At a certain point in life, some things tend to lose their charm. Whether it’s following fashion trends, partying hard, or even hanging out with certain people, just to name a few examples, there comes a time when you realize that you have free will and you don’t have to do these things if you don’t enjoy them.
Members of the ‘Ask Women’ community have recently shared what things they starting noping out of after reaching 30. One user asked them what they stopped pretending to like, and the women compiled quite an extensive list, which you can browse by scrolling down just a little bit.
#1
High heels. I’m not f****n doin it.
45points
#2
Socializing. It was always difficult for me, my “social battery” is extremely short lived. People just drain me, regardless of the setting and situation. I still tried to keep a network of friends and see them on a regular basis, but it was exhausting. After we all naturally drifted apart, I never sought out new friends.
I’m a homebody, with lots of animals, books, and video games. I don’t need anything else, so I’m finally embracing that and thriving.
I’m a homebody, with lots of animals, books, and video games. I don’t need anything else, so I’m finally embracing that and thriving.
43points
#3
Other peoples kids.
42points
#4
Books that I'm not enjoying. I used to force myself to read at least half of a book before deciding it's not for me, but who has time to waste on something they're actively disliking?!
40points
#5
Live music at restaurants esp when it’s too loud. If I’m getting it up to go be social I want to chit chat with the people I’m with, not try and shout over what’s going on. (I’m a huge music lover and support artists and love to hear music when it’s the point of going out, but if I’m trying to grab dinner with friends and all of a sudden a guy with an amp starts setting up in the corner I’m upset. this is just something I’m a grump about and totally understand I’m in the minority).
38points
#6
I don't want to be in noisy environments anymore because it gives me a headache. I don't want to communicate with people, I don't want to tell anyone something twice (I don't). My joint pains have increased, I don't feel as energetic as before.
37points
#7
Probably realised this more around 35, but I stopped pretending to enjoy spending time with people I don’t click with 🥲 a lot of my husband’s friends are nice people but they’re not MY people, I feel drained hanging out with them. So I’ll still go every now and then, but I stopped feeling obligated to go for every single event.
36points
#8
Fashion over comfort. Give me an elasticized waist or give me death.
35points
#9
Dating! I used to make an effort to go on the apps etc. Took a break because of the pandemic, and then one year I decided it was going to be "the year" where I committed to finding someone; my goal was to go on one date per month.
I went on three dates and was so burnt out after each of them (like would come home and crash on the couch from having to be "on" so much), and finally I realized... why the f**k am I even doing this? I'm enjoying literally nothing about it. And if that means I'm going to be single for the rest of my like... then honestly that is completely fine with me.
I went on three dates and was so burnt out after each of them (like would come home and crash on the couch from having to be "on" so much), and finally I realized... why the f**k am I even doing this? I'm enjoying literally nothing about it. And if that means I'm going to be single for the rest of my like... then honestly that is completely fine with me.
34points
#10
Staying for the full duration for social functions. I used to never leave things early unless I had somewhere else to be, and even if I was tired or not feeling it I would still hang around to appear polite.
Now? When I'm not having fun anymore, I peace out. I can get tired and overstimulated pretty easily even among people I enjoy, so now I have no problem calling it a night when I reach that point.
Now? When I'm not having fun anymore, I peace out. I can get tired and overstimulated pretty easily even among people I enjoy, so now I have no problem calling it a night when I reach that point.
33points
#11
Church and anything religious.
33points
#12
After work functions. I'm a homebody, and I like being with my family more than my colleagues. Having kids means I can get away with saying I've got something on with them and no one thinks I'm being rude.
32points
#13
Passivity, being a 'go with the flow' type of woman. I speak up for myself A LOT more now. I didn't let s**t slide, if stuff bothered me I brought it up, communicated. Just didn't care anymore. Let them think you're difficult, too modern, aggressive, too this, too that. They don't like accountability.
32points
#14
Alcohol! I never enjoyed it nor the effects of it. After 30 I just stopped drinking unless I really wanted one, not because it was the “social” thing.
31points
#16
Men and coworkers. I can’t care less and would rather be home with tv show or a book.
31points
#17
Being “chill” about things that truly bothers me. I speak up for myself now more than I did when I was younger. Also, SALADS. 🥗 I’m so done with them. I hate them. 😂.
29points
#18
Sleepovers. I want my own bed and my full skincare routine at my disposal.
28points
#19
Investing in people who don’t reciprocate your energy.
27points
#20
I no longer stay friends with people because of history, or because we have mutual friends. If my friends have a problem with it, I tell them it's okay for their friends to not be friends with each other. I am pretty well done with putting myself last all the time so other people can be happy while I feel absolutely miserable. .
27points