Families are built on love and understanding, and most do a pretty good job of raising their kids. For example, in 2023, 70% of American adolescents rated their relationship with their parents as high-quality (at least an 8 out of 10). However, every home has its issues.
Reddit user Kissableecassy recently posted a simple but revealing question: "Teenagers, what's something your parents do that secretly drives you insane?" Nosy questions, rude remarks, violations of personal space; in just a few days, they have received thousands of comments, ranging from inconsequential to hurtful, and they serve as reminders that even seemingly small habits can leave a lasting impression on someone who is still searching for their place in the world.
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#21
Telling me I’m angry when I raise my voice but complain they can’t hear me because I’m quiet and mumbly. I can’t help constantly talking in a whisper, but if I speak louder apparently I’m being rude. And now I question if I have anger issues or not because everything I do is me being “angry” according to them.
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28points
#22
It’s when parents don’t listen. They compare my life to theirs. They say, “When I was your age, I had it harder.” That doesn’t help.
Life now is stressful in new ways. School, friends, and social media are hard to balance. Sometimes, I just need them to listen. I don’t need a lecture or a fix. Just listen and try to understand.
Parents, if you’re reading this: we aren’t saying your life was easy. We just want you to see that ours isn’t either. A little kindness goes a long way.
Life now is stressful in new ways. School, friends, and social media are hard to balance. Sometimes, I just need them to listen. I don’t need a lecture or a fix. Just listen and try to understand.
Parents, if you’re reading this: we aren’t saying your life was easy. We just want you to see that ours isn’t either. A little kindness goes a long way.
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27points
#23
Every acknowledgement of her wrongdoings is followed by a "but." like how about you just stop making excuses for yourself and say "the way I acted was out of line. I'm sorry.".
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26points
#24
My mother does a lot of stuff I don't like, but one thing that drives me insane is her and my uncles talking about music.
"Music was so much better when we were young! Now they only make stupid songs you can't even dance to during a party! So glad we were raised on good and artistic music!" And so on.
Well since they were children of 80's and 90's what could that music be? Queen? Nirvana? Whitney Houston? Britney Spears? Maybe someting less mainstream?
Well, dear people, they are talking about Bryan Adams. They want all the music to sound like Bryan Adams. They think that good music ended with the end of Bryan Adams' carrier. They think that Bryan Adams was the last one truly good musican and after that, this world has only ever produced the worst songs imaginable. I don't know what else to write.
They act like listening to Bryan Adams's songs is this very niche and special thing that "youngsters" just don't understand, like it's opera or something.
I don't have anyting against the fact that they like a musician I don't really like, but they are so damn pretentious about it, while telling me to get off of my "high horse" for listening to music without words. I just like instrumentals. It's absurd.
"Music was so much better when we were young! Now they only make stupid songs you can't even dance to during a party! So glad we were raised on good and artistic music!" And so on.
Well since they were children of 80's and 90's what could that music be? Queen? Nirvana? Whitney Houston? Britney Spears? Maybe someting less mainstream?
Well, dear people, they are talking about Bryan Adams. They want all the music to sound like Bryan Adams. They think that good music ended with the end of Bryan Adams' carrier. They think that Bryan Adams was the last one truly good musican and after that, this world has only ever produced the worst songs imaginable. I don't know what else to write.
They act like listening to Bryan Adams's songs is this very niche and special thing that "youngsters" just don't understand, like it's opera or something.
I don't have anyting against the fact that they like a musician I don't really like, but they are so damn pretentious about it, while telling me to get off of my "high horse" for listening to music without words. I just like instrumentals. It's absurd.
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24points
#25
Not a teen, but something my dad said he learned from me when I was a kid was to not compare me (and my siblings) to other people’s kids.
Our mom used to always do that, she would constantly say “Why can’t you be more like **name**?” It bothered me because it wasn’t like she was comparing “bad” kid to good kid. She just had friends whose children were talented in ways that she had hoped we would be (musically, academically, in sports.) We had our own talents and did average in school, but that was still grounds for not being good enough.
I felt comfortable telling my dad how hurt I was every time mom said those things. So he said he learned right away to not compare us to others like that (my parents are still married, this all happened under the same household.).
Our mom used to always do that, she would constantly say “Why can’t you be more like **name**?” It bothered me because it wasn’t like she was comparing “bad” kid to good kid. She just had friends whose children were talented in ways that she had hoped we would be (musically, academically, in sports.) We had our own talents and did average in school, but that was still grounds for not being good enough.
I felt comfortable telling my dad how hurt I was every time mom said those things. So he said he learned right away to not compare us to others like that (my parents are still married, this all happened under the same household.).
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24points
#26
Telling personal information to anyone who gives them 5 minutes of their time.
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24points
#27
Everything I do is wrong. I get asked by Dad a lot why I don't tell him things, but whenever I do he has a problem with it.
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23points
#28
Adult now, but it was definitely second guessing anything adventurous I wanted to do. Going out to a party... watch out, they do d***s at parties. Going on a road trip... watch out, you could get hit by a drunk driver. Going on a vacation... watch out for thieves and muggers. Just a constant burden of worry and warning for anything I wanted to do.
And that burden became so heavy I just stopped trying to do things after a while, or simply would do things without telling them. Sometimes I think they were so worried that I might die that it never crossed their minds that I would never live.
And that burden became so heavy I just stopped trying to do things after a while, or simply would do things without telling them. Sometimes I think they were so worried that I might die that it never crossed their minds that I would never live.
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22points
#30
I lost both my parents before I was 21, y'all need to start enjoying quality time with them before it's too late.
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14points