35 Of The Most Unforgivable Things Done By People’s Exes

We all deserve to be with someone who loves, respects, supports, and trusts us. A big part of making any romantic relationship work is learning to coexist without intentionally hurting each other. A bit of stress and emotional pain is inevitable, but that’s very different from being with someone who goes out of their way to manipulate, gaslight, or harm you.

If you feel that you and your partner are fundamentally incompatible and that they’re always making you miserable, talk to them about this. But if after a series of honest conversations, you feel like there’s no chance they’ll change for the better, it might be best for both of you to break up and move on with your lives.

Being in a good relationship might make you more resilient to the stresses of life, but being in a bad relationship is going to be more stressful than being single. 

Some actions are beyond forgiveness, even if you have the outlook of a saint. However, you may still want to consider forgiving your ex. If not for their sake, then yours. Living with anger, shame, and regret is toxic. It’ll eat away at you emotionally, mentally, and physically. Accepting what has happened, embracing the harsh reality, and then moving on from it might just be the healthiest thing to do. You can always speak to a therapist for some practical advice on how to do this.

Verywell Mind points out that one sign of an unhealthy relationship is that your partner tries to control you through intimidation or manipulation. They might appear kind and loving on the surface, but in reality, this might be their way of exerting control over what you do, how you behave, and who you talk to.

One indicator that your partner might be controlling you is if they try to isolate you from your social circle, e.g., your family and friends. Moreover, they might try to cut you off financially, making you depend on them and making it harder for you to leave the relationship. Others might be so possessive that they accuse you of infidelity and get upset when you spend time with anyone else but them.

Unhealthy relationships also lack trust. There’s definitely something wrong if you either feel like you constantly have to hide something from your partner or if they’re doing the same thing. At the end of the day, if you’re unable to be honest with each other, you need to work on your relationship until you can be open without judgment. Otherwise, it’s a superficial relationship.

What’s the very worst thing that your ex has done, dear Pandas? Did you ever manage to forgive them? How do you enforce healthy boundaries in your relationships? Tell us what you think in the comments. We’d love to hear your thoughts on all of this.