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32 Subtle Red Flags That Indicate Someone Is A Bad Person
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32 Subtle Red Flags That Indicate Someone Is A Bad Person

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We all want to surround ourselves with positive energy and nice people. After all, no man is an island and we all live in close proximity to one another.
In some cases, however, dealing with other people may be a daunting task. Some people in particular may be very difficult to be around. Think of that selfish relative everyone in your family avoids, or that manipulative coworker who seems to live for the drama.
“What are subtle signs that someone is a 'bad' person?” someone wondered on Ask Reddit, and the question hit a soft spot for many. Below we wrapped up the most illuminating responses and red flags that people see in those they don’t want to cross paths with.
Most of us like labeling and generalizing people and things into categories. We may see some things as good, others as bad. That’s especially true when talking about other people, who we may be tempted to call a “good” or a “bad” person.
So to find out more about the psychology behind categorizing things and people into polar opposites, we reached out to Helen Marlo, a licensed clinical psychologist and Jungian psychoanalyst who provides psychotherapy, psychoanalysis, and consultation. Helen, who is also a Professor of Clinical Psychology and the Department Chair at Notre Dame de Namur University, was happy to share some very interesting insights into the topic with us.

#1

Woman in grey sweater and face mask, thoughtful expression.
When they refuse to wear a mask during a global pandemic.
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2points

#2

A man displaying anger, clenching his teeth and pointing, highlighting subtle red flags of a bad person.
They never take accountability for their actions. No matter the situation, it always someone else’s fault.
2points

#3

Person hiding red roses behind back, suggesting subtle red flags with smiling woman in background on steps.
They only do nice things when they want something in return.
2points

#4

Woman gesturing while wearing glasses and earrings, possibly indicating subtle bad person traits in conversation.
Anyone who starts a sentence with 'I'm not racist, but...'
2points

#5

A sad dog lying on a blanket, representing subtle red flags in behavior.
Mean to animals or service workers
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#6

Street scene with protest signs, capturing subtle red flags in public behavior.
Using religion as an excuse or forcing their beliefs on others.
1point

#7

A cat hissing with wide eyes and open mouth, showing subtle red flags of aggression next to a curtain and plant.
Animals don't like them
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#8

Discarded items and trash on a sidewalk, including a Christmas tree and cardboard boxes, hinting at subtle red flags in behavior.
They litter
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#9

Abandoned shopping cart in a parking lot, illustrating a subtle red flag of bad behavior.
Not returning the shopping cart to the corral. It shows that they're too lazy and self-centered to do a small task that prevents damage to someone else's property.
1point

#10

Group dining at a restaurant, discussing subtle red flags over coffee and tea.
Bashing or being rude to service staff.
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1point

#11

Woman with crossed arms looking skeptical, standing near a man in a hoodie, highlighting subtle red flags in behavior.
If someone regularly complains about their friends behind their back to you, chances are they are complaining about you as well. Steer clear of people like this.
1point

#12

Two people in a tense conversation, showcasing subtle red flags.
they only interact with you when it’s convenient for them and they’re never happy for other people’s successes
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#13

Person looking displeased, sitting on a couch, showcasing subtle red flags of negative behavior.
When someone says 'lighten up' or 'it was just a joke' when they say something offensive. It's deflecting from the offended person's feelings, and it's an invalidation method. It's often used as a way for the toxic person to feel okay about making sexist/racist/homophobic-leaning jokes or micro-aggressions.
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#14

Man in white shirt gesturing with hands, expressing disagreement, highlighting potential red flags.
They make little belittling comments about everyone.
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#15

A woman sitting on a bed, upset and covering her face, while a man sits in the background, indicating subtle red flags.
They find out really personal information about you and use it against you in front of people or at their sickest convenience. Cough sister in law cough.
1point

#16

Woman in conversation with expressive hand gestures, wearing a white blouse, illustrating subtle red flags in body language.
“I’ve got no filter...”
Tends to go with people who do rude things just because they’re “not allowed” to do them.
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#17

A person in casual attire sits on a sofa, subtly exhibiting potential red flags in body language.
When they don't think they've done anything wrong after saying something hurtful, and they just tell the person to 'get over it' or say something like, 'Why do you care what they say?' Because hurtful words HURT. THEY HARM PEOPLE.
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#18

Man in a white shirt gesturing with his hand, indicating possible subtle red flags in conversation.
When someone writes you off as 'crazy' or 'dumb' for disagreeing with them. Instead of engaging in an argument or discussion, they try to win by diminishing your credibility and breaking down your confidence.
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#19

Man in a sherpa jacket at a cafe, holding a pen, with coffee on the table, suggests subtle red flags in conversation.
I’m usually wary of people who say, 'I just call it as I see it' or 'I’m just blunt!' As if those are virtues. I feel like they use it as an excuse to hurt people’s feelings.
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#20

Person in a gray turtleneck gesturing subtly, with long braided hair, illustrating subtle red flags in behavior.
"If you loved me you'd..."
I've been guilty of this one and someone mentioned that in a similar thread. I've done my best to be better ever since.
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