what did she say no to?
what were the house rules? .etc
#1
mine is so strict i have a flip phone
2points
#2
Fairly. I was not allowed friends over unless it was my birthday. I could never stay over at friends houses unless it was their birthday. I couldn’t go anywhere after school until I was 16. There were no such things as phones in everyone’s hand back then. If I wanted any type of trendy clothing I had to use my own money. I got a couple generic type outfits at the beginning of school. Which I appreciated however as we get older we like to feel we “fit in”.
2points
#3
No physical contact with anyone of the same gender. Not even hugging my friends. Wouldn't want me catching the gay now would we? Jokes on them, I am now proudly Pansexual!!
2points
#4
My parents weren’t as strict as I thought they were growing up. There were bands I wasn’t allowed to listen to, movies I wasn’t allowed to watch, heavily enforced 10pm curfew. When I went out with friends, I had to find a pay phone (I’m old) and let them know if we were going to switch locations. I realize now that most of it was basic safety, and a lot of things I wasn’t allowed to do (class trips, concerts, etc.) was because we were poor, not because they were strict. But as a teenager, I felt incredibly oppressed and pinned down by my “strict” parents. Part of it was simply being an angsty teenager, which I definitely was. But now that I have my own teenagers, I’ve realized a lot of it was that my parents never gave explanations for their rules. It was always “because I said so”. Or “because I make the rules and you don’t”. I never understood the reasons why, and so it just felt very oppressive and unfair, and made me want to rebel against everything. Because of that, I work very hard to make sure I take time to talk to my kids about any boundaries we set and let them be a part of the process. Only time will tell, but so far, I have a much closer relationship with my kids than I ever had with my parents. And they are really awesome kids! I guess my point is: strict isn’t just about the rules themselves. It’s also about communication.
1point