Successful couples understand and accept the fact that there will always be things they don't agree with or don't like about each other. And that's fine; nobody's perfect.
But many people don't share their every thought and feeling with their significant other, either.
In fact, according to an international study of 80,000 people carried out by Dr. Pepper Schwartz, a professor of sociology at the University of Washington, secrets and lies are commonplace in relationships. 43 percent of men and 33 percent of women say they keep major secrets from their partners, as well as 27 percent of those who say they're in an "extremely happy relationship."
Interested in how these two aspects collide, Reddit user Familiar_Stranger936 made a post on the platform, asking everyone to share what they dislike about their significant other and don't tell them about it. As of today, the post has 9.8K comments, many of which illustrate the quirks and pet peeves that folks choose to keep to themselves.
#2
I once pushed in my husband’s hemorrhoid while we were out of town so we could enjoy our vacation. There’s nothing I hate about him that I wouldn’t tell him after that.
ETA: thanks for the awards! To answer a few questions: 1. He tried to do it himself and failed. 2. He had gone to the pharmacy and gotten Preparation H cream and gloves, so I didn’t go in bare-handed (I’m not an animal, guys). 3. An internal hemorrhoid can be pushed back in; an external one cannot. 4. I wrote that answer and went to sleep pretty soon after, and he hasn’t killed me as of this morning, but that may change once he’s seen the upvotes lol.
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62points
#4
He’s really really bad at taking criticism. Really bad. And I can’t tell him this because feedback loop etc.
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58points
#5
That they expect an apology for every hurt feeling, but almost never take accountability or apologize for their own actions when they hurt other people.
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58points
#6
His sneezing.
He is allergic and can't help it. But he scream-sneezes every day, usually several times in a row, and I HATE loud sudden noises.
He is allergic and can't help it. But he scream-sneezes every day, usually several times in a row, and I HATE loud sudden noises.
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56points
#7
She watches YouTube/Tik Tok videos on her phone and refuses to use headphones/earbuds. I hate it.
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55points
#8
My wife took singing lessons as a kid. She is certain that she has a great singing voice. She does not. It’s so hard to be in the same house when she’s singing but I love her dearly and would never ask her to stop.
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54points
#9
You don’t have to talk to fill silence, sometimes you can just sit in peace, you will not die I promise.
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54points
#10
I don’t necessarily hate this about him, but he doesn’t like to just kiss/make out. He will do it before sexy times, but not for very long. I love showing affection and intimacy by just making out sometimes and not having it lead to anything.
He had some trauma with it, so I can’t blame him at all. I just really wanna make out with him more!
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48points
#11
She’s one of those people that walks too slow in the grocery store and stands there looking at s**t forever trying to decide what to get not aware that 2 other people right behind her trying to grab what she’s in front of and go
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44points
#12
The way she pronounces the word "hamburger" makes me die inside.
"ham BIRD gr"
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44points
#14
they’re not very intellectual. he’s a sweet and caring guy and incredible otherwise but sometimes I get frustrated with our conversations and the lack of mental stimulation
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43points
#15
I dont know, we are abnormally open about stuff like this to the point where it doesnt even matter anymore.
We are both annoying and rude to each other and it comes out when we flirt. An outsider who doesnt know us or how we are would think that we are incredibly toxic until we start laughing about it. Ill pretend to complain about her snoring and she will say something like "good, i like it when you suffer because i dont like you". We will just randomly tell one another "you suck" or "you smell like the inside of my a*****e" and then laugh about it. Because im older than her she jokes about buying me one of those Life Alert bracelets because she isnt sure that i will make it through the night. I talk s**t about her cats.
Love is really weird lol.
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41points
#17
I hate how she’s a bad listener. Never wants to know about my day, never takes my advice, never wants to know what’s wrong with me.
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38points
#18
That when a responsibility becomes too hard, he just doesn't do it and allows things to fester and become worse. Our storage that was lost, a tooth abscess that caused him intense pain I'm forcing him to deal with, and him not paying the registration on our car and it almost getting repossessed. I have no clue why he does this and I feel like I have to be his mother sometimes just to get him to be a responsible adult.
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38points
#19
The sound he makes when he eats bagels. Not everything, just bagels, and he eats bagels every morning for breakfast. It’s disgusting.
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36points
#20
His snoring. It's not something he can necessarily control but he snores SO loud that it disrupts my sleep.
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36points