable. _ But Iām not out to try and āget my body backā... why? Because it never bloody went anywhere!! It was here the whole time, growing humans - Iām pretty sure I should be giving it a damn break not punishing it when itās done so much for me. Plus, right now I just want to eat when Iām hungry (which is ALL the time) take it slow and enjoy this precious time, because it will be over in the blink of an eye!ā
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Roughly 80 percent of new moms suffer from the so-called baby blues for a few days or a week after giving birth. This usually includes feeling sad, anxious, and fatigued, according to Psychology Today. However, around 15 percent of women fall prey to postpartum depression which can have very serious consequences if left untreated.
The symptoms of postpartum depression include overwhelming feelings of sadness hopelessness, and irritability, finding it difficult to bond with the baby, and feeling incapable of taking care of the newborn. Whatās more, postpartum depression can also lead to thoughts of self-harm or harming the baby, sleeping too much or too little, as well as withdrawing from family and friends.
#7
I tried to find a perfectly posed photo of me breastfeeding Charlie with my hair all nice and face done, but I quickly realized that it didn't exist. No makeup and unshowered, sweaty from sporadic hot flashes, and so frickin hungry ALL THE TIME. That's my truth. Breastfeeding has been my favorite part of mommyhood so far. So happy I get to experience this with my daughter and so blessed for the support I've gotten along this journey.Ā
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#8
āI was a brand new mama. I had a beautiful birth, a healthy daughter, a supportive husband, family and friends. People brought meals and gifts for weeks. Everything was perfect.
And I got postpartum depression.
Those days and weeks were dark. I smiled when people came over, but I was sad, distant, and apathetic. I held Birdie because I had to. I cried all the time. We would spend evenings in silence while I stared off into nothing. I had horrible anxiety, and could hardly leave the house or get off the couch. I would apologize to Birdie because she got me for her mama. I thought she deserved a better one. Had she ever seen me smile? Did she feel loved? I felt guilt and shame, because shouldnāt this be the best time in my life? I would look at her perfect little face, and beg God not to let me miss it all. (I snapped the first picture on a particularly tough night. I knew I would want to remember this truth.) One sad night, Eddie called my midwife, and together, they pulled me out. I started (and am still taking) an antidepressant, and it was the best decision I could have made. I slowly started feeling like myself again. Life got lighter and brighter, and I finally fell in love with my girl.
I share this because it needs to be heard. So many new moms are living this painful story, but they think theyāre the only ones, and too full of shame to reach out. Itās a lonely place to be. WE NEED TO BE TALKING ABOUT THIS!! So this is my story and my truth. I canāt believe I could have missed this magic. Iām so grateful for Eddie (for loving me well, letting me shower and nap every day during that time, and for taking the first step in getting me better when I couldnāt), for Zoloft, and for my Birdie, who waited patiently for her mama to come back.
And if you are living this story, you are not alone! Talk about it, reach out, take the medicine, accept the help, and leave guilt and shame behind. PPD does not make you a bad mom. Know that even on your worst days, you are the best mama for your baby. The bright days will come again. And I am here for you.ā
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#9
Get your body back after the baby is bornā, they say. I wasnāt aware that my body ever left. If anything, each pregnancy brings me closer to my body. I mean, sure thereās some extra pounds. But thatās the beauty of the postpartum body. Weight might fluctuate, or it might plateau. You might āsnap backā, or you might discover a new version of your body. Alena is 4 months old and Iām still holding on to about 20lbs of baby weight. Iām focused on being healthy not because I āwant my body backā, because Iād never want to be without the extra stretch marks and squishiness Iād acquired during my pregnancy with my sweet girl. But because it makes me feel good! You can get healthy to embrace your new body, instead of being concerned about what used to be. As far as Iām concerned, we just get more beautiful after weāve carried life. Why worry about going back, when weāve just gotten better.
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Psychology Today explains that you ought to immediately seek the help of a professional if these symptoms persist for more than two weeks. Postpartum depression may be caused by hormonal fluctuations, the womanās genes, a family history of depressive illness, stress, medical complications during birth, problems with substance abuse, and a lack of support from oneās loved ones. This is the reality that some moms have to deal with. Fortunately, with the help of family, friends, and professionals, itās possible to move past postpartum depression.
#10
āI spent Mothers Day blissfully disconnected with all my boys. Instead of posting a done up photo depicting the highlight reel version of motherhood, I wanted to share this picture... because THIS is motherhood. This picture was taken hours after Cash arrived & it shows the reality of how much your mind, body & soul change after bringing life into the world. Stretch marks, saggy skin, exhaustion, a body that will never be the same... but 1000% worth it for the reward I received. To all you beautiful mamas out there rocking the body motherhood gave you!ā
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#11
"Time will push you to your limits, faster than you want it to, aging you in ways that make you ache, slow down, grow tired and weak. Laugh. Walk. Eat. Drink. Dance. Garden. Skip. Make an effort and stop time. Stand beneath a rainshower, let yourself become completely drenched. Nap under a tree, when the rest of the world goes to work. Get on a bicycle and go for a cruise. Drink that wine or milkshake slower than you ever thought you could... savour each drop.
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Babies will suck your energy up. Children will treat your body like a jungle gym, bruising your skin, and pulling your muscles. Jobs will have you sitting indoors for too long. Partners may take you for granted. Friends will be under the illusion that they are too busy for simpler times spent together. Musical instruments will sit in their cases, forgotten. Hair will go unwashed. First dates will be boring and waste your time. Lovers will rip your heart out and put you through emotional hell and back, leaving you gutted, insecure and distrusting. Labor and birth and early motherhood will be painful, hard and depleting; leaving you with a body you may not know so well, or feel so good about.
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The path of adulthood is textured and often, uphill. But.
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You are incredible. You are soft, and precious. Giving, and nurturing. Beautiful and sensual.
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Babies will suck your energy up. Children will treat your body like a jungle gym, bruising your skin, and pulling your muscles. Jobs will have you sitting indoors for too long. Partners may take you for granted. Friends will be under the illusion that they are too busy for simpler times spent together. Musical instruments will sit in their cases, forgotten. Hair will go unwashed. First dates will be boring and waste your time. Lovers will rip your heart out and put you through emotional hell and back, leaving you gutted, insecure and distrusting. Labor and birth and early motherhood will be painful, hard and depleting; leaving you with a body you may not know so well, or feel so good about.
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The path of adulthood is textured and often, uphill. But.
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You are incredible. You are soft, and precious. Giving, and nurturing. Beautiful and sensual.
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#12
Cartoons, unbrushed hair, one messy bed, a few sisters, and a whole lotta love. Morning snuggles just got a whole lot sweeter."
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#13
Three days after Naia was born @gavinhicks took this photo of me in adult diapers, baby bump still present, greasy hair, and took the camera away from his face to tell me Iām beautiful. Find a partner who does that because you deserve it and you need to hear it especially when you donāt feel yourself. This time in your life is however more you and more raw and real than youāll ever be. Itās messy and sometimes scary but my goodness itās beautiful and magical. Looking at all of you Mamas in awe. Weāre in this crazy s**t together.
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#14
Every new mom needs loving care, but a new mom recovering from a c-section needs extra help. For the first few days and weeks, the pain at the incision site can range from moderate to severe. It is recommended that new moms not hesitate to take pain medication when they need it for recovery.
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Pain at the incision site can be especially sharp when coughing or laughing, or when using the abdominal muscles to sit or stand. Itās important to minimize recruitment of abdominal muscles. Partners can help by taking over diaper changing for the first few weeks and by helping mom sit up in the middle of the night to nurse and arranging pillows for her to help elevate the baby to breast level. Pillows placed on the lower abdomen can also help ease pain in the incision site. A breastfeeding support pillow can help.
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New parents should have #breastfeeding resources ready- books, support groups, lactation consultant referrals - in case of breastfeeding difficulties. Nursing after a c-section can be initially more challenging, but there is no reason that mom and baby canāt overcome initial challenges to form a mutually rewarding nursing relationship.
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Gas pains and constipation are normal after the operation.
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Gentle, slow walks around the apartment or house are useful for helping the passage of gas, but remember to take it easy. New #mothers recovering from a #cesarean section need all the help they can get.
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Pain at the incision site can be especially sharp when coughing or laughing, or when using the abdominal muscles to sit or stand. Itās important to minimize recruitment of abdominal muscles. Partners can help by taking over diaper changing for the first few weeks and by helping mom sit up in the middle of the night to nurse and arranging pillows for her to help elevate the baby to breast level. Pillows placed on the lower abdomen can also help ease pain in the incision site. A breastfeeding support pillow can help.
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New parents should have #breastfeeding resources ready- books, support groups, lactation consultant referrals - in case of breastfeeding difficulties. Nursing after a c-section can be initially more challenging, but there is no reason that mom and baby canāt overcome initial challenges to form a mutually rewarding nursing relationship.
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Gas pains and constipation are normal after the operation.
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Gentle, slow walks around the apartment or house are useful for helping the passage of gas, but remember to take it easy. New #mothers recovering from a #cesarean section need all the help they can get.
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#15
Grateful for this body that nourishes my babies. I told Ira to show me his muscles and he took it very seriously lol.. My boobs are constantly two different sizes, but on the plus side I am feeling my energy coming back.
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#16
āThis is a rare picture of me, doing my thang, trying to get ready #momlife #pumplife. How many of you mamas are pros at juggling multiple tasks? Cause Iām not hence why my bathroom is messy, closet is unorganized, but this is real life. Real life is messy and not social media perfection and THATS OKAT. _ Also, can we talk about how cute my 6 week postpartum tummy is? There was a baby in there and Iām squishy and I love it.ā
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#17
This photo is one that I knew I absolutely needed to take of myself, for myself, after I gave birth to my son. Once I could no longer fit in my jeans, I got rid of them. I didnāt want my changing body to determine how I felt about myself (especially during pregnancy), so I did what I thought would help, and it did. And now that my baby boy is out of my belly and in the world, I know Iām going to go through some rough thoughts about my new body again. I wanted this photo to remind me how strong and brave and beautiful I am. And itās absolutely okay for me to not feel 1000% beautiful and strong and brave every single day.ā
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#18
This is postpartum. Swollen breasts, swollen, empty stomach, peri-bottles, bloody underwear and pads. Iām tired, my body hurts and Iām not doing great at the week of strict bedrest I told myself I needed. But my heart is so full of love and appreciation and awe. Growing children, in and out of the womb, is dirty and tiring work but it is also the most gratifying and amazing job in the world. I would live in this body 1000x over to reap that reward.
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#19
I used to weigh myself every morning.
I would always make sure to go to the bathroom first.
There would be a rush of anxiety as the scale blinked while I stared down in anticipation.
It was the moment that would depict how I approached my day.
Would I be positive and embrace the day happily because the number was a whole .1 lower than yesterday morning?
Or would I angrily start brushing my teeth and threaten myself to only eat a salad for today because the number was a whole .1 higher than yesterday?
This was how I lived.
It was destroying me.
And I was completely convinced that this was the only way to be happy.
This was the only way I would get to where I was supposed to be in order to become a mother.
I repeated to myself that the only way to be happy was to be skinny.
So I lost weight.
And it never felt like it was enough.
I worked out only to lose weight, rather than the way I do now where I focus more on how it makes me feel.
But then I had Maci.
For the first time, I felt thankful for my body.
There was a moment after she was born that I stood in the hospital bathroom just before I took my first postpartum shower.
I was only in my robe as I stared into the mirror.
I almost remember it in slow motion because I had avoided a mirror for years, even throughout most of my pregnancy.
Locking eyes with myself, I tugged the string and the robe separated a few inches.
I froze for a few seconds before I let the robe fall down to the ground.
And there I was.
I saw me for what felt like the very first time, but after another few seconds, I closed my eyes.
I turned around and walked towards the shower.
This moment was just the beginning of my self-love journey.
It doesnāt happen quickly.
But it never would have happened had I not tried.
I would always make sure to go to the bathroom first.
There would be a rush of anxiety as the scale blinked while I stared down in anticipation.
It was the moment that would depict how I approached my day.
Would I be positive and embrace the day happily because the number was a whole .1 lower than yesterday morning?
Or would I angrily start brushing my teeth and threaten myself to only eat a salad for today because the number was a whole .1 higher than yesterday?
This was how I lived.
It was destroying me.
And I was completely convinced that this was the only way to be happy.
This was the only way I would get to where I was supposed to be in order to become a mother.
I repeated to myself that the only way to be happy was to be skinny.
So I lost weight.
And it never felt like it was enough.
I worked out only to lose weight, rather than the way I do now where I focus more on how it makes me feel.
But then I had Maci.
For the first time, I felt thankful for my body.
There was a moment after she was born that I stood in the hospital bathroom just before I took my first postpartum shower.
I was only in my robe as I stared into the mirror.
I almost remember it in slow motion because I had avoided a mirror for years, even throughout most of my pregnancy.
Locking eyes with myself, I tugged the string and the robe separated a few inches.
I froze for a few seconds before I let the robe fall down to the ground.
And there I was.
I saw me for what felt like the very first time, but after another few seconds, I closed my eyes.
I turned around and walked towards the shower.
This moment was just the beginning of my self-love journey.
It doesnāt happen quickly.
But it never would have happened had I not tried.
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#20
A note to the new mama. You may not recognise your own body anymore, but you need to give it time.
_ Itās possible youāll still look pregnant weeks after birth, this is normal.
_ Your belly button will look the way it used to, eventually.
_ Your body may have made some permanent physical changes, embrace them.
_ You may lose a lot of hair in the first few months, donāt panic itās a normal phase.
_ Your hormones are adjusting themselves, there will be high, lows and probably tears.
_ You may get the baby blues or postpartum depression, know that this is okay and ask for help and support, youāre not alone.
_ Your breastfeeding journey (if you do) may not be as easy as you expected, donāt beat yourself up and it will take time.
_ You may bleed for weeks after giving birth, like a big pain in the ass period.
_ You need to increase you fiber intake... just trust us on this one!
_ You may sweat a lot and feel like youāre in a constant heat wave in the first few days, thank you hormones.
_ You may have permanent scars on your body, these are simply reminders of how strong our amazing bodies are, learn to love them.
_ Motherhood changes us, physically, mentally and emotionally. Some of these changes permanent, most temporary, remember youāre not alone.
_ Welcome to the club mama, we got you. Fellow mamaās - if I havenāt listed it here, let a new mama know something.
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