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Both the divorce and marriage rates have been decreasing in the United States over the past two decades. Forbes reports that there were 994,000 divorces in 2000. The number dropped to 689,308 divorces in 2021. The divorce rate went from 4 per 1,000 people to 2.5 per 1,000 in just 21 years.
Meanwhile, the marriage rate in the US was 8.2 per 1,000 people in 2000, but it shrank to just 6 per 1,000 by the year 2021.
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'Tonight, we will do it MY WAY, wifey!!!'
and then proceeded to make doggy style thrusting gestures.
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The average American marriage lasts around 8 years. Simple divorces take just 3 months to be dissolved while contested ones take around a year to be finalized. The average divorce costs $7,000.
Roughly one in two marriages end in divorce. However, second marriages fail more often (67%) and even more third marriages end up being dissolved (73%).
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There are plenty of different reasons why couples end up getting divorced. Some of the main ones include a lack of commitment, infidelity, and constant arguing. On top of that, getting married too young, financial problems, and substance abuse are also important factors here.
If there’s a lack of proper communication and barely any mutual respect, then the couple is going to fight a constant uphill battle. There’s no such thing as a ‘perfect’ relationship, but partners need to strive to support one another and be transparent about the things that truly matter. Nobody’s a mind-reader so if there’s a problem, you need to speak up and actively listen to your partner’s side of things, too.
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The very best wedding planners are going to make the entire organizational process seem like a dream. Their mission is to take most of the burden off the happy couple so that they can enjoy the time leading up to the Big Day instead of stressing out over the tiniest details.
Essentially, planners need to turn their clients’ idea of their dream wedding into reality. That’s why communication skills are so prized in this profession. On top of that, planners need to be very flexible and creative. After all, far from everything goes as planned, so you need to be ready to find alternative plans and solutions at the drop of a hat.
Above everything, anyone working with weddings, no matter their position, should strive to be professional at all times, no matter the chaos surrounding them. They have to be the island calm in the middle of the storm (even if they’d rather pack their bags and go home).
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Dr. Betchen noted that a lack of commitment has overtaken infidelity as the biggest cause of divorce in the United States. The marriage and family therapist urged all partners to know what they want in a relationship before committing to it. According to the expert, people should ask themselves important questions like: “Do you want to travel? Do you want kids and how many? Where do you want to live? Is it important that your spouse bring in an income? Do you want someone to ski with, bowl with?”
“Too many couples form and expect to be able to negotiate these issues but instead they end up in control struggles,” the therapist explained to Bored Panda.
Dr. Betchen said that people should assess their partners' ability to be honest, trustworthy, and committed. “To do so, examine their relationship history and how you are treated in the beginning of your relationship with them. Do they have a history of affairs? Do they express their feelings directly or passive-aggressively? Do they have a tendency to run from stress? Do they appear attracted to you? Too many couples fail to pay enough attention to the signs that someone lacks attraction or cannot make a long-term commitment,” he warned.
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Any way we work closely with the wedding party for upwards of a year before the big day, depending how prepared/a**l the party is.
The couple that the entire store knew wouldn't last seemed sweet at first. They sat down and planned their wedding with the usual staff, seemingly the bride and groom flawlessly agreed on every detail. A day later the bride came in and changed almost the entire order and specified that we weren't to tell the groom. Later that day the bride's mother called and changed the flower order from roses to lilies and from pink to white. She also specified that we weren't to tell the bride. As you can imagine both the bride and the groom both found out when they came in for the final meeting. A giant verbal fight broke out and they were escorted out of the store. The wedding was "postponed" for another year. 8 months later the groom came in with another bride to be.
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However, the therapist pointed out that even functional relationships have their difficulties. “If a couple finds themselves in a prolonged control struggle, they need to recognize that they must get out of it or it will deteriorate the relationship. They must accept that there will be no winner and loser, only two winners or two losers,” the expert told Bored Panda via email.
“If they cannot accept the reality that they are married to an individual with his/her own likes and dislikes, there will be trouble. Focus on what your partner brings to the relationship that can help you grow rather than try to make them in your own image. If you cannot do this, get professional help.”
Getting out of these control struggles means that each partner has to accept that they’re with someone with their own opinions, habits, and preferences. Being in a successful relationship means that someone won’t always get everything that they want: compromise and selflessness are incredibly important.
“People want it all and hate loss. But you must sacrifice some of your needs and adjust your expectations to navigate a control struggle successfully,” he said.
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