My brother is now a long diagnosed schizophrenic. His twin sister and I no longer have a relationship. We have such different experiences of her as a mother it's impossible for us to relate any truth about our upbringing. A mother who hates mothering is going to be vile on a random basis, and IMHO the kids will blame each other for it.
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My dad.
She screwed him up emotionally.
He’s 74 now with the emotional maturity of a 5 year old.
She screwed him up emotionally.
He’s 74 now with the emotional maturity of a 5 year old.
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Our mom made it known to us kids that she really wanted to be a nun, thus explaining her lack of motherly preoccupation with us growing up - not bitter nor neglectful - just not as warm nor protectively hovering as our friends’ mothers were.
We grew up to be strong, independent adults and appreciate her now more as grown-up. In fact, we are now the envy of our friends in a way, as unlike those other mothers we envied so much while children, she does not demand anything from us ( like calling, visiting, holidays, etc.) nor impress her opinion on our choices of partners, lifestyles etc. Yup, my mom is the now the coolest one of them all and the three of us love hanging out with her.
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