Everyone's entitled to keep certain things to themselves and decide how much of their life they want to shield from others. However, there's a difference between privacy and secrecy, and one woman believes her in-laws crossed that line.
She learned that her husband's parents were in an open relationship. This probably wouldn't have been a problem for her if it hadn't been for the fact that their other partners were also spending time with her children. And the worst part? It turns out her husband may have known more about it than he admitted.
Sometimes even the people you think you know best can have secrets you never saw coming
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This woman discovered that her in-laws' private life had started affecting her children
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Even though disagreements between parents and grandparents are common, this case is definitely an extreme one
Grandparents play a special role in the lives of many children, but sometimes they have different ideas from the child's parents about the best way to raise the little one. The C.S. Mott Children's Hospital National Poll on Children's Health asked American parents of children ages 0-18 about disagreements with grandparents around their parenting choices.
Most parents (89%) report that their child sees at least one grandparent often or occasionally. Among these parents, only 6% report major disagreements, and 37% say there are minor disagreements with one or more grandparents about their parenting choices. Fifteen percent of parents say that disagreements have a negative effect on their child's relationship with grandparents.
Forty percent of parents say disagreements occur because grandparents are too soft on the child, while 14% say grandparents are too tough; 46% say disagreements arise from both. The most common areas of disagreement are discipline (57%), meals/snacks (44%), and TV/screen time (36%). Other disagreements pertain to manners (27%), health/safety (25%), treating some grandchildren differently than others (22%), bedtime (21%), and sharing photos/information on social media (10%).
Four in ten parents (43%) have asked a grandparent to change their behavior to be consistent with the parent’s choices or rules. In response to such a request, 47% of parents report that the grandparent changed their behavior; 36% say the grandparent agreed to the request but did not change their behavior; and 17% say the grandparent refused the request to change. Among parents who say grandparents changed their behavior, only 4% report major disagreements. In comparison, among parents who say grandparents agreed to change but did not change their behavior, 15% report major disagreements; when grandparents refused to change, 25% of parents report major disagreements.
Overall, few people get to the point of no return, with 15% of parents limiting the amount of time their child sees some grandparents. Not surprisingly, these limitations are more common when grandparents do not respect parenting choices: 32% of parents limit the amount of time children see grandparents who agreed to change but did not, and 42% limit the amount of time children see grandparents who refused to change. In comparison, among parents who did not ask a grandparent to change their behavior, only 6% limit the amount of time their child sees grandparents.
While most people agreed that she had valid concerns about her children, some thought the woman was overreacting by jumping straight to divorce
