Someone Online Was Curious About “What’s Your Unspoken Mom Code?” And 33 Mothers Came Through

Never use the phrase “just you wait until….”, especially about something negative.

If I have a crying kid next to me on a plane or bus, offer the parent some help.

All my supplies are available to any who need it if I have it on hand. Diapers, wipes, tissues, bandaids, snacks, even tampons if need be. My purse is PACKED lol

I realized I alwayd give up my space in line to parents with kids too lol.. if I'm out without my kid that is. I understand all to well needing to get the f**k ouuuuuutt and finish up whatever errand you're on.

And lastly I never judge, only listen and support. If you want to tell me you just f*****g hate being a mom today, I am here. We all have those days.

For me, it’s all of these, but also when I see a mom in a public bathroom with a baby that needs a diaper changed, I always ask if they would like some help. There have been times when I needed it and there was no one around.

Offer to help a mom traveling solo with a kid at the airport if I’m able (once offered to help unfold the stroller but the woman said I could hold her 1yo! I was away from mine the same age so it was nice for both of us.)

Unless I have a very good reason to say no, our RSVP for birthday party invites will be yes.

A mom with sunscreen at a park once was a lifesaver when I forgot mine.

If I see a mom or dad struggling with an unruly kid I always give them a smile and nod, typically even a comment to the effect that they are doing a good job.

If I am grocery shopping and you have your kids but I don’t, I let you cut in front of me.

I send a little "I'm thinking of you" present (usually coffee gift card) to new mom friends at 6 weeks postpartum. I feel like that's the loneliest point in the journey because most other people don't check on you as much and many people have to start prepping to return to work, etc.

Always offer to take their cart back.

Compliment. Smile. Share stuff. Offer help. Try to remember that not everyone has your knowledge and privilege.

I mean I guess these are good rules in general but I think particularly for other parents.

If one mom declares the park is closing, we are all leaving. Park is CLOSED Hahaha.