30 Tips And Tricks "Your Mom Should Have Told You," But If She Didn't, This TikToker Has Your Back

The content that Natalie shares on TikTok seems to be really relevant to her followers. Her videos are full of advice that mothers usually pass on to their children. Whether it’s tips about a skincare routine, personal hygiene or just regular life things, she's got you covered.

Natalia herself lost her mother to cancer when she was 13 and misses her every day. Some people comment that they also lost their mothers when they were little and hearing what Natalia has to say really helps them to heal. 

To find out more about grief and how sharing your experience with others can help you cope with the pain, we reached out to a licensed mental health counselor William Berry. He is a practicing psychotherapist who also teaches at Florida International University. According to him, there are a number of reasons why discussing grief is difficult.

“For one, there is a pressure in society to put on a strong facade, and along with that, there is a fear of being a burden to others,” he explains. “Often, others do not know how to handle someone’s expression of grief, and it feels awkward, often for everyone. As such, there is a tendency to avoid the possible awkwardness.” 

Due to this reason, many feel the pressure to “fix” these feelings of sorrow, rather than just being there with the person experiencing it: “This can lead to overly positive statements that are inappropriately timed. The person grieving may fear this, and thereby never share their grief.”

However, sharing your experience and feelings with others has its benefits, and there’s a good amount of psychological evidence to support this. “In an evolutionary sense, it bonds us,” he says. “Just the other day, a student shared something she read, the gist of which was it is our pain that bonds us. I believe shared pain can be a powerful connection between individuals and groups.” 

William Berry thinks that any form of sharing grief can really help. However, doing it on the Internet can come with a risk of potential rudeness: “People sometimes target others.” And although this can also happen in real life, he says that we tend to be a little kinder in person. “But any way of expressing yourself, especially in a creative manner such as this [video series], is helpful.”

If you are experiencing grief yourself, just remember that it is a process and everyone experiences it in their own way. Berry advises to focus on accepting the experience rather than judging oneself for it: “All types of emotional responses to grief are normal: sadness, anger, despair, self-reproach, even relief in some cases. Try to have the experience and go through the process without negative judgment in yourself.”