36 Folks Recall How They Were Once Dumped For Probably The Most Absurd Reason Ever

Well, not all people actually know how to choose their words well, especially when it comes to such a difficult matter as not just deciding to break up, but also conveying it to your former significant other. Some don’t have the courage to do anything and resort to voice messages, texts, and even emojis.

But when it comes to words, when you are asked to directly and honestly explain why your relationship should end - Lord, what kind of “arguments” are used! And believe me - mom’s demands or friends’ disapproval is the least of what some peeps are capable of!

By the way, social or family pressure on people continues to play a key role in choosing a partner, or in ending a relationship. Half a thousand years ago, Romeo and Juliet couldn’t cope with the pressure from their families (today, therapists would clearly call both noble houses toxic), but people still rely heavily on their mothers and buds when choosing a partner.

On the one hand, who knows us better than our close people? On the other hand, our family's vision often differs significantly from ours. Want an example? Voila - my grandma always had a great influence on my mom and, continuing to love my tall grandfather even after his affair and subsequent divorce, subconsciously rejected my mom’s “too short” boyfriends.

Then, decades later, she found the strength and courage to ask my mom for forgiveness for these and other actions, but the fact remains. Our parents often love not us exactly, but the version of us “idealized” by their minds.

In fact, people very rarely break up for one reason. Usually, several combined reasons come into play - for example, in this study published on ResearchGate, the authors identify the 23 most common reasons to leave and the 27 most common reasons to stay in a relationship.

At the same time, among the main reasons for a real breakup: conflicts, betrayal, loss of trust, different life goals, or a dissatisfaction with important things. Someone may simply get confused by these thoughts and reasons, or someone may be afraid to formulate this honestly to themselves, and they will simply come up with something strange.

And yet, many people simultaneously want to leave and stay, so the result of this mental tossing is often completely random, unconvincing, or even outright unhinged.

On the other hand, don’t you think that even a completely ridiculous and vague, but still unambiguous breakup sometimes looks way better and more honest than ghosting or orbiting, when people seem to separate, but then continue to follow their exes on social media for a long time?

One of the wise folks of the past said that the worst thing in our lives is uncertainty. This study, published in Cyberpsychology: Journal of Psychosocial Research on Cyberspace a few years ago, perfectly shows how such vague strategies can be much harder mentally for the person being dumped.

I am writing these lines while sitting on the outdoor terrace of a cafe on a busy street downtown in a big city. Couples walk around, tenderly holding hands; the old song “Torn” is playing on the speakers in the cafe and Natalie Imbruglia (millennials, remember her?) sings: “Illusion never changed into something real. I’m wide awake, and I can see the perfect sky is torn…”

This seems dissonant, but many of these relationships, alas, will not survive until the fall, and only the lovers themselves can ensure that the perhaps inevitable separation remains in memory as wonderful moments of a romantic summer, not as another story worthy of this collection.

So now, our dear readers, please just scroll this list to its very end, read all these tales, and maybe add your own stories. The ones you witnessed or had yourselves. Oh yes, and one more thing: may you be lucky in love!