According to psychologist Vainalavičiūtė from Health Optimizing Vilnius, mental health professionals need to strive to create a safe environment.
She explained that this starts by having the client familiarize themselves with the rules and boundaries relating to their sessions. It’s essential to get the basics right, such as how long the sessions will last, how they’ll be paid for, how they can be canceled, etc.
“Next, it’s important for your clients to understand the principles of confidentiality that you’ll be relying on. They should be encouraged to ask questions and give suggestions on how the process could be adjusted,” the psychologist told Bored Panda.
“I often stress to my clients that if there’s a need, we can at any time change our agreements. I encourage them to share their needs and talk about their feelings that arise from all of this,” she said.
“Sometimes, the clients feel lost or like they lost control because they see the psychologist or therapist as the person in control of the entire process,” Vainalavičiūtė shared. “Next, I think that it’s vital for the client to understand that every process is unique and depends on them. Meanwhile, the psychologist is just an assistant who helps in their journey for personal change.”
Vainalavičiūtė pointed out that clients need to be reminded that there are no ‘good’ or ‘bad’ feelings. The sessions are meant to be a space where they can experience and understand their emotions, which may be uncomfortable in other contexts.
“And yet, the atmosphere in these sessions depends on other factors as well—ones which we cannot, unfortunately, control. These factors can even be difficult to name. Just like we don’t become close friends with every person we meet, so it’s not possible to create a quality relationship with every client.”
The psychologist said that there can be environmental factors or the individual’s associations that prevent them from opening up during their therapy sessions.
“For example, the psychologist’s manner or speaking or dress style can remind them of a person they had a conflict with in the past. These associations can be unconscious, but they create a sense of insecurity, stopping the person from sharing their personal experiences,” she said.
“In these situations, I suggest that clients look for another psychologist. One who makes them feel more comfortable and whose work methods fit their needs better.”
Vainalavičiūtė noted that there are various branches of psychotherapy and work methods, so it’s worth looking into them and deciding which path might be best for the client. Then, they can look for a psychologist or therapist who specializes in those approaches.
“I’d recommend going to a few sessions to meet several psychologists. I’d also suggest not writing these sessions off after just one or two tries.”
Mental health issues are more prevalent than many of us realize. The National Institute of Mental Health states that a whopping 8.3% or 21 million of all adults living in the United States have had at least one major depressive episode in their lives.
Moreover, the National Alliance on Mental Health shares that 19.1% or over 40 million American adults have an anxiety disorder.
Many of us know someone who goes to therapy. It might even be you reading this. Even though more people understand the importance of openly talking about mental health and seeking help when they need it, others still remain skeptical. They are reluctant to ask for any sort of assistance and often think that they ‘should’ be able to solve everything on their own.
For those skeptics, asking for help is tantamount to showing weakness and vulnerability. However, there is nothing weak about becoming aware of one’s problems with mental health and then taking the steps to solve those issues. Probably nobody would stigmatize people who decided to take better care of their bodies.
So why the different perspective when it comes to taking care of our minds?
While some detractors see talking about mental health as weakness, others think that people dealing with those issues are ‘crazy.’ This sort of perspective can make some folks hesitant to reach out for help. They’re scared of being labeled, criticized, and made fun of by the people in their social circle.
This is why it’s so important to change attitudes toward mental health on a cultural and social level, not just on an individual one. However, that takes lots of time and focused effort. This sort of large-scale change in preconceptions and perceptions doesn’t happen overnight.
For other people, it’s not the stigma of mental health itself that prevents them from going to therapy. Their concerns are more down-to-earth. Put simply, therapy is not accessible to everyone. For one, not everyone lives or works in a location with lots of qualified therapists to choose from. Not only that but there’s the financial burden to consider.
Therapy is a privilege for many people around the world. And a costly one at that. If someone is forced between seeing a therapist or paying rent and putting food on the table for their family, the odds are that they’ll pick the latter.
This will come at the expense of their personal mental health. But many people prioritize others at the cost of themselves, even when they have the means to do both.
There are also individuals who have very strange assumptions about what therapy is and isn’t. Therapy is not some magical conversation where the professional immediately solves someone’s problems. Therapists reframe your experiences. They give you the tools to have more confidence to move past your issues yourself.
