It isn’t uncommon for people to have a strained relationship with their mothers-in-law. And if you’ve consumed enough pop culture and articles on this site, you might even think that it is the norm.
These stories we’ve collected from Reddit may just reinforce the monster-in-law stereotype. They all have varying levels of toxicity, from the typical MIL-related drama to ones that are so unhinged, you may not believe they are real.
If you feel like sharing your own stories, you can very much do so in the comments below.
#1

This is wild but my MIL is still mad that I cheated on her son. She saw me at a cafe with a guy who I was “all over.” She didn’t come over to call me out. She called my husband (then boyfriend) he didn’t answer. We go to visit and then she finds out he got a drastic hair cut. I was cheating on her son with her son. She’s still mad after 20 years.
41points
#2

At this point, I'd been dealing with ideopathic infertility for about 12-13 years. She told me that I was infertile because Jesus knew I was a terrible person who would be an awful mother - it was my punishment.
She died. I finally got pregnant like 2 months later.
She died. I finally got pregnant like 2 months later.
34points
#3

My mom died 6 years ago and it was the hardest thing I've ever gone through.
The night after MIL disowned my husband and made him come get everything he still had left at her house, she got my number from the schedule at our job and texted me:
"You watched your mom d*e and didn't do anything to save her. Get over it already. She is burning in Hell for eternity and someday you will be there also. You thought I was mean before, you haven't seen anything yet. You don't know me at all"
We all shared a workplace and my husband is an assistant manager, so he promptly texted his higher-ups with the screenshot and requested she be fired. They were all on board, especially since the last part of her message qualified as making threats against another employee. So they confronted her the next day, and she tried to deny ever texting me at all until our boss pulled out a printed copy of the message. She then started ranting and raving about how I was the devil, how she was going to "get that b***h" (me), and how she should have aborted my husband.
That was 3 months ago, and it has been and will be permanent NC from both of us.
The night after MIL disowned my husband and made him come get everything he still had left at her house, she got my number from the schedule at our job and texted me:
"You watched your mom d*e and didn't do anything to save her. Get over it already. She is burning in Hell for eternity and someday you will be there also. You thought I was mean before, you haven't seen anything yet. You don't know me at all"
We all shared a workplace and my husband is an assistant manager, so he promptly texted his higher-ups with the screenshot and requested she be fired. They were all on board, especially since the last part of her message qualified as making threats against another employee. So they confronted her the next day, and she tried to deny ever texting me at all until our boss pulled out a printed copy of the message. She then started ranting and raving about how I was the devil, how she was going to "get that b***h" (me), and how she should have aborted my husband.
That was 3 months ago, and it has been and will be permanent NC from both of us.
30points
#4

After the idk what number miscarriage, she looked at me and said "*sigh* Some women just aren't meant to be mothers. Maybe that's why you can't keep a pregnancy."
She didn't like too well when I said if that's true, why did she have kids seeing as she's a s**t mother.
She didn't like too well when I said if that's true, why did she have kids seeing as she's a s**t mother.
29points
#5

My MIL is an attention hog and the ultimate main character syndrome case. She cut into my father/daughter dance at our wedding. Walked right through the dance floor and tried to drag my husband onto the dance floor. BTW the song was “Daddy” by Beyoncé. When she was confronted by my friends/ family and a couple of her own about it she tried to blame everyone under the sun except herself. She’s contradicted herself multiple times with her lies. One story was she was told it was their time to dance. When that didn’t work she switched to “the song said Daddy, so I know it obviously wasn’t meant for our time to dance” and tried to blame our planner. Everyone else at her table that heard the same conversation told her that that never happened.
After speaking with DH, we agreed that from then on she gets a back seat to every milestone moment so she can’t make it about her. She often complains why. Every time she complains I bring up the father daughter dance. So far she’s taken a back seat to my graduation, DH’s graduation, the last to know about our pregnancy, and baby’s gender. Our baby shower has been planned and everything, but she won’t know the details until we sent out invitations to everyone else. We close on our first house in a week. She won’t know until after we move in.
After speaking with DH, we agreed that from then on she gets a back seat to every milestone moment so she can’t make it about her. She often complains why. Every time she complains I bring up the father daughter dance. So far she’s taken a back seat to my graduation, DH’s graduation, the last to know about our pregnancy, and baby’s gender. Our baby shower has been planned and everything, but she won’t know the details until we sent out invitations to everyone else. We close on our first house in a week. She won’t know until after we move in.
25points
#6

She asked me if my dad was really d**d or my mom just didn’t know who he was so that’s what we say. My parents were married and he d**d traumatically in front of me on Thanksgiving….
24points
#7

My first husband kept going on and on about how much he missed his mom’s chicken and dumplings. When we went to visit her I asked for the recipe. When we got home and I made it for him he said there was something wrong and to ask his mom for some pointers. She said she intentionally gave me the “quick/easy version” so hers would always be better than mine and he would always have to come home to her so she could give him what he really wanted. The enmeshment was deep with those two. 🤮.
20points
#8

My husband was away on training for 5 weeks. She knew my neighbours and they mentioned they hadn’t seen me in a while. I’m a homebody so I’m typically not in and out or hanging around outside. She texted me to ask where I’ve been sleeping while her son’s been gone. I’ve been incredibly low contact ever since that single text.
19points
#9

My daughter was 5 when we had my future MIL over for dinner so that we could all meet and be comfortable before my boyfriend and I got married. My daughter was excited about it because in her mind, she was getting a new Grandma! She asked my future MIL excitedly "are you my new Grandma!?" and she replied that no..she was not my child's grandma at all and to please call her Mrs. Davis. The look on my child's face was heartbreaking.
19points
#10

Not the most unhinged but among the funniest, husband and I invited her over to tell her we had eloped. When he started off by saying "mom, we-" she jumped up and immediately screamed "YOU CAN'T BE PREGNANT. YOU CAN'T DO THIS TO ME I'M TOO YOUNG TO BE A GRANDMOTHER!"
.....she was 60.
.....she was 60.
19points
#11

I have few but few there is no forgiveness for.
My son passed away with my preterm and 2 days later she is smiling and making jokes. She once said whatever happens it happens for good , we wouldn’t want him nicy and then d*e .
She repeated many times in public places that I shouldn’t try to have kids just have dogs and be happy
My daughter was my 5 th pregnancy but first one could have made home safe and at 12 weeks right before my cerclage she said IF IT HAS TO HAPPEN IT SHOULD HAPPEN NOW SO IT WILL HURT LESS meaning miscarriage.
I was 7 days PP AND she said if i were to divorce my husband they will get custody of my daughter because her friends husband is known lawyer.
My son passed away with my preterm and 2 days later she is smiling and making jokes. She once said whatever happens it happens for good , we wouldn’t want him nicy and then d*e .
She repeated many times in public places that I shouldn’t try to have kids just have dogs and be happy
My daughter was my 5 th pregnancy but first one could have made home safe and at 12 weeks right before my cerclage she said IF IT HAS TO HAPPEN IT SHOULD HAPPEN NOW SO IT WILL HURT LESS meaning miscarriage.
I was 7 days PP AND she said if i were to divorce my husband they will get custody of my daughter because her friends husband is known lawyer.
17points
#12

Oooh which one should I pick? The time when my twins had been out of NICU for 9 weeks and she had me play photographer to take her family photos of her, my twins and my husband….. and then when I raised it that I was uncomfortable with this set up, she said “well yes, I do expect you to stand aside when I’m with my son and his babies”. Or possibly the time where because I gained weight postpartum from a UK 8 to a UK 12, she bought me a UK size 22 top at Christmas and when I opened it she smiled the biggest smile and said “well I know you gained a lot of weight!” Yeah not that much Susan, Jesus Christ.
17points
#13

JNMIL made photo Christmas cards with her two grandchildren and two great grandchildren and excluded our child. And yes, our child is my husband/her son's biological child.
17points
#14

My MIL asked me why I give my infant daughter stale milk (I pumped and refrigerated because she refused to latch after 3m) instead of fresh milk from the source like I was some cow. And she continued to ask till I was more than a year postpartum.
I go to therapy now, both couples and individual. Both therapists were shocked when I told them.
I go to therapy now, both couples and individual. Both therapists were shocked when I told them.
16points
#15

We had a miscarriage while living under her roof and were under a great deal of stress. Those were the worst few weeks of our lives. She decided to fabricate a story and told everyone that I had an abortion. The only reason I found out was because my FIL (they’re divorced) showed me and my husband the messages she was sending him about our so called “abortion” and how she was going to “ruin me.”.
16points
#16

She told me I shouldve aborted my youngest, and threatened that she could get my kids taken away like that *with a finger snap* oh and now she tries to spoil my youngest and acts like it was a loving pregnancy and she was so excited for him to get here.
16points
#17

I had just gotten engaged to her son. We had only been together a few months at the time. We were 21. Lol dumb yes. But STILL together btw, 25 years later. Anyway, she yelled hysterically, ran to the bathroom, came back begging him not to ruin his life. And I'm still here 😎 And his life is just fine lol.
14points
#18

She was a b***h for most of my pregnancy but I was 2 weeks post partum after a traumatic birth that left me so injured I couldn’t even stand or walk on my own (11 month pp now and still dealing with pain from it), and was also dealing with back to back mastitis causing me extreme illness. Literally just trying to survive and in so much discomfort and pain. She would not stop relentlessly harassing tf out my husband and I (even though we begged and begged to please stop because she was putting an extreme amount of unnecessary stress on us and trying so hard to make us feel like terrible parents) about our choice to vaccinate our infant and that if she wouldn’t get vaccinated with the huge outbreak of measles happening, that she would have to wait until our baby is protected to meet her.
When she refused to stop harassing us, I sent a text being so vulnerable trying desperately to get her to have an ounce of empathy and be a girls girl. I told her how traumatic my birth was, how much pain I was in, how I was getting absolutely zero sleep, how ill I was from back to back mastitis that worsens with stress and that the stress I was feeling was immense and I simply wanted to enjoy the very short amount of time with my newborn I had before she wasn’t a newborn anymore as well as my husband having to return to work very early pp was extremely stressful to me and asked if she could please at least just give us the respect of backing off FOR NOW and sharing her thoughts later. She of course did not back off and I was losing my sanity and an absurd amount of hair at this point. My husband became very worried I was going to develop PPD from this and begged his mom to please stop right now and we could come back to this at a later date because he’s worried I will get PPD with all of the stress.
Of course she became defensive af, not a shred of empathy and proceeded to say it was ridiculous and “not fair” that I was saying mastitis was her fault (W*F??) and then sent a hugggge paragraph to him with capital letters going on and on about how controlling I am and that she knows sometimes in marriage you have to make compromises but he was going to have a very long road ahead of him if he was going to continue dealing with me act like this and told him I was THREATENING POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION!!! amongst many other nasty things. That was the moment I really gave up on her because that’s truly evil, disgusting and inappropriate behaviour. Going behind my back to talk s**t to my husband after everything I just told you so nicely I was struggling with? Ya get bent b***h.
When she refused to stop harassing us, I sent a text being so vulnerable trying desperately to get her to have an ounce of empathy and be a girls girl. I told her how traumatic my birth was, how much pain I was in, how I was getting absolutely zero sleep, how ill I was from back to back mastitis that worsens with stress and that the stress I was feeling was immense and I simply wanted to enjoy the very short amount of time with my newborn I had before she wasn’t a newborn anymore as well as my husband having to return to work very early pp was extremely stressful to me and asked if she could please at least just give us the respect of backing off FOR NOW and sharing her thoughts later. She of course did not back off and I was losing my sanity and an absurd amount of hair at this point. My husband became very worried I was going to develop PPD from this and begged his mom to please stop right now and we could come back to this at a later date because he’s worried I will get PPD with all of the stress.
Of course she became defensive af, not a shred of empathy and proceeded to say it was ridiculous and “not fair” that I was saying mastitis was her fault (W*F??) and then sent a hugggge paragraph to him with capital letters going on and on about how controlling I am and that she knows sometimes in marriage you have to make compromises but he was going to have a very long road ahead of him if he was going to continue dealing with me act like this and told him I was THREATENING POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION!!! amongst many other nasty things. That was the moment I really gave up on her because that’s truly evil, disgusting and inappropriate behaviour. Going behind my back to talk s**t to my husband after everything I just told you so nicely I was struggling with? Ya get bent b***h.
13points
#19

I mean she’s said lots of mean and stupid a*s things, but my personal favorite is that she said I’m not her family and screamed it to me in front of my children, then proceeded a few months later to ask my husband to ask if he was even happy (that she knows he “”loves”” me but am I really what he wants) with me, and that I should let him steal my children and bring them to her. It’s moreso 6 years of emotional a***e which lead to NC.
Her husband (husband’s step father) also said that I’m a ‘f*****g b***h’ and ‘pathetic’ because I wanted to spend Mother’s Day with my child, 1 month after a traumatic 12+5 pregnancy loss, and not my husbands mother. During which that pregnancy I asked her NOT to tell anyone and she told a room full of people I didn’t know, rubbing my belly, lost the baby 2 weeks later. Strongly strongly dislike that b***h.
Her husband (husband’s step father) also said that I’m a ‘f*****g b***h’ and ‘pathetic’ because I wanted to spend Mother’s Day with my child, 1 month after a traumatic 12+5 pregnancy loss, and not my husbands mother. During which that pregnancy I asked her NOT to tell anyone and she told a room full of people I didn’t know, rubbing my belly, lost the baby 2 weeks later. Strongly strongly dislike that b***h.
12points
#20
Well
When we got engaged she wanted FIL to walk me down the isle"cause he never had that opportunity with their own daughter"she eloped at 18.
Went behind my back to another catering company for our wedding cause SHE didn't like the food choices(we were paying for our own wedding.Also she and her sisters planned out the wedding programme and seating WITHOUT consulting me and my husband and had invited about 20 extra people that we both didn't even know!
Insulted my decor and furniture when we moved into our house.Called it cheap looking.Tried to get involved in any decisions or plans we had.
Wanted us to celebrate our wedding anniversary with her side of the family.
When i found out i was pregnant she was pissed,ignored me,never checked up but as soon as the time got closer to me giving birth she literally came my house with a list of"rules"for MY BABY.Demanded she be fully informed cause its my first baby and "i won't know what to do"(i was 34,a nurse with paediatric experience)She also threw a fit with her sisters when we requested no visitors for two weeks.I was BASHED in their family group chat
Demanded we give our daughter's middle name her first name"cause she named her daughter after Her MIL.
Would regularly come to my house while husband is at work and make nasty passive aggressive comments on my parenting skills and act like she knows my baby better than me.
Commented how my daughter is so light skinned but everyone in her family has darker skin(my husband heard the comment and chewed her out)
We are NC with them all and its been pure bliss thank GOD!
When we got engaged she wanted FIL to walk me down the isle"cause he never had that opportunity with their own daughter"she eloped at 18.
Went behind my back to another catering company for our wedding cause SHE didn't like the food choices(we were paying for our own wedding.Also she and her sisters planned out the wedding programme and seating WITHOUT consulting me and my husband and had invited about 20 extra people that we both didn't even know!
Insulted my decor and furniture when we moved into our house.Called it cheap looking.Tried to get involved in any decisions or plans we had.
Wanted us to celebrate our wedding anniversary with her side of the family.
When i found out i was pregnant she was pissed,ignored me,never checked up but as soon as the time got closer to me giving birth she literally came my house with a list of"rules"for MY BABY.Demanded she be fully informed cause its my first baby and "i won't know what to do"(i was 34,a nurse with paediatric experience)She also threw a fit with her sisters when we requested no visitors for two weeks.I was BASHED in their family group chat
Demanded we give our daughter's middle name her first name"cause she named her daughter after Her MIL.
Would regularly come to my house while husband is at work and make nasty passive aggressive comments on my parenting skills and act like she knows my baby better than me.
Commented how my daughter is so light skinned but everyone in her family has darker skin(my husband heard the comment and chewed her out)
We are NC with them all and its been pure bliss thank GOD!
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12points


