Isn't it sad how we waste so much time on certain people and in the end they prove that they weren't even worth a second of it. Over time you realize they are not worth your love and all the energy it takes to carry their weight. Why fight over someone who is not fighting for you? Why allow yourself to keep being hurt by someone, who is not hurting for you? Why keep giving your life to someone, who will never do right by you? Why keep putting yourself through being hurt & abused, by someone who only wants to use you? Why keep waiting on someone, who is always leaving you? Why keep trying to love someone, who keeps showing you that they don't love you? Why keep asking why, when you already know deep down inside that the person you are with is not the person meant for you.
Many of us spend countless years with a person out of comfort. It is familiar, and even though they are disrespectful, liars, and not worth our time and energy we find ourselves stuck in a relationship that should have ended a long time ago out of fear of starting over with someone new and not knowing what's to come. You convince yourself that all men or all women are the same so if you are going to be disrespected or cheated on it might as well be by the person you've given years of your life to. Moving on is never easy, specially when the person who once promised you forever keeps giving you just enough to keep you hanging on. You have to stop watering dead plants. Some people become more toxic to our health by keeping them around. It's okay to keep someone in your prayers but not in your life. Once you grasp that concept you will stop throwing away years on a person who is doing nothing for you.
The reason behind a relationship and being with someone is to build and grow together, not to have someone for the sake of not being alone. Single is better than in the company of someone who drains your whole being. We end up doing over time in relationships that were meant for a season and not a lifetime. Learn to forgive yourself for giving away so many of your years to someone who wasn't worth it. And more importantly learn to never make that same mistake again. The red flags are there for a reason. Don't ignore what they are telling you. Don't get mad, instead get distant. Don't waste another minute dealing with a toxic person. You deserve a love that helps you become a better version of yourself.
