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30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy

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Therapy can be life-changing. It can help you make sense of the past, embrace your complex feelings, and give you a fresh new perspective centered on growth. However, just because you walk into a mental health professional’s office does not mean that they’ll ‘solve’ all of your issues in a week. Therapy is an involved process that requires a lot of heavy emotional work.
One internet user recently sparked a very important discussion on the r/AskWomen subreddit, after they asked everyone to share the ‘ugly truths’ they struggled to come to terms with in therapy. Many users found this vulnerability to be empowering. Read on for their most open and honest stories.

#1

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy
That I have to put in work to heal the trauma caused by someone else.
101points

#2

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy
That no one is coming to save you, gotta put your big girl pants on and save yourself.
100points

#3

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy
Sometimes you will never get an answer to questions you have, no matter how insane it drives you, and you just have to move on.
96points

Therapy and mental health issues are still taboo topics in some cultures and households. The sad reality is that many people are discouraged from seeking professional help when they need it. Or they’re too afraid to ask for help because they don’t want to be seen as weak. 

Loren Soeiro, Ph.D., points out in a post on Psychology Today that there are a few key anti-therapy attitudes that are prevalent in society. For instance, some people feel that they’d rather talk about their issues with their friends. However, a therapist is very different from a BFF: they actively look for the sources of the problem and can offer you deep insights into your behavior, thoughts, and feelings.

#4

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy
Other people’s emotions are not my responsibility.
84points

#5

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy
I talk to myself in such a mean hateful way, that I would never dare talk to another living person. I tend to show grace to everyone except myself. I’m my own worst critic and it’s self defeating
79points

#6

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy
Even though there will be friends and family around, I am still an individual, and I need to start accepting that being alone is good. Being alone doesn't need to feel lonely.
77points

Others might claim that they don’t have the time for therapy or that it’s far too expensive for them. However, you really can’t put a price on good mental health. If there are deep-seated issues that negatively affect your daily life, it’s vital to tackle them. Ignoring the problems will only make things worse as time goes by. It’s not a question of time and finances. It’s a question of priorities and motivations. 

In the meantime, it’s essential that you find a therapist who is a good fit for you. It’s entirely possible that you’ve had bad experiences or didn’t find a professional whom you ‘clicked’ with. Finding the right person will take some time, but it’s well worth it. Ideally, you’ll find someone you can work with for years (and possibly decades). 

As we’ve noted on Bored Panda before, a trustworthy therapist is someone who will focus entirely on you during your session. Quality therapists are professionals who are punctual, and consistent, and won’t put the spotlight on themselves.

#7

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy
Sometimes moving on without that apology you want so bad is better than trying to get it. Some people just can't give a sincere apology for the pain and trauma they caused.
73points

#8

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy
You have worth even if you contribute nothing. You shouldn’t have to prove your value. And your self esteem should not be based solely on how others perceive you.
71points

#9

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy
I will never get the approval of my parents
66points

Though therapy is important, it is not the only way to take care of your mental health, embrace harsh truths, and work through messy emotional issues. It’s equally as important that you have a strong support system around you. A supportive social circle, filled with family and friends whom you can trust, can grant you the stability that you need to heal and thrive.

In the meantime, it’s important to remember that we’re not just mental beings but physical ones, too. That’s why self-care should be a priority, too. That means having a consistent exercise schedule. It means eating healthy food and avoiding junk, as well as limiting your intake of alcohol, nicotine, and caffeine. It means spending time in nature, getting plenty of rest, meditating, and finding the time for hobbies you genuinely love. It doesn’t quite matter what you do (whether it’s hiking, tennis, painting, or yoga), so long as you’re active, you love the activities, and you develop a routine.

#10

That my disease isn’t curable. I am NOT going to improve, I have to quit waiting on better days to start enjoying my life because those days are never ever coming. This is my new permanent life, this is my new normal & even after several years of being sick I can’t really accept it.
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65points

#11

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy
That my mother will never be the person I need her or want her to be, and I have to let go of that dream of her which I created. I can keep her in my life or cut her out of it, but only by accepting her for who she is and letting go of the fiction.
59points

#12

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy
That I don't do nice things for others because I'm a "nice" person but that I do it in a self-serving manner to keep myself "safe." Growing up I worked tirelessly doing nice things for my alcoholic mother so she wouldn't hurt me and now as an adult compulsively I do nice things for others so that I won't be rejected by them.
58points

#13

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy
People in general don’t have has much empathy and compassion for others at the level that I do. That’s been the hardest thing for me to accept.
57points

#14

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy
That I have PTSD because my life has been full of trauma.
Felt terrible when I first heard it. Surely the "trauma" label must be for people who had it worse than me?
Feels much more realistic and objective now that I've been treated by a therapist who specializes in PTSD. Yes, what I went through was trauma. And yes, it left its mark on me.
51points

#15

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy
That nobody MADE me angry. I chose anger as a response.
49points

#16

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy
That my parents emotionally neglected me. More and more memories of how what I needed was so lacking keep coming up and it hurts to accept that they either didn't care or didn't have the energy for me
43points

#17

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy
No one owes you love, even if they’ve said they loved you before… people change, feelings change, it happens.
It’s a hard truth.
42points

#18

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy
That my parents we're emotionally abusive, and that my emotional regulation and anger management issues stem from being raised in an emotionally reactive household.
42points

#19

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy
My birth mother doesn't like me and never will. She only acts like it when she wants something.
40points

#20

30 "Ugly Truths" People Find The Hardest To Accept While In Therapy
I date men just like my dad
38points
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