31 Things Parents Do That Obviously Show They’re Not Doing A Great Job, As Shared Online

Taking the Emotions of your child (first crushes, embarrassing moments that they talked with you about, are unsure about, worries they have, etc.) and using it at a family gathering to get a laugh out of everybody. Your child will be so embarrassed because of you and will not talk to you in the future

I‘m 30 and my mother still does this to me sometimes. The difference today is, i will talk back in front of the whole family and suddenly she is embarrassed

parents who believe that their children “owe” them for providing basic care (food, shelter, clothes, etc…)

Parents who can’t apologize to a child. It’s ok to have human emotions and moment to be triggered or struggling and lash out or be wrong but for the love of all things good APOLOGIZE AND CHANGE.

Your adult children don’t talk to you and you "don’t know" why.

When I was younger I saw a Mother and a little daughter on a train. The Mother was scrolling her Phone and the daughter was bored and started a song. It was very quiet singing and she had a good voice. No problem.
But the mom started to hush her daughter. To stop singing.
Then the daughter asked does her mother love her? Can she get a hug. Something?
Mother just told her to be quiet and kept scrolling.

It hurt me. I wish I could just have stood up and hug that little kid. Show her that she is not alone. That she is loved no matter what.

But 20 something dude hugging little girl in a train seemed to be wrong to me at that time. So I just cried a bit. Silently. And I think about that little girl and how her life is even years later.

I sometimes really hate some parents. Because they seem to be kids themselves. Without any clue about pretty much anything.

Pulling the "I guess I'm I'm the worst parent in the world" when approached by their child with a question. Actively making the child feel guilty for expressing their own opinions in an effort to make themselves feel better.

Hearing them say "I'll give you something to cry about" to their crying kid.

Badmouthing their ex after a divorce to them and turning them against the other parent. Using kids as leverage in general.

Mothers who sees their daughter as competition

Refusing to believe their kid can do wrong

Zero interest in the kid. Doesn’t care what they do or what happens to them as long as they don’t inconvenience them.

Someone who treats the child from their old marriage like s**t because they're no longer with that child's parent.

Yelling at the kid for every trivial thing.

Women that put a man before their kids

The kid is morbidly obese and the parent feeds them nothing but fast food and soft drinks and says "he won't eat anything else".

Having a partner who dislikes or mistreats their children.

Do not seek for psychological help when your children obviously need it because you personally don't believe in "all that stuff".

Talking trash about your kids in front of others

Punishing kids with haircuts, less food, less attention, or taking their door. Especially for things like asking too many questions or "talking back" just because they didn't understand something and wanted a real reason or explanation on why they had to do/could not do something

Ironically, never thinking you're a bad parent.