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DearTumbleweed5380:
For me, when I turned it back around on him and woah - the sulking! The hurt feelings and the poor little me act. Don't give it out if you can't take it.
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Defiant_Industry1155:
Counter accusing is the actual worst.
OP:
Absolutely! 💯 It can be so shocking and confusing until you realize what they're actually trying to do. Toxic.
Ever wonder why a guy can go from prince charming to total cringe in the blink of an eye? That sudden stomach flip of revulsion is what the internet affectionately calls the ick. We posed this question to the good folks at Bored Panda HQ and gathered their thoughts. While it might seem harsh to dump someone because they ran for the bus with a backpack on or used a straw too enthusiastically it is a genuine psychological phenomenon.
According to experts at VeryWellMind, the ick develops when we’re suddenly repulsed by a specific, often “small” action. It often pops up during the early dating stages when you are still building an image of who someone is.
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loco_mixer:
No human in the history of the planet tells the whole truth all the time.
Mynameismommy:
True but there’s a huge difference between lying to save someone’s feelings when knowing the truth would do no good (in my opinion the only justifiable time), and just lying to get what you want or because it’s “easier”.
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The concept gained massive popularity through reality shows like Love Island where contestants would suddenly find themselves repulsed by a partner for the smallest reasons. While some people argue it is just a shallow excuse to end things others believe it is our intuition signaling a deeper lack of compatibility.
#7
Instant turn off.
Spock_s_wife1984:
That is so cringe. I also hate when people I’m with are jerks to servers, cashiers, retail workers or anyone in the service industry.
#8
chouxphetiche:
And lick every finger with a loud smacking sound.
#9
One-Load-6085:
The whole romance novel genre women love would beg to disagree...
Anon:
If you fear abandonment, seek therapy. Don’t make it your partner’s problem. They shouldn’t have to sacrifice their family & friends just b/c they have you.
Your brain might be picking up on subtle social cues or hygiene habits that do not align with your long term needs. In the responses you see here many women describe that precise second where the rose colored glasses shattered. Maybe he did a weird little dance or he was way too intense about a hobby that just did not click.
#11
dankeykang4200:
So ADHD is pretty much a deal breaker for you? It's fine if it is. Women born in December are a deal breaker for me. It's not because anything dumb like astrology. It's because my mother, my sister, my son, and Jesus all have birthdays in December. I can't afford another December birthday in my life.
#12
Psychologists often suggest that the ick acts as a defense mechanism to protect us from investing in the wrong person. We often want our partners to be “good,” so we overlook warning signs. This way, our brains can give us a reality check. It is almost like your subconscious mind is performing a quick audit and deciding that the physical or social chemistry just is not there.
#13
Not being a helpful partner. Playing video games instead of helping with kids & chores.
anon:
It's gonna be weird when you have kids with a Man and then it turns out he plays video games instead of helping with kids
#14
Once you catch the ick it is notoriously difficult to shake off because it affects your base level of attraction. It turns charming quirks into irritating flaws that you just cannot unsee. While some minor icks can be managed through open communication many people find that the feeling is a point of no return. It serves as a reminder that dating is often as much about what we cannot tolerate as it is about what we love. So if you find yourself suddenly turned off by the way he holds a sandwich just know that you are definitely not alone in that experience. We’ve put together a community on Reddit for Pandas to share their thoughts on questions like in this post and to share memes and interesting facts, so head on over there for more.
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Anon:
Pretty deluded to think a guy would automatically value your opinion higher than the womam who created and loved him unconditionally for 30 years; you seem to have a scarcity mindset.
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