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"You Just Get So Tired": 30 People Share What Being Poor Is Like

"You Just Get So Tired": 30 People Share What Being Poor Is Like

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Last week, Reddit user PrestonRoad90 made a post on the platform, asking those who grew up poor to share the things they believe people with more money will never understand about them.
It quickly gained traction and sparked thousands of heartfelt responses about the lasting impact of financial hardship. Many described how their experiences shaped their views on money, security, and even relationships.
From small but meaningful sacrifices to constantly worrying about bills, the thread highlighted the challenges that the wealthier may never have to consider.

#1

"You Just Get So Tired": 30 People Share What Being Poor Is Like
You just get so tired. It feels like there's no resting because there's always the pervasive feeling that you should be doing/making/fixing something. Poverty means constant planning - for the next meal, for the next bill, for the next crisis.
80points

#2

"You Just Get So Tired": 30 People Share What Being Poor Is Like
Being poor is very expensive.

For example, if you're unable to afford to pay a speeding ticket, it will accrue late fees, making it even harder to pay off.

If you need money right now to buy food and pay rent, Payday Loan shops can help you, but with exorbitant interest rates so you'll end up paying back way more than you borrowed.

If you have a toothache but can't afford to see the dentist, it can grow into something worse and more costly to fix.
70points

As disadvantaged as some of us might start, there are things we can do to help our financial situation. Michelle Schroeder-Gardner, the founder of Making Sense of Cents, where she helps readers make smart decisions about how to earn, save, spend, and invest, told Bored Panda, "No matter a person's background, learning how to budget and understand the difference between needs and wants is very important."

"It’s also important to understand the concept of saving early on, even if it's just small amounts, and to recognize the value of delayed gratification—waiting for what you truly want instead of making impulsive purchases," Schroeder-Gardner added. "It's also important to learn the value of working for something yourself. When you earn your own money, you understand better how much things really cost, and you are more likely to spend it wisely. This responsibility helps you make better choices about spending and saving your money."

#3

"You Just Get So Tired": 30 People Share What Being Poor Is Like
How little activities like “bring valentines for everyone in class” or “let’s hold a bake sale” were stressful AF.
65points

#4

"You Just Get So Tired": 30 People Share What Being Poor Is Like
The anxiety you feel at the cash register. Knowing there’s nothing else you can put back, that you genuinely need every item and it’s the cheapest possible price, but somehow it’s still too expensive. That feeling never goes away.
57points

But the road might be long. Almost 6 in 10 Americans say they'd need to earn at least $100,000 a year to stop feeling anxious about their bills, according to a new report from Edelman Financial Engines.

About half of that group set the amount even higher at $200,000 per year or more, the financial services firms found.

#5

"You Just Get So Tired": 30 People Share What Being Poor Is Like
How difficult it is to crawl out of generational poverty.
52points

#6

"You Just Get So Tired": 30 People Share What Being Poor Is Like
When you are starving and there's nothing to eat so the only option left is to try and sleep because you hope that when you wake up you won't feel so hungry.
48points

Only 12% of the 3,000 respondents said they consider themselves wealthy and only 4 in 10 people who are objectively wealthy, with assets of more than $2 million, said they considered themselves rich.

At the same time, anxiety about personal finances has increased from last year, Edelman found, with roughly a third saying they're worried in 2024, versus 29% a year ago. That's despite a soaring stock market and wages that have been edging ahead of inflation since May 2023.

#7

How exhausting it is to constantly worry about making ends meet.
46points

#8

"You Just Get So Tired": 30 People Share What Being Poor Is Like
The constant fear of running out of money that creates this weird obsession over and guilt about spending money, even when you've got decent finances. 


I grew up poor and my partner grew up upper-middle class. We have managed to carved out a pretty comfortable life but I still have panic attacks about money and being able to afford essentials (food, rent, etc.). They are flabbergasted every time it happens. Like supportive but completely confused as to why I get so upset. My response is always "money can run out". .
45points

Ultimately, Michelle Schroeder-Gardner of Making Sense of Cents believes that people who grew up poor and those who grew up wealthy can understand each other, "but it takes work/effort and good communication."

"They have different experiences, so how they think about money and life can be very different," she explained. "Someone who grew up poor might focus more on saving and basic needs, while someone who grew up wealthy may not have faced those struggles. But if they listen to each other and try to learn, they can understand each other better. It’s all about being open and caring/empathetic about the other person’s experience."

#9

"You Just Get So Tired": 30 People Share What Being Poor Is Like
That Sugar toast is an acceptable dinner.
45points

#10

"You Just Get So Tired": 30 People Share What Being Poor Is Like
How much relationships matter. You're alot safer in a dangerous neighborhood if you know and have good allies/friends in the neighborhood. It's alot easier to share a bedroom with four or so other people if you like those people. You can't afford that new car part, but if you know that dude in the neighborhood who fixes cars, he might hook you up for a little cash. Etc etc. TLDR: having solid, good relationships with people you have history with can make a WORLD of difference.
42points

#11

"You Just Get So Tired": 30 People Share What Being Poor Is Like
Being bullied for being poor.
42points

#12

"You Just Get So Tired": 30 People Share What Being Poor Is Like
Food insecurity. I’m 60 and even now having no debt and being in a good spot, I still hoard food and keep any bit of leftovers. I remember going hungry and/or only having a small portion to eat..no seconds.
41points

#13

"You Just Get So Tired": 30 People Share What Being Poor Is Like
Getting to stay home instead of school field trips because mom could never afford the ticket.Used to get excited about it until I realized why.
38points

#14

"You Just Get So Tired": 30 People Share What Being Poor Is Like
Amount of time feeling powerless.
38points

#15

"You Just Get So Tired": 30 People Share What Being Poor Is Like
Your parents not being able to support you into adulthood. Hell, mine stopped being able to when I was 15. I can always tell someone didn’t come from poverty when their suggestion to somebody facing financial troubles is “talk to your parents”.
37points

#16

"You Just Get So Tired": 30 People Share What Being Poor Is Like
How stupid the phrase "it'll cost more to repair it than it's worth" is when it comes to car repairs.

It doesn't matter if that s**tbox isn't worth $500; a $600 repair that you're going to have to beg, borrow, and steal to afford is still cheaper than coming up with a down payment, monthly payments, full coverage insurance, etc that you need for a decent used car.

Also, just how many laws and proposed laws utterly f**k over the poor. Emission inspections being a big one.
36points

#17

Being poor means constantly worrying about basic needs and future stability.
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35points

#18

Seeing your mother wear 20+ year old worn out clothing and what amount to rags she collected from hospital visits, all so her child could have the best. Then the sadness of not being able to spoil her when you finally have your own money because she passed away too young.

Well... I just made myself sad lol.
34points

#19

"You Just Get So Tired": 30 People Share What Being Poor Is Like
Small problems become large ones when you don't have adequate savings

Any extra expense can be catastrophic.
34points

#20

Going to the grocery store and not being able to afford the food you very exactly budgeted for because they raised the price of an item.

The most mortifying experience ever is getting to the register and discovering your total is mere cents above what you can afford so you have to pick an item to put back.

Or, finding out your card won’t go through because you forgot you paid your car insurance and there’s not enough money in your account to cover your groceries.

“Oh, wrong card, let’s try this one…” declined.
“That’s not the one, let’s try this one…” declined.
“Can we split the payment onto multiple cards?
“Oh, there’s not enough on that card to cover it? I’m sorry. Never mind. I’ll find out what money I have where and come back.”

As you walk of shame worse than any college one night stand has ever felt. Carrying your infant child on your hip leaving your groceries all behind because you can’t afford them.

I wish no one ever had to feel this way. But I also kinda wish everyone had to at least once.
33points
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