#1
So I emptied out every single thing in the pantry and fridge and left the empty containers… down to the spices and flour bags. Eat s**t, Brandon.
I also put glitter on his ceiling fans hahaha.
#2
#3
Used it all against her in custody.
Edit: we divorced because she cheated. Then she went off the rails with d***s and partying. She was an unfit mother and I did what I had to do to prove it. It worked.
Call me Satan if you want. I won.
Edit 2: someone replied to me in this thread "found Satan". I dont feel bad for anything I did. It was way worse than the few things ive described here.
From grief to rage or just disappointment, our minds can go through waves of emotions after a breakup. To understand how it really affects the human psyche, Bored Panda reached out to Eden Lobo, a counselor and psychology professor. She explained that sometimes, it triggers a neurochemical withdrawal similar to quitting a substance.
"The brain's reward system, previously fueled by 'love chemicals' like dopamine and oxytocin, suddenly starves. This leads to obsessive 'looping' thoughts and an intense craving for the ex-partner. The brain processes social rejection in the same regions as physical pain. That's why emotional distress often manifests as actual physical symptoms, such as chest tightness or lethargy," she added.
#4
I just wanted to go somewhere there was no chance of me running into anyone I know, and just chill for a few days.
#5
The next night my friends were having a party and I made sure a woman from that group who I'd 'felt a mutual vibe with' (but never expressed or acted on cause I was married!) was going. My friends had told her that me and my wife had split and she said she was keen. She turned up and I had a wonderful time with her with lots of intimacy and affection along with the s*x. Second only woman I'd ever slept with.
Turned out my wife wasn't so immune to jealousy when I was out playing instead of her.
Note: random revenge s*x isn't the healthiest way of dealing with a cheating a partner but when you're reeling from the trauma of it... Well it's a thing.
#6
While our expert believes that a breakup is a highly subjective experience, she stresses that it can cause fragmentation of self-identity. "In long-term relationships, identities often merge (the 'we' instead of 'I'). When the bond breaks, individuals often report feeling like they don't know who they are anymore," she noted.
Prof. Lobo elaborated that we build our future around our partners. According to her, a breakup forces the psyche to delete a planned future and rebuild a new narrative from scratch, which is cognitively exhausting. She claimed that the psyche generally moves through these phases: protest, despair, detachment, and reorganization.
#9
We also conversed with our expert about how people's reactions after a breakup range from taking revenge to self-destruction. She claimed that whether they lash out or turn inward is usually determined by their locus of control, attachment style, and personality traits.
"Those who seek revenge often view the breakup as an 'ego threat' or a personal injustice. By lashing out, they attempt to regain a sense of power and balance the scales of pain. This behavior is frequently linked to a need for dominance or an external locus of control. The individual believes that hurting the person who caused their misery will somehow alleviate their own suffering," Prof. Lobo expressed.
#11
it’s two years later, and I think it’s time to go sober again.
it’s been long enough.
#12
I flew to the new city he was living in, that I’d never previously been to. Showed up at his doorstep. 🤣 (he was working in this city with an old childhood friend who gave me his address lolol)
In my head and to my friends and family who knew our “story”, everyone was so supportive and “omg it’s like a lifetime movie! Go get your man!”
We had broken up the year before to “find ourselves”. And we both would reach out randomly through those years to catch up and we would mention how we hadn’t ever felt what we once had.. so when I decided to visit him, I had just accepted a job in another country and wanted to let him know I was still holding onto our love and the door would be open if he ever wanted to try again.. but I needed him to SEE me, not just keep hearing me say these things from thousands of miles away..
But when I stood at his front door I immediately felt regret. I wanted the earth to eat me up into the dirt and spit me back into my home. I felt like a psychotic ex girlfriend who found his address and stalked him??? I was too scared to even knock!!! Anyways, while im standing outside his door contemplating turning around, he was literally getting to the building, turning the corner, and boom he sees me. I’m standing in front of his door on the second floor of his apartment building. Utter shock on his face. My insides tightening with discomfort and regret, feeling shy and kind of crazy. After stopping in his tracks, he comes up the stairs. He immediately questioned how or why I ended up on his doorstep
I pathetically and embarrassingly answered “I had a layover..” 🥺. (neither of us were living in our hometown at the time and it was holiday season so it sounded plausible). he invited me in. And from one moment it was shock and numbness to seeing each other again after so long, to home, comfort and no loss of time.
We are married now. And he always tells me that me making that move was a huge step to bringing us where we are today. I got my happy ending. 🥹so kind of like real lifetime movie stuff hahaha. I don’t regret it. 🥹.
In contrast to seeking revenge, some people get self-destructive by turning to alcohol, substances, or social withdrawal. Prof. Lobo emphasized that for these individuals, the breakup is viewed as a personal failure or a loss of their entire identity. She believes that instead of seeking power, they seek numbness.
"Alcohol or self-destructive behaviors act as chemical 'band-aids' to quiet the intense psychological pain. Ultimately, both paths are maladaptive coping mechanisms used to avoid the difficult, stagnant work of grieving. One uses fire to burn others, while the other uses it to burn themselves," she added.
#13
I literally glazed the text and left my house and drove myself to the movies and saw the movie by myself. I then sat in the car and cried.
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Psychologically speaking, Prof. Lobo narrated that closure is achieved when you stop treating the breakup as a problem to be solved. Rather, you start treating it as a story that has ended. "By granting yourself closure, you reclaim your personal narrative. This shift moves the ex-partner from the center of your mental world to a peripheral memory that no longer dictates your emotional stability," she concluded.
Well, I guess psychological closure is more important than taking revenge, crying over the ex, or acting self-destructively. With that in mind, you can still enjoy the rest of the unhinged stories. Also, if you have anything similar to share with us, feel free to do so in the comments below!
#16
#17
My body reacted really physically to the stress. I would throw up after every meal. Not because I wanted to or because I was forcing myself to - I just couldn't hold anything down. I would eat lunch and just automatically hit the bathroom 10 minutes later and wait because I knew it was coming. That was such an awful time in my life. I wouldn't wish it on anybody.
#18
#20
Honestly it was hilarious and everyone (including him) found it as such.