I am in my 50s and so is my husband. We have been married for 13 yrs and incorporated our kids into one family. They are all grown and we don't use the word step we are just one family. My bonus child's kids call me Nana and we have done alot for them. We pay for both of their cells each month and we never miss a play or dance recitle or anything. Well yesterday was Thanksgiving and we saw pics on line where her mothers side of the family was at her house for Thanksgiving instead of her spending it with us which we have done every year for like 10 years. In these pics she calls them her "real family" . My husband and I both are devastated. I bawled for hours and he sobbed when he cried. He wasn't around alot when she was growing up because her mom noted her up north and she moved back here when we were dating and he learned how to be a parent to her and a great paw to the girls.
Now the hurt is over and I am angry very angry. She hurt him so badly. I want to go off on her and tell her how she hurt him and made him cry. Would I be the ass if I did or what should I do?