No matter the size, shape or color of your family, having a group of people you feel a special family bond with is truly special. It’s also key to our mental health and general wellbeing.
According to a paper hosted by the National Library of Medicine, “The quality of family relationships, including social support (e.g., providing love, advice, and care) and strain (e.g., arguments, being critical, making too many demands), can influence well-being through psychosocial, behavioral, and physiological pathways.”
The paper continues by detailing some of the benefits of family life: “Those receiving support from their family members may feel a greater sense of self-worth, and this enhanced self-esteem may be a psychological resource, encouraging optimism, positive affect, and better mental health (Symister & Friend, 2003).”
It also illustrates many more benefits of close family bonds, but also points out that the close relationships we form can make us more vulnerable to stress when things go wrong as well.
The terms “family of choice” or “found family” have been around for a while, but they’ve found new traction in recent decades with the growth of the LGBTQ+ movement. Families of choice are often a much-needed source of love and support for LGBTQ+ people when they come out to families that react with rejection. Without that support network, navigating their identity can be even more difficult.
Other communities benefit from found families as well, including people recovering from drug abuse, orphans, veterans suffering from PTSD, and others who may have special needs that the average family may not be well-equipped to fulfill.
Whether your family is biological or found, it’s important that we all support one another. Sometimes, however, that can be a bit tricky. Not every family’s relationship is smooth. The US Department of Homeland Security (of all places) has some tips for idea on how to reinforce the strength of your relationship with your family, whatever form that family takes:
One of their key recommendations are to establish your own habits, rituals or traditions together. These can encompass some of their other recommendations as well, like staying physically active together or finding opportunities to laugh.
Other recommendations can involve personal work as well. Both you and your family should work on improving your communication and on finding new interests and activities to share with each other. Communication should also involve staying in touch with long-distance family members.
