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39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did

39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did

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The great sci-fi author Robert Heinlein wrote many outstanding books about spaceships, aliens and robots, but in addition to all of the above, I also remembered his art for one incredibly beautiful and damn correct quote. "Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own."

Just agree, this really reflects the essence of true love! And this recent collection of memories from men in relationships from the r/Ask community is dedicated to such situations: various small considerate things done by our sweethearts which we’ll remember till the end of our days. And even beyond, who knows?

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#1

39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did
When my wife and I first started dating, we were asking all of the get to know you questions. Favorite movies, favorite foods, Yada Yada. I had mentioned that one of my favorite foods was the pineapple upside down cake my grandmother made. But it was a little different from the standard recipe. My granny was the pastry chef for a resort in Virginia Beach in the 50s and 60s, and she created this recipe herself for the resort (and I guess the resort became known for it for a while). For my first birthday with her, my wife kept researching and digging until she found someone with a copy of that recipe and took it to a local baker and had my granny's pineapple upside down cake made for me. This was in 2018. My granny passed away in 2000. And she hadn't been able to cook for many years before that. Before that birthday in 2018, I hadn't had that cake since my HS graduation in 1995. Yeah, I cried with the first bite.
134points

#2

39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did
Rather than making fun of me when I started crying after I found out my pet died, she instead cradled me in her arms and massaged the back of my head while my tears ran down her arms. She held me in that moment for over half an hour then supported me by saying “You gave Larry a great life.”
I’ll never forget that. Those words meant a lot. Rest in peace, Larry. You were the best f*****g fish ever. I understand now why they call them goldfish. It’s because they’re pure gold. And you, Larry? Well, you might have just been the most golden of them all.
109points

#3

39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did
My wife gets up about 1.5 hours before I do because her work day is much earlier than mine. She knows that I usually pour my coffee and wait for it to cool for about 5 minutes before I start to drink it. So she pours me a cup about 5 minutes before I get up so its at the perfect temperature when I come downstairs.
I'll never get sick of that. 10/10 wife. Would wife her again.
108points

World culture, movies and books have created a cliché that love is necessarily beautiful words that we will always be there, protect our beloved from literally all everyday adversities and get them any star from the sky. No, beautiful words are also great in their own way, but love in a relationship is not so much a roaring, scorching fire as an evenly burning hearth that spreads warmth; when your hand is in the hand of another person, and this other gives you unshakable confidence that you have someone to rely on.

#4

39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did
She looks me in the eyes and says "we'll figure it out, we always do.".
80points

#5

39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did
I mentioned that most men are only ever given flowers at their funeral.
She bought me flowers.
75points

#6

39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did
I told her about my trauma as a dv victim. She held me and let me cry in her arms.
75points

“Human memory works in an interesting way - we often remember various touching little things that are seemingly completely insignificant,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment here. “In fact, our whole life consists of such little things, and they often emphasize the warmth in a relationship much more than beautiful and spectacular actions.”


“Our memory is in fact very selective, and it’s precisely thanks to those warm feelings that we experienced when our loved ones did something small, but incredibly pleasant for us - it is precisely thanks to them that we remember these events. And then, many, many years later, these memories remain as the most precious thing we had,” Irina ponders.


#7

I was feeling too sick to make food, so I asked if he could heat up some rice noodles and throw some bottled sauce on them. Instead, he made a whole dish for me with freshly cooked vegetables, crispy tofu, rice noodles, and sauce he made himself. When I asked him why, he said he just wanted to make sure I ate well. I definitely teared up.
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#8

39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did
A few months after we first started dating, I woke up in the middle of the night with horrible pain, vomiting, etc. I tried to power through it like I always do lol but she woke up and insisted we go to the hospital. She got up without hesitation and stayed there with me through the night.
That was my first experience with a kidney stone. You always hope your SO will be there for you without hesitation when something isn't right, but she proved it to me very early on. That was 9 years ago and she's been my wife for the last 7.
Might seem like a basic relationship expectation but actions to me mean far more than words.
72points

#9

39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did
If my wife wakes during the night and notices I am uncovered, she will "tuck" me in. Most of the time, I'm asleep and don't notice, but once in a while, I am just on the edge of sleep, and it's the most lovely selfless gesture.
70points

It’s interesting that my wife and I have been together for over eleven years, but I still remember the taste of the little cupcakes she baked for me on our first Valentine’s Day. And the little plaster figurine of a Teddy bear holding a big red heart, which I gifted her the day after our twin daughters were born, still stands in our home.


Over the past decade or so, we both have given each other many much more expensive and spectacular gifts, but it was this Teddy bear, which fell on the floor more than once or twice, glued and painted, that still makes our voices warm every time we look at it, and our hearts beat in unison. Because it's the little things that really make up happiness.


#10

39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did
Most nights after dinner, we’d sit opposite sides of the kitchen island and talk or drink a glass of wine. Sometimes randomly he would walk over to my side mid conversation, kiss me, walk right back to his side & continue the conversation. My heart flutters every time.
65points

#11

39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did
My wife was super helpful taking care of my elderly mother after she was placed in hospice.
63points

#12

39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did
One time, my wife and I were talking about a book I remembered having and loving as a child. I spent hours describing it but for the life of me I couldn’t remember the title. We were trying to look it up on google based on my descriptions but google had no idea what I was talking about. When I was just about ready to give up I remembered the title. It was called Glim, The Glorious and I was so happy to be able to show it to my wife online and simultaneously so sad that I didn’t have the book to show her in person.
About three weeks later, she handed me a wrapped gift. When I opened it, it was Glim, The Glorious.
58points

Damn it, I got really emotional while writing these words. So let me go wash my face in the meantime to wipe away a completely inopportune tear from the corner of my eye, and in the meantime, please scroll this selection to the very last story. And maybe add your own examples of the smallest yet warmest memories about your significant others, in the comments below. After all, “love is always so beautiful that it needs to be talked about!” (This is no longer Robert Heinlein, this is me, but the phrase ain’t any less true for it!)

#13

39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did
It wasn't a small thing; in fact, it's possibly the biggest thing my ex did for me: I was a member of management at Walmart - service manager in the Tire shop. it was a decent job, and not too stressful, but my management changed, and the new manager was trying to get me fired. He'd do things like come behind me and unlock doors after I'd closed, he put merchandise outside, etc. he was trying to set me up, and I wasn't taking the bait. I'd be at home and say, "I've got a feeling I need to go back to work." I'd get there and find some thing that he'd done. He was being directed to get rid of me by his boss - the district manager - so going up the chain wasn't going to do anything. It all came to a head, and we had a "decision making day" meeting where I was told to toe the line or GTFO. We were cutting close to the bone at home, and I *had* to keep this job. I was completely over a barrel, so I agreed that I'd do whatever they wanted. After the meeting, I called my wife. she listened and said, "call me back in 20 minutes."
I call her back and she says, "if we really tighten our belts, and cash in your walmart stock, with the vacation payout, we can make it for 3-4 months. You can quit that job."
I have never felt as great of a weight lifted from my shoulders as I did right then, and that was nearly 30 years ago. I am still grateful to her for that.
57points

#14

39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did
My partner says "thank you for today" every night at bed time.
55points

#15

He tells me he loves me every day. Not a new relationship either we’ve been together for 32 years. If I say I feel fat he says “You wanna see fat? Hop in the car and we’ll go to Walmart!” Always makes me laugh. He finds new recipes online and cooks them for the family on Sundays. He helps our kids fix things. If we see a high maintenance woman on HGTV or in the wild (some poor guy dragging his girlfriends 5 suitcases in the airport) we smile at each other and it’s a very heartfelt I LOVE YOU then and we laugh. He cleans! Without being asked! Bathroom, kitchen, laundry. When he does laundry he folds my underwear into a little square packet. How I don’t know. When he gets home from work he walks in and gives me a big hug.
55points

#16

39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did
Not small, but I remember after giving birth my wife was half-way knocked out from morphine. She woke up to see me trying to bottle-feed our son, and she said: I hope I did good, he is beautiful no? And then she dosed off, I cried. Yes, he is! And yes, you did!
52points

#17

39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did
I was having a rough week at work, got home really tired and took a nap.
I woke up with sushi (she doesn't like sushi, but ai love it), a bottle of wine and Harry Potter on the TV.
47points

#18

39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did
Silly, but she bought me a Valentine toy dog that will play “You ain’t nothing but a hound dog” and its head and ears move. 10years old, and I had to do surgery on it to replace the battery pack. I will enjoy it every February until I die.
Before we were married, she bought me my first tablet, a Motorola Zoom with Android 3. 1GB RAM, 32GB internal. With all accessories, it cost her almost two weeks pay. While it no longer works, I keep it in its overpriced case in my display case of personal mementos.
46points

#19

39 Men Online Tell About The Most Romantic Memories Of Small, Beautiful Things Their S.O. Did
I'm not good with events where many people attend. It drains my social battery faster than you can count to 10. But I wanted to see it through and be the best partner possible, because the entire event was really important to him. After around 2 hours (we were talking to his boss at that time) my SO looked at me, took my hand and excused us both from the conversation. We left then and there because "No company event can be so important, that I willingly let you suffer through it"
Even though we are not together anymore, this is still the nicest thing someone ever did for me. Completely unprompted because I really wanted to see it through for him and didn't even complain.
45points

#20

I don’t know if this is small, but once we went through stuff from my childhood home and found a letter to santa. I wrote it when i was seven and among the things i asked for that christmas was a San Jose Sharks towel. No idea why i wanted a towel when i was seven, but i never got it.
Next christmas she gave me a San Jose Sharks towel. It is now so used that i have retired it, but i will treasure it for the rest of my life.
42points
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