Alas, not all happy couples make it. Nearly half of all marriages in the United States end in divorce. Recently, some wedding guests opened up in a viral r/AskReddit thread about the moments when they realized the marrying couple probably would end up getting divorced in the near future. Sometimes, the signs are blatantly obvious. Scroll down for their stories. Oh, and mind your head—watch out for all the relationship red flags.
#1
Good times.
#2
I really didn't think it would last at that point, but we've been married 23 years now, so it turned out okay.
#3
One guy married at super young, basically because he got his girlfriend pregnant and it was very obvious that his inlaws were forcing the marriage.
One guy married a foreign girl he met at a study abroad program in Russia at the courthouse, no fancy dinner no nothing to celebrate, and had no idea how she could be so heartless to divorce him after she got citizenship.
One guy made out with another woman on the dancefloor during the later part of the reception.
The only wedding I've been to that had to be stopped mid service by the "speak now or forever hold your peace" clause was when the brides estranged father stood up, who had not walked her down the aisle because he was not much a part of her life, and stated " Father "pastor" I'm real sorry about doing this now but I just recognized where I think I've seen "grooms" mama before...and I'm real sorry "father of the groom" cause it seems ya didn't know, but I think you might be my son, so if I were you I'd get some bloodwork before going on with this here marriage."
Turns out the man was right, they were half siblings and didn't know it. Called the wedding off, stopped the romantic relationship and are now happily married to other people but still hang out and invite each others families to family get togethers.
According to Forbes, 43% of marriages in the United States end in divorce. Second marriages fail 60% of the time. And 73% of third marriages get dissolved. The average length of a first marriage before divorce might not quite be “till death do us part”, but it’s still fairly long—eight years. On average, it costs around $7,000 to dissolve a union in the US. Simple divorces can be processed within three months. However, contested divorces take much longer and take over a year to finalize.
Not to sound too harsh, but not all relationships are meant to be. ‘Perfect’ relationships are impossible, as are ‘perfect’ partners. You will always have to look for compromises on some issues and consistently work to make the relationship stronger. However, you should not have to compromise or tolerate truly toxic traits.
#4
Spoiler: I was the wife. We didn’t last lol.
#5
#6
He was very clearly gay.
Neither seemed to want to recognize it but EVERYONE ELSE WAS SURE OF IT.
A few years later? Turns out he’s gay and wants a divorce.
Unless you’re getting married after a few weeks of getting to know each other, you’re probably aware of any red flags your partner has. Accepting that certain behavior is very unhealthy, bodes nothing well, and that you won’t change your spouse-to-be is another question entirely. It’s hard to break up with someone you think is right for you, but sometimes, it’s the best thing for everyone.
How healthy a marriage will be will depend a lot on how the spouses interact with each other, how they (don’t) communicate, whether their values align, how empathetic they are, and how willing they are to work as a team to tackle challenges. Of course, it also matters if the couple is on the same page regarding some of the bigger questions like raising kids, work, finances and savings, where they should live, divvying up the chores, etc.
#7
It was less than a year.
#8
I was friends with a girl who was friends with the bride and went as her plus one to the wedding, which was held on Superbowl Sunday. Early into the reception, the groom and his groomsmen left the party to go to a bar to watch the game. His parting words to the bride were "You know I love you, baby, but I've got 10 bucks on the game."
They lasted nearly a year before she got tired of him cheating on her and she finally left him.
#9
The reason for one couple’s divorce is probably going to be different than another’s. There are also usually many complex and unique factors that when taken together spell doom for the marriage. That being said, there are still some broad tendencies. Forbes report that 75% of people reported a lack of commitment as the reason for their divorce. This is the most common reason for marriages falling apart.
The second most common reason why marriages end in divorce is infidelity. 60% of divorced couples opened up that it was their partner being unfaithful to them that broke the trust in the relationship and tore them asunder.
#10
#11
She went into a weird trance and said: When I walked down the aisle, I was really disappointed that the groomsman I shagged a month ago didn’t turned up.
I don’t think she realised she said it out loud. Anyway…the marriage lasted 9 months.
#12
Ultimately they were just two very different people. Marriage lasted about a year.
Other top reasons for divorce include constant arguing (58% of couples noted this was a major factor), marrying too young (45%), and financial problems (38%).
Even when there are many different issues at work, 69% of people admitted that there was a tipping point that finally made them decide they wanted a divorce.
Usually, this ‘final straw’ moment was related to infidelity, violence, and substance abuse. However, partners overwhelmingly disagree about what this tipping point that ended their marriage was. They see their relationships very differently.
#13
Oh, the he was me.
#14
#15
She left the groom the day they got back from their honeymoon. And she kept all the presents!
Have you ever been to a wedding where you genuinely thought that the ‘happy’ couple would get divorced very quickly, Pandas? What were the red flags that you witnessed?
What was the shortest marriage that you know of in your social circle? On the flip side, what’s the healthiest and happiest married couple you personally know?
#16
I’m all for people having whatever type of relationship they want. But dont make me complicit in your cheating.
#17
That seemed less than a match made in heaven.
#18
#19
She was bipolar and decided to stop taking her meds without telling anyone. She attached him in his sleep with a baseball bat because he was congested and snoring. She thought he was a monster. She broke his arm and 4 of his ribs.
Two weeks after this incident she smacked his hand with a meat hammer while they were making dinner to “what would happen.”
She refused to take her meds and he left.
She now has 7 children with 4 different guys. She is ridiculously hot still to this day so guys fall for her c**p and then bail when they find out how f*****g crazy she is.
#20
