What Would You Say?

I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom suddenly when she was 57. I would tell her that she was the most dynamic, loving, brave, wonderful mother and person that I could have ever hoped for, but I think she already knows that. I like to think she’s my family’s guardian angel and I pray to God I will be with her in heaven someday. The pain and hurt will subside but you never forget. It just gets easier to get through each day. I just like to think she’s around, being as awesome as she was on this earth. I say hi to her and tell her I miss her inside my head and that helps. Wish you the best!

I lost my beautiful mum on 20/1/2008 and it took so very long to stop crying and for my heart to start mending enough to want to carry on. I’d want to tell her that I loved all the times we just sat and talked, that simply sitting with her and watching the old movies brought me so much joy and now I watch those same movies and still think of her. I’d give anything, absolutely anything to be able to call her one more time of a morning for our daily chat even when I was seeing her later that day. That we all still miss her so much; not just me but my husband and our grown sons. That my sister misses her so much too. That I wouldn’t be the person I am now without her love and guidance. That I carry her in my heart every single moment of every single day and always will, and I hope she’s standing at the gate waiting for me when it’s time for me to go home to my maker.

Losing your mum is so hard, but remember your mum raised you to survive and so be the person your mum knew you could be, and no matter what, you can still talk to her every day.

A friend recommended I read Motherless Daughters by Hope Edelman. Losing a mother at any age is devastating as we are not taught to deal with that type of grief. My mother passed when I was 5 from Cancer and if I could say one thing it would be ‘I know you loved me and would have stayed if you could.’

I would want to fit a lifetime into a few words so I think I would simply say " I never knew loving you so greatly would lead to a loss this heartbreaking. I would love you harder and deal with a pain 10x greater if it meant I got to hug you longer, feel you kiss my forehead once more and see you light up hearing your grandkids say your name. You are so terribly missed, I started living for Christ in the hopes that one day I will see you again."