Red flags, turn-offs, deal breakers — there are a lot of names for them. But everyone has something they do not tolerate in romantic relationships. One Reddit user wanted to learn what it is for guys, so they specifically asked the fellas to share the behaviors and habits women have exhibited that made them immediately lose all interest. From a lack of respect for other people's boundaries to unresolved issues from the past, it seems that sometimes a second chance isn't even an option.
#21
Had a girl who was interested in me divulge an incident in high school where she stabbed a girl in a fit of jealous rage over a guy she was interested in.
47points
#22
Hated dogs. Thought if we didn’t walk in sync that we were incompatible. Thought me saying goodbye and love you to my girl cousin (she’s more like a sister) was incest and turned extremely jelous lol.
47points
#23
When i asked if she was interested in the new Superman movie her response was "No, i heard its immigrant propaganda".
46points
#24
On a date waking with this very pretty young woman, totally enamored, couldn't believe it...
...and then she threw her empty Starbucks cup in a bush. I immediately lost it, scolded her, pulled the cup out of the bush, and carried it to the next trash can!
Can you believe it? I never got a second date lol.
...and then she threw her empty Starbucks cup in a bush. I immediately lost it, scolded her, pulled the cup out of the bush, and carried it to the next trash can!
Can you believe it? I never got a second date lol.
46points
#25
(Lesbian here, does that count?) I’ve told this story before, but I once got set up on a blind date at a nice restaurant. We met after work & she’s a lawyer so she shows up in this gorgeous, sharp pantsuit with a blue speckled camping mug clipped to her belt on a carabiner.
I’m immediately thrown, but I try to play it cool. Then she unclips the mug, pours her drink into it & proceeds to use it throughout dinner like this is completely normal. My brain goes into overdrive but I don’t want to outright ask because I have friends in AA who bring their own mugs to meetings, so I’m trying to be sensitive. She’s drinking wine at dinner (FROM THE MUG!) but recovery journeys aren’t one size fits all, so I couldn't entirely rule that out.
The entire night I’m racking my brain for literally any plausible scenario where a grown woman needs to walk around armed with a camping mug like a lesbian Batman gadget. Based on the gentle probing questions I asked, none of my theories held up.
The next day, the acquaintance who set us up asks how it went so I mention the mug, looking for context, backstory or *something*. She just sighs, rolls her eyes & says, “Oh *The Cup*. Yeah, she always has that.” No explanation. No elaboration. Just The Cup, capital letters, like it’s a known neighborhood folklore I was supposed to somehow know about beforehand & not ask questions.
It was probably the dumbest reason to pass on a second date, but honestly, we didn’t vibe anyway. Plus I just cannot picture a long term future with someone who casually walks around with a camping mug dangling from their pants. It was just one layer of bizarre too many for me.
Funny side note: This happened probably 15 years ago & last year our mutual friend posted a picture on FB from a wedding rehearsal dinner they all attended & there my former date sat with the same mug right in front of her on the table. Then another picture of them after they left the restaurant & you can clearly see it clipped to her belt. I was elated to finally have photographic proof of this to show my partner & coworkers who always doubted this story or thought I was exaggerating. I still don't have answers as to WHY she carries this mug around but it's still validating to have proof it happened.
I’m immediately thrown, but I try to play it cool. Then she unclips the mug, pours her drink into it & proceeds to use it throughout dinner like this is completely normal. My brain goes into overdrive but I don’t want to outright ask because I have friends in AA who bring their own mugs to meetings, so I’m trying to be sensitive. She’s drinking wine at dinner (FROM THE MUG!) but recovery journeys aren’t one size fits all, so I couldn't entirely rule that out.
The entire night I’m racking my brain for literally any plausible scenario where a grown woman needs to walk around armed with a camping mug like a lesbian Batman gadget. Based on the gentle probing questions I asked, none of my theories held up.
The next day, the acquaintance who set us up asks how it went so I mention the mug, looking for context, backstory or *something*. She just sighs, rolls her eyes & says, “Oh *The Cup*. Yeah, she always has that.” No explanation. No elaboration. Just The Cup, capital letters, like it’s a known neighborhood folklore I was supposed to somehow know about beforehand & not ask questions.
It was probably the dumbest reason to pass on a second date, but honestly, we didn’t vibe anyway. Plus I just cannot picture a long term future with someone who casually walks around with a camping mug dangling from their pants. It was just one layer of bizarre too many for me.
Funny side note: This happened probably 15 years ago & last year our mutual friend posted a picture on FB from a wedding rehearsal dinner they all attended & there my former date sat with the same mug right in front of her on the table. Then another picture of them after they left the restaurant & you can clearly see it clipped to her belt. I was elated to finally have photographic proof of this to show my partner & coworkers who always doubted this story or thought I was exaggerating. I still don't have answers as to WHY she carries this mug around but it's still validating to have proof it happened.
44points
#26
I went to a comedy show with a girl and she heckled. I was so embarrassed and bothered by the behavior. I asked her after the show why she thought it was okay, and she said "My parents run a community theater, and anyone onstage should be able to hold up to scrutiny." I told her that made it even worse, as she should empathize with how difficult it is to get onstage. That was that.
44points
#27
Went to pick up a girl for our first date and she comes walking out of the house holding a 2 year old girl. At first I’m thinking it’s a niece and she wanted to say hi. No it was her daughter and she was planning on bringing her on the date. So not only did she not tell me she had a kid but she also assumed it would be cool to bring her along and I’d pay for everyone’s dinner.
When I told her nah and I didn’t want to go on the date she looked shocked.
When I told her nah and I didn’t want to go on the date she looked shocked.
43points
#28
I met an amazingly attractive girl singing karaoke that kinda knew one of my friends. She was smart, funny, and successful, I really cannot emphasize how smoking hott this girl was. Anyway we were walking back to my place and passed a gay bar that's on my block and I asked if she wanted to grab one last drink. I can't remember her exact words but it was something like "I'm not really down with the gays or blacks." She went on a whole rant after seeing the look on my face. I think that was the last time I use a rejection hotline number.
43points
#29
First date, gave her my phone to put on music in the car, noticed she was taking a while, looked over and saw the reflection on the passenger window she was in my text messages.
42points
#30
First date (last date) she told me she didn’t drink (I didn’t ask and am fine either way) but said to meet her at a restaurant and we could go out from there.
I show up and she’s drunk. It was 6pm. 🚩.
I show up and she’s drunk. It was 6pm. 🚩.
40points
#31
I take her out for breakfast and she was a NIGHTMARE ordering, asking for every substitution and things that aren’t on the menu.
We finally get out of there (she’s not happy with how her food turned out, obviously) and we are walking past an office place with a candy bowl in the desk. SHE RAN INTO THE PLACE AND GRABBED A HANDFUL OF CANDY. I just stood there wide my jaw dropped, and she asked “what?” Like it wasn’t the wildest thing for a 28 year old to do on a breakfast date.
We finally get out of there (she’s not happy with how her food turned out, obviously) and we are walking past an office place with a candy bowl in the desk. SHE RAN INTO THE PLACE AND GRABBED A HANDFUL OF CANDY. I just stood there wide my jaw dropped, and she asked “what?” Like it wasn’t the wildest thing for a 28 year old to do on a breakfast date.
37points
#32
Had one woman tell me she "didin't believe in safewords" within a few minutes of meeting her.
Yeah, no.
Yeah, no.
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34points
#33
In college--girl told me a HILARIOUS story, she had been cleaning the toilet with her roommates toothbrush, all because roommate dare have a boyfriend
hilarious indeed....kept my distance.
hilarious indeed....kept my distance.
33points
#34
Girl from the early days of Tinder. Talked on the app for a few days, got her number and was planning a meet-up/hook-up but we both had weird retail schedules. Finally got a day fixed, and she divulged what she was expecting.
She wanted me to go over there and act like I was her babysitter while she dressed and acted like a toddler, leading up to me carrying her to her crib for intimates. Ladies and gentlemen, I was flabbergasted. Just straight ghosted her. Didn't know how to even respond to that. *And she was older than me.* I was in my early twenties, I think she was close to thirty.
She wanted me to go over there and act like I was her babysitter while she dressed and acted like a toddler, leading up to me carrying her to her crib for intimates. Ladies and gentlemen, I was flabbergasted. Just straight ghosted her. Didn't know how to even respond to that. *And she was older than me.* I was in my early twenties, I think she was close to thirty.
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32points
#35
Showed me how the last 3 exes branded their initials into her wrist like a bracelet. She just needs 2 more.
31points
#36
Met this girl, hooked up, apparently she got super comfortable because all of sudden she started talking about why she disliked this race and that race, full noped out of there.
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31points
#37
She put Celine Dion “My Heart Will Go On” on repeat, to try and get me in the mood.
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31points
#38
Told me she makes out with random dudes even if she's in a relationship because "it doesn't mean anything".
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27points
#39
Dated a girl (for a short period) that would smell the seat of a chair after someone was sitting in it got up. I thought maybe I was seeing something the first time because I didn’t catch the full act. Second time I got the full show. That’s all it took.
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26points
#40
Told me my fitness hobby was horrible and I should go to church more. A little later on I asked what music she comes home to on a rough work day and she said gospel music…. And in neither of these was she being sarcastic….
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25points
