30 Times Someone Actually Objected During The “Speak Now Or Forever Hold Your Peace” Portion Of The Wedding

Anna and Sarah confirmed to me that objections aren't as common as they're portrayed in movies. In fact, they're rare. "Objections mid-ceremony seem to be very rare these days. If a friend or family member has a real problem with the union, it's unlikely that the couple isn't aware of it beforehand!" they told Bored Panda.

"It's important to know that any objections are usually coming from a place of care and worry for either party to the union," they explained. "Objections shouldn't be met with anger, hostility, or defense. Instead, it's important to meet them with kindness and love, and where possible, to try and understand where the basis of the objection is coming from." In short, it's best to avoid getting heated and opt for understanding those who object without defending themselves.

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The custom of objecting during a wedding ceremony was introduced by the Catholic Church in the 12th century to ensure the legality of the union. Information about the upcoming marriage would be announced beforehand so that the community would have the time to come forth with any sensitive information about the union.

“Grounds for objection included factors like a party already being married to another, pre-existing vows of celibacy or commitment to the church, being underage without parental consent, or close blood relations,” writes ‘Brides’ magazine.

Any objections would be given under oath and the officiant would then investigate the situation while the actual wedding was suspended. In short, objections were a very big deal back in the day.

Nowadays, objections tend to be seen more often on the silver screen, in Hollywood movies, than in real life. They’re now less about the legal issues surrounding the marriage and more about one’s personal feelings regarding the union itself.

“While your natural instincts may be screaming for a gut reaction, try to remain calm and pause the ceremony. If you believe the objection requires a conversation with that person, gently take them to the side for a private discussion. Emphasis on private. There's no need to inflame the already precarious scenario by opening up a public forum,” writes ‘Brides’ magazine.

“Once in a private setting, acknowledge the party's objection with appreciation but reinforce the relationship with your partner. You're not obligated to justify your decision to get married, but instead should calmly thank them for their concern and move on.”