In some cases, one mistake is enough to snuff out any affection that might’ve been flowering there. Reddit user u/NumerousBeach1420 turned to the r/AskMen community to hear everyone’s thoughts about all the things that women do that make them lose interest. Scroll down to read their opinions. Meanwhile, feel free to share your thoughts on them in the comments, Pandas.
We got in touch with the author of the viral thread, and they shared their perspective on relationship red and green flags to look out for. Scroll down for Bored Panda's full interview with u/NumerousBeach1420.
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Me: "I thought we could have a nice evening just the two of us."
Her: "Absolutely, but first, let me post this on my story!"
Me: "Okay, but maybe we can put the phone away after?"
Her: "I need to update my followers on the night. They're like, waiting for it."
It's like I'm an accessory to her online persona rather than a partner. I want to be in a relationship, not a reality show.
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Some behaviors are subjectively unattractive—we all have our pet peeves. Others, on the other hand, are objectively more likely to push potential partners away. Business Insider reports that among the factors that make you appear less attractive are sleep deprivation, being mean, having contracted body language, and being stressed.
Other things that make someone objectively less attractive include looking stressed, looking too happy or proud (i.e. you may not want to be too ‘smiley’), not having a sense of humor, being lazy, being dishonest, and not being humble enough. People generally also don’t find heavy smoking and drinking attractive. Nor do they enjoy it when someone disagrees with their thoughts on politics.
#4
Edit: for those who can’t see past the metaphor. lol. Entitlement is the turn off. Someone acting entitled to your affection or time or money while offering up little to nothing in return.
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Me: Would you like to.....? Her: No, that sounds boring
Me: how about....? Her: Nah, I don't want to do that.
Me: Ok, what would you like to do? Her: IDK, whatever you want to do.
On the flip side, BBC Future points out that it’s far from just our physical attractiveness that matters when it comes to romance and first impressions. In fact, someone’s agreeableness, extraversion, and intelligence are ranked higher than looks. Furthermore, a person’s material success ranks among the least important attractive qualities.
Someone who ranks high in agreeableness in the Big Five psychometric tests is generally more caring and compassionate. A person who’s agreeable and also physically attractive is more likely to be the target of someone’s desire for a serious relationship. It makes sense. It’s difficult to envision starting a long-term relationship with someone who is unkind.
#8
“ a real man would ”
“ if he wanted too , he would”
“ princess treatment “
“ I don’t need a man”
“I’m the prize”
“My man had to pay for everything “
If they think I’m paying for everything and they don’t at least offer or help out
3. If they think a relationship is a sponsorship than a partnership.
#9
How similar a person is to us is incredibly important for romance. In short, the basic principle of attraction is looking for potential partners who have some things in common with us, from personality traits and appearance to social groups and geography. When there are complementary traits in play, you make a stronger team that can weather whatever storm life throws at you.
However, it’s not all as simple as that. Some differences in personalities and backgrounds can spark some excitement in the relationship. So, there’s a need for both familiarity and novelty in relationships. Too many similarities can lead to boredom. Too many differences can lead to arguments.
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Constantly blaming others / society / etc has become a huge turn off to me.
On the flipside, I was chatting with a girl who mentioned she got in a wreck because "she's a bad driver who wasn't paying attention" and this immediately made me want to ask her out.
#12
Even if that's true, by believing and acting on those things it takes away my agency as an individual to express my thoughts and feelings on a given matter, and that really grinds my gears I must say.
Redditor u/NumerousBeach1420 opened up to Bored Panda that it was simple curiosity that drove them to start up the online discussion on r/AskMen.
"Most of the answers were about being rude or having a bad personality. It’s nice to know that there are still guys out there who care more about a girl’s personality than her physical appearance,” the author of the thread told us.
We asked the author for their personal opinion on what relationship red flags are best to be avoided.
From their perspective, your alarm bells should be ringing if the person you're dating is unfaithful, rude, or irresponsible.
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They said that a huge red flag is that the person is "someone who doesn't have dreams and plans in life."
However, we were also curious about their thoughts on green flags to look for in romantic partners. They told Bored Panda that among the qualities they value the most in a partner are honesty, loyalty, and being a provider.
For them, a truly great partner is someone who has high emotional intelligence and is a responsible individual.
Meanwhile, the author shared some advice with anyone who struggles to keep other people's interest on dates.
"Just be yourself. Work on yourself. Keep the good things about you and change the bad ones," u/NumerousBeach1420 said.
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"Oh, I don't really like popular music I must be really weird, ahah"
"Oh, I don't like girly things I guess I'm just weird like that, haha"
Get stuffed.
What behaviors and qualities do you find to be the most unattractive in a potential partner, dear Pandas? What do people do on dates that really irks you and gets under your skin? On the flip side, what do you find the most attractive in a partner?
If you have a moment, we’d love to hear your thoughts on all of this. Grab your digital quill, scroll down to the bottom of this list, and feel free to pen a comment or two.
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