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It is so bad that a man on Tik Tok posted that his freakin' 6-year old daughter asked him why all the dads in the movies never know anything. Even children see it. You rarely see men, husbands and/or dads portrayed as men of integrity with purpose who love & support their wives, children and community. G-d help all the sons of the women who grow up with moms that hate men and think we are all stupid.
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In an interview with Bored Panda, u/permanentburner89, the person who started the thread, admitted being quite surprised by what fellow netizens pointed out. “I am a man but I was actually quite surprised at the answers; I got them after hearing them but I still didn't expect them.”
He continued to share that the thing that secretly bothers him the most is how often society thinks they understand the male experience, both positive and negative, when they actually don’t. “I don't think they have any clue, and I don't think you can unless you're a man,” he said.
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The redditor is right saying that no one else can really understand the male experience, other than men; the same way they can’t experience exactly what women go through even if they have an idea.
The differences between how men and women see the world or interact are believed to be largely affected by upbringing and gender roles. According to an international trainer, key-note speaker, author, and consultant, Dr. Audrey Nelson, as kids, men and women are usually raised in the same environment, but they tend to be interacted with in very different ways.
“Research indicates that girls and boys grow up in what appears to be identical environments; however, they are nurtured in totally different social-emotional climates,” the expert wrote for Psychology Today.
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People treat other people like garbage because they like the wrong college. People won’t wear a certain color because of a loyalty to some college sports team, at a school they didn’t even attend. People make their schedules around football games, and miss out on family events like weddings, because of a college football game.
People have been knifed because they follow a professional sports team. People show up to work, where they make money to pay their bills, hungover because they were up late watching sports the night before. There are professional athletes that can barely speak coherently, because their education was secondary to a game. People will pay to watch a game, but are behind on child support. That is baffling to me. The amount of money spent on sporting events is astronomical.
I will never understand how some people worship at the altar of sports. I can enjoy watching soccer or baseball games, but I have a personality, independent of it. I can enjoy watching my children play their respective sports, without feeling the need to berate another human being for a missed call, or throw punches at some other kid’s parent for cheering an injury. It’s disturbing.
#7
I will never do that to anyone. I'll just sit here quietly, staring into my beer.
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“Toddler boys may see that parents (particularly fathers) frown upon verbal play for them—it is not manly to talk to dolls or mimic mother’s speech, even though she is most frequently the adult speech model at home,” Dr. Nelson continued to point out. “Boys’ play centers around action rather than talk. What boy talks to his action figures? His toys (trucks, planes, cars, soldiers, Transformers) are for feats of bravery.”
It’s no surprise that after being taught to be brave and “manly” from an early age, men might find it difficult or even scary to show their softer side or be vulnerable.
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I can still vividly recall a complete stranger saying something flattering to me over 30 years ago - like it was yesterday.
Because of this I do make it a point to say nice things to other dudes when I'm public and the moment is right.
#11
Imagine a mustang 64 with the insides of a new Corvette.
I mean sure people will die but they are going to anyway.
A survey of over 2000 males found that half of them feel pressured to act “manly”. An even larger number—eight-in-ten—of them believe that there is a societal pressure for men to behave a certain way.
According to the poll, men feel most pressured about knowing how to be handy around the house or having a certain type of body. Close to a third of them admit they would like to be able to embrace their feminine side more, and a similar percentage say that they feel misunderstood when it comes to their romantic relationships, sense of humor, or knowledge regarding finances.
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Why dont school teach kids how to handle stress? And learn more about laws? Finance? And different paths if college isn't a future a kid wants? School is not for everyone else on top of that there's alot of bullying that goes on and ruins education and someones ability to trust and want to be social.
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I want to make something clear, I don't hate women. F**k all the Tate-stans with their misogyny. Women are deserving of inherent love and respect, and they deal with a lot of s**t that we as men will never understand.
With that out of the way, I'll say that I would love to meet a woman who isn't obsessed with travel, entrepreneurship, or Instagram. And this is just hard to find.
Not saying there's anything wrong with travel or business. But if that leaves little room for love, or when she can't relax and enjoy the present without thinking about the next trip, it's just not really great energy.
#18
But I am never seen or heard. All along there is the narration that only women have mental workload or do care work. Though I feel that reality (not just my own lived reality, but the younger the people the more live like that) is much more than mine.
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I saw it growing up with my mother who was always "trying to fix" my father instead of leaving him for being an a*s. I never liked how my father treated my mother so I always sought to be self-sufficient and helpful. I'd hear the same type of admissions from older divorced women when I used to work in a public-facing job in my early 20s. I'm 33 now and I've experienced that same type of dynamic so many times. I've been passed up over and over again only to have them reach out several years down that they made a huge mistake, that they had always loved me, that they're sorry, etc etc.
I'm not interested in being someone's silver medal. Life isn't a book or TV drama. We have to will ourselves to make the changes we want in our own lives. I'm proud of the progress I've made the last several years and I'd like to meet a woman that actually values my self-sufficiency rather than being her "Plan B".
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