“The Trashiest Person I’ve Ever Met”: 30 Moments That Altered How Folks Saw Their Partners

Said we need to buy a house big enough for my grandmother to live with us instead of her living in a retirement home. Then he found the house and remodeled the first floor to include a 1 bedroom apartment for her. She lived with us for 15 years and died at home with her family around her. Now my Dad lives with us in that apartment and it is the best thing ever. Hubby is a rock star.

Kicked my dog. I saw red. I kicked him back and left with my dog. Dog and I are doing great 💜.

What hammered it into my head that I loved him - My now partner came over & carried my beloved 75 lb old collie up & down the stairs to my condo 2x a day to toilet for months, insisted on driving us to that awful appointment with the vet, stayed with me during euthanasia & actually was tearful, as an emotionally avoidant man & collected his ashes as he knew it would be horrendous for me, then spent weeks sitting on the floor getting my new rescue to not be afraid of him.. I am a very lucky woman ….believe me I know it!

We had just got in my car when it was snowy & very icy out. He saw a woman we vaguely know who is nearly blind & has developmental issues trying to cross the road at a very dangerous spot. Leapt out the car to help her & walked her home to make sure she was safe. He also offers to help anyone who looks like they’re struggling with anything. He’s a keeper!

When we had juuusssttt started dating, my husband kept cancelling or rescheduling dates to "go visit his sick friend in the hospital". It turns out the friend was real, not a made-up excuse, and had emergency brain surgery to relieve fluid buildup and pressure. He didn't have somewhere he could recover with help available, so my husband put him up in his little condo. When the tests came back that it was terminal brain cancer, he let him stay rent-free so that his disability payments would be enough to enjoy life without stressing about finances or pressure to return to work too early, and there would be someone there to help him if needed.

When we had a brief period where we thought maybe he'd live longer and he went back to work full-time (the original tumor was actually seemingly defeated, but then a few months later two new ones formed) my husband asked him to pay a small rent... And was secretly keeping it in an account to give back to him to help get him started if/when he could move out.

My husband re-arranged his one bedroom condo to make a permanent space in the living room so his friend could stay there and the space was still usable. I was amazed by his kindness and it spoke volumes about what kind of person he was, and how he would handle difficult situations.

(For those that are wondering... We all became great friends and had fun hanging out in that condo together, but sadly our friend passed away after about 2 years... However, he didn't have to worry about money or care, and he was happy for the time he had left. He said he didn't have a "bucket list" and just wanted to enjoy life with his friends and family, and he got to do that while staying out of palliative care for as long as possible. I really wish he could have seen us get married, but we dressed up the cardboard box with our portion of his ashes in a little custom box-sized suit that matched my husband's, put googly eyes on it, and it sat at the head table between us.).

I was in an international long distance relationship and my boyfriend at the time was flying to the US to see me. I was very ill with a chronic illness and urgently had to be sent to the hospital. He was still in his own country about to get on a flight so I called him and told him that I was going to likely be in the hospital all week so if he didn’t want to come it was okay and I’d understand. He came anyway and spent the whole week with me in the hospital. Didn’t complain ONCE. Brought my books and laptop to me everyday and spent hours just sitting next to me playing Mario kart on my switch. This was 2022 and we got married a month ago 🩷.

During the later stages of covid, he was working 15 hour shifts for NHS. I was in India, he was in UK so there was a bit of a timezone difference and the only time we could talk was during his 1.5 hour long commute back home.

During one such call I saw him quietly get up from his seat and give it up for an aged man and smile at him. It was a small gesture, he didn't realise I saw him, but it still told me the type of person he was.

He's the type of person who would work 15 hour shifts and do home visits for elderly patients during covid. Who would give up his seat for a stranger with a smile. Who would stand out in the snow to get a better signal to talk to me for 5 extra mins. I love him.

Made me pick up food (pasta with sauce) HE had dropped onto the floor with my OWN HANDS despite knowing that I have sensory issues that cause me to gag uncontrollably if I touch food with my hands (only things I can touch are dry foods like bread). I'm autistic so it's not just 'not liking' it, it's literally unbearable for me. Begged him to let me use the sweeper (we didn't have any towels), so that at least I wouldn't have to touch it. Did it in front of his friends and mocked me.

I just left him on Thursday.

Stopped teaching yoga, went and got her GED at age 31, enrolled in community college, transferred to university, graduated at 7mos pregnant, took a year off to be with our daughter, got accepted to grad school, got her masters, brought in a second income for our family. Together 20yrs next year, I'll never stop being impressed.

She called me a narcissist for not messaging or calling her back during my aunt's funeral.

Also when my aunt died, she had a meltdown because I might miss her birthday.

It’s like a switch turned off that could never be turned back on, and from that moment, I knew it was over.

When we were less than a year into dating, he invited me to his brother’s wedding.

His half brother, whom I had never met, proceeded to be combative and antagonistic with me about everything, frequently looking me up and down, lingering on my cleavage. I’ve always been a fighter with s****y men, so I gave the half brother a piece of my mind over lunch. We walked back to our hotel but I was so uncomfortable at one point that I was shaking while we were getting ready for the actual ceremony. My partner, furious, called his family and threatened to leave the wedding right then and there.

I still remember him pacing around the bathroom, in just shoes and the nice pants from the suit we picked out together, interrupting his mom to say, “No, you need to listen to me. No talking. No excuses.” Throughout the entire wedding he was my shield against his half-brother and we left promptly the next day after lunch.

No one — not even my biological dad — had stood up for me with their own family before. I was always told I had to just deal or “Well they’re family.” But he knew exactly how uncomfortable I was and didn’t question me at all. He said once he saw the behavior he couldn’t unsee it and it just disgusted him.

My partner refuses to ever see his half brother again and has been deeply protective of me with his family since.

I still think about that a lot.

Gave food to a homeless guy and talked to him for a while, patted him on the back. He didn't think anybody was looking. I knew I loved him then.

When my now-husband and I first started dating, I would get anxious about how much he tipped at restaurants (usually 40-50%, especially if he got any hint that the server might be going through a hard time). I grew up with a huge emphasis on saving money, and I thought it was irresponsible to tip so much every time. But one day I just realized - being with someone more generous than me is the best thing I could ask for.

I’ve since seen him stop everything to help so many strangers, find unique ways to get involved in our community, and just make so many people’s lives better with his empathy and generosity.

My partner shifted my mom to our house during the pandemic days. My mom was severely ill with the pandemic virus and he chose to take care of her than move her to a hospital for isolation.

We couldn't keep her with my dad since he has a lot of comorbidities and a low immunity. He did not fear getting infected from her and took care of her day and night like his own mother.

He used to lift her and take her to the washroom as she was very weak and recovering from low oxygen.

He took my phone off me and called my mum off it, forced me to talk to her about our infertility struggles I'd been keeping from her for months. He knew she'd be able to make me feel better when he wasn't able to.

I knew in that moment I'd married the right man and he'd always try to help me through the hard times.

I once got in a huge fight with my father who I already had a strained relationship with. He told me to get out of his house and several other hurtful things. I came home and my ex gf was asleep and I got in the bath and cried. I stayed in there so long, the water was cold.

She woke up and came to the bathroom and saw me. Without saying a word she just took off her robe and got in the cold bath with me and held me. It was the most loving thing I’ve ever experienced especially right after my father wanted nothing to do with me.

My first boyfriend hit and screamed at his dog because he urinated inside...broke up with him the next day.

Went to a boxing class with her. She is very cute and happy most of the time but when the gloves go on there’s no stopping her. Love it.

One night my worst ex and I were out at a bar in the city and she got hammered and started making out with a girl.

On our way home as I’m questioning her and still trying to decide how I feel about it, she reveals that she did it to steal said girl’s wallet, which she then proudly holds up.

She grew up rich but was nonetheless the trashiest person I’ve ever met.

I grew up never learning how to drive in the snow (never had to), but it often snowed where I went to school. In college when it snowed, my boyfriend (now husband) would always go and grocery shop/run errands with me when it snowed until I felt comfortable driving alone. I knew he was life partner material.