Every one of us has bad days. But then we have good days and doing things that we love makes us, at least for a bit, forget our problems. However, once happiness fades, we go back to reality. Well, some people like their reality as they feel joyful every day, all of their issues or worries are solvable, they have a cozy home they can’t wait to go back to and always have somebody who’s impatiently waiting for them to come back home.
Unfortunately, there are also many people who are not happy with their lives. They feel sad more often than happy. And while sometimes people tend to put on a ‘mask’ so nobody can tell how they actually are feeling, some of their actions may show reality is a little bit different than they want everybody around them to see.
Recently, one Reddit user started a discussion online asking people to share minor indicators that actually show that people are living miserable lives. Folks online shared various opinions and when you think about them in this context, they actually make sense.
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#1
When s**t hits the fan and everybody is running around waving their arms screaming you can spot them. There will always be one guy who just sorta looks a bit tired, rolls up his sleeves and starts methodically fixing the things within his power to do so whilst just blatantly ignoring the catastrophe around him. To everybody else the end is nigh. To him, this is tuesday.
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155points
#2
Super independent because they learned not to rely on anybody
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130points
#3
They become “invisible people”, when they can. They are polite, keep to themselves, but disappear into their home and don’t engage with others because it’s draining and/or mentally exhausting. They may or may not feel lonely, but realise that life has hit too many times, and all they want to do is feel safe and quiet at the end of their day.
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111points
#4
They nonchalantly talk about traumatizing things like it’s no big deal when everyone else is horrified
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109points
#5
Disproportionate reactions. Their reactions to most things are normal or even low key, but occasionally they have a huge response to something minor. Key sign of trauma.
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89points
#6
Sometimes, when they seem less excited or stop doing things they used to love, it might mean things aren't going well for them.
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80points
#7
They have advice--good advice--for people who've just experienced trauma. Or for how to handle oddly specific and f****d up situations.
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76points
#8
If you ask them what their life would be like in a perfect world, they can’t even come up with an answer. They’re too lost to even think about it.
74points
#9
I worked in a large office environment for 30+ years and over time I observed that the people who had hard lives, often were the ones who were hyper into things like office Christmas or birthday parties. I think it was often the only celebrations they got to be part of.
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68points
#10
Eating a load of ready meals, because they don't have anyone to cook for or with so food is just a chore.
Similarly they eat the same thing over and over again, because all food tastes kind of bland.
Avoiding going home, so taking longer routes homes, staying late at work, going grocery shopping just to get out of the house.
Most of their social interactions are via text or social media or with colleagues and or service workers like cashiers.
They never seem to have a good night's sleep.
They don't talk about their evening weekend plans, or when they do, it always seems to be chores or something non committal that they can do alone - "I don't know, I'll probably just watch Netflix."
Cleaning is either not done at all, because there's no energy, or it is extremely well done because they have nothing else to do.
They can't really tell you how they envision the future - they don't dare to dream big, or dream at all, because those dreams keep being crushed.
When they do dream, the dreams are kept at arm's length - "I'd love to get a house next year, but I probably won't be able to afford it."
Am I describing my own life?
Yep.
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63points
#11
For me. The cleaning and house duties start slacking. Dishes stay in the sink overnight. I haven’t swept for a while. But my faux face is on. Bright and happy.
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62points
#12
You say “how’s it going?”
They say, “it’s goin…”
They are dead inside
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59points
#13
They don't get excited to go home after work / find reasons to stay at work longer
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57points
#14
This might be a weird one but people who are constantly unfazed. Bad things will happen, like the kind of bad things that make everyone freak out, and they just coast like it’s just another normal day.
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54points
#16
When they look for happiness in other people... and their whole day can be ruined if a certain person says or does something that they dont like
48points
#17
they look tired, absolutely "energy low powered" and sometimes they give the best advice to others that they should use for themselves
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46points
#18
They're just trying to hold it together, but close friends and family can see the cracks. Just be nice to everyone, you might not see the cracks yet.
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43points
#19
They look tired everytime you see them.
They're very interested in what you've got going on, but don't really share themselves.
They're distracted
They're very interested in what you've got going on, but don't really share themselves.
They're distracted
38points