“Yes, I’m Stupid”: 30 Men Reveal Things About Women They Had No Idea About Before Getting A GF

Women don't usually have pockets.. just imposters.

RedRangerRedemption:

Best gift I ever gave a partner was to take her favorite sun dress during the winter and have a tailor add pockets without her knowing! The sheer joy on her face the next spring when I gave her something small and asked her to "put this in your pocket" causing her to discover their existence!!! Worth every dollar.

I learned about the constant level of danger they are exposed to and a corresponding vigilance they have to exercise.

Their existence is pain. Menstrual cycles, big b***s hurting their back, ear piercings, clothes that hurt to wear, feet getting tired from heels, mammograms, IUD insertion, doctors not listening to women’s pain symptoms… it’s like society doesn’t prioritize women’s pain.

Also, diseases and conditions that primarily affect women are far under-researched. Endometriosis, ME/CFS, fibromyalgia, FND, dysautonomia, hypermobility, etc.

EDIT: For people that don't get it.

I'm not writing about pain that only women experience. Pain is a culmination of experiences together. Of course men get piercings too. Of course women don't have to wear painful clothing or heels. Of course they do. But more than 80% of women get piercings and only 10-15% of men do.

People, this isn't a game between "who hurts more men or women", it's that women have to deal with a lot of pain in their day to day lives. If you start with your whataboutisms, you're not getting it and in fact you're part of the problem. This post did not launch any attacks toward men and has nothing to say about men. You're coming in here to make this about yourselves when it shouldn't be here. Have some sympathy for how much pain women have to go through in their day to day lives and maybe I might have some sympathy for you too.

How many women have faced s*xual a*sault.

I was massively fat for a long time, so I didn't date a lot between 22 and like 27, but I got in shape and started dating a lot and every woman I was with eventually opened up about how they'd been assaulted and I was flabbergasted.

It's disgusting and sad as f**k.

When I was 16, my high school girlfriend (now wife) and I were having s*x while she was on her period. We'd started dating 3 months prior and just became sexually active so her period wasn't going to stop us. As we started to have s*x something felt off. I looked at her funny and she was like "oh s**t I forgot to take my tampon out." It's way the f**k up there. She can't get it out and starts panicking, how embarrassing it would be to have to go to the hospital to have it removed. So she tells me to fish it out. As I am like knuckle deep in her v*gina, she starts telling me about toxic shock syndrome. I'm really struggling to find it, also panicking after learning about that. Finally I get two fingers on the string and pull it out. My hand is covered in period blood. I have a very mild blood phobia so I'm on the verge of passing out. She starts laughing with panic tears in her eyes still. When I finally get ahold of myself, I start laughing at the absurdity of the situation as we clean ourselves up.

Anyway, I learned about TSS and a lot about v*gina anatomy that day.

Clothing sizes are all over the place.

silverbellexo:

clothing sizes make no sense like she’ll be a small in one store and a large in another and somehow both fit her fine like what.

How much girls value little gestures and the intent behind doing them. Like my girlfriend would be sleeping, and I would get up to fix the curtains to make sure no sunlight gets to her face. Me getting a little sweet treat for her after I come back from work. These little gestures make her day. But one thing that I am realising only now is how important is the intent behind doing that as well. Did I do it because I had to or did I do it because I truly love and adore my lovely girlfriend makes the world of a difference for her.

The time leading up to the period can sometimes be worse than the time on the period.

alc6179:

I wish more guys knew this! PMS is worse than the period emotionally for most women. I feel so relieved when my period finally comes. When the period starts, there’s a boost of estrogen that relieves a lot of the tension of the premenstrual days. So when guys say things like “she must be on her period” I’m always like “nah you’re just uninformed”.

My dad told me this story about his parents. A few months after they got married, my grandma was on her period and she was always in a lot of pain the first days. My grandpa grew really concerned and said he was taking her to a doctor, because she was having these pains every month so there must be something really wrong! My grandma started laughing and said it was just her period, nothing was wrong, and then had to explain what a period is, because even though my grandpa had 10 sisters he had no idea!

Women are harassed far more often by men than you see because men don't tend to do it around other men. Most women who run outside have the experience of being honked or shouted at.

It's always important to listen to the perspectives of other people. You learn a lot.

Bras are far more expensive than I realized.

Skincare. I was a “put some water on my face in the morning” kind of guy. Now she’s got me using sunscreen, moisturizer, hair masks and cleanser. I’m radiant.

When I was a bachelor I had an empty trash can in the bathroom for three years. After getting married I emptied that trash can almost weekly. I never realized how many tiny swabs, wrappers, and other things were needed to be disposed of in the bathroom.

You dont have to give her suggestions and solutions to her problems. She just wants to rant.

EidolonRook:

This. I’ll just sit there and nod. Say something like “damn, that’s crazy” and let her continue.
It’s like she’s got great big coils of emotional s**t she’s built up over a time and she just needs to get it all out of her. She looks and feels lighter afterwards. In fact, if she’s angsty to you, and it’s not just hangryness, it might be she just need to take a hefty emotional s**t on you.
It’s a dirty job, but if she’s easy to love for you, it’s worth it.

That one woman isn’t a stand-in for all women and that you can’t make sweeping generalizations about how women are or ever women want by knowing one woman intimately.

Period pads are stuck to the underwear, not the body.

Not_Enough_Thyme_:

My now-husband used to think the same. He thought the adhesive was why women shaved around their bikini lines. 

How many s****y dads there were out there. The immaturity is mind boggling.

My boyfriend didn't know how tampons worked. I filled a glass with water and explained to him how to use the applicator. When it dropped into the water and expanded, his jaw dropped lol

It’s sounds stupid but I learned that endometriosis is NO joke, my ex would sit in the shower and sob and I wouldn’t know what to do.

When they wear the towel on the head after the shower the hair is all up in the twisty thing sticking straight up on the top of their head. I discovered this when I tried to joke around and grab the towel by the twist off my gfs head and sent her flying. I felt so bad. And yes, I'm stupid.