Every one of us has bad days. But then we have good days and doing things that we love makes us, at least for a bit, forget our problems. However, once happiness fades, we go back to reality. Well, some people like their reality as they feel joyful every day, all of their issues or worries are solvable, they have a cozy home they can’t wait to go back to and always have somebody who’s impatiently waiting for them to come back home.
Unfortunately, there are also many people who are not happy with their lives. They feel sad more often than happy. And while sometimes people tend to put on a ‘mask’ so nobody can tell how they actually are feeling, some of their actions may show reality is a little bit different than they want everybody around them to see.
Recently, one Reddit user started a discussion online asking people to share minor indicators that actually show that people are living miserable lives. Folks online shared various opinions and when you think about them in this context, they actually make sense.
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#21
They don't react to nothing anymore. They still compliment, feel things, show love, but it's subdued....like they've seen s**t. And they got this stare like "bro I get what you're telling me, but the s**t I've been through, I don't got time for this"
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31points
#25
They perceive a neutral stimulus in a negative way. E.g. those group of people just laughed. They MUST be b***hing about me.
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24points
#27
Forgetting what day it is. Rat chewed or worn and torn clothing. Have to ask permission from spouse to do anything extra. Oddly unfazed and numb when things go wrong. Lives to participate in spirit and theme ‘staff morale’ days. Always eats alone but probably doesn’t eat. If anything it looks hastily tossed together. Napping in the restroom or car. Poor hygiene. Skin issues. Over apologetic. Worried or paranoid what people think. Missing a lot. They will never have seen the TV show you are taking about. They didn’t go on vacation. You won’t meet any of their people outside of work. The purse rattles. People call for them. They just agree with things passively. They forget or mix up regular info
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22points
#28
When something is offered to them they always feel like they don't deserve it. They always politely decline any kind of offer. For example if you know they are hard on money and you don't want to go out to eat alone so you offer to pay for a meal for them to come with you. They made decline at not because they aren't hungry or don't want to hang out with you but because they feel they don't deserve to have their meal paid for. Usually some kind of sign of abuse of them being unworthy in the eye of a spouse or a parental figure etc
UPDATE:
I didn't expect this many replies. To clarify what I'm reading on a lot of them, there is no one size fits all. People can act this way for many different reasons whether they were taught that giving was good and receiving was bad or for religious reasons. Maybe everything they have ever done with family of friends was transactional and they were held as an emotional hostage. Maybe somebody feels they disappointed others by asking for help like they were getting in the way. The list is endless and I have learned a lot by reading a lot of these replies.
Many of these experiences aren't always labeled as abusive or toxic by those who go through them and I think sometimes that can be part of the issue. It keeps people trapped in this way of thinking due to their experiences when it is not their fault. In my eyes, when your experiences cause you to feel you can't accept something from somebody without it coming back to bite you in the a*s, that's abuse.
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19points
#30
That's really nice of you to ask.
Not everyone is bombastic. Some people are disheveled and isolate themselves because they are unhappy and they don't know how to deal with people.
16points
