The genetic lottery happens very early in life, but its prizes (or the lack of) are evident during most of our days on Earth. The consequences of this natural process we have no control of, unfortunately, often leads to double standards, favoring the pretty and hurting the ugly people.
Reddit user OrbitalDickHead (I know, I know) has posted a question on the platform, asking "What is socially accepted when you are beautiful but not accepted when you are ugly?" and it went viral, accumulating over 38K upvotes.
Bored Panda has collected some of the most popular answers about social acceptance to highlight that not everyone can get away with staring at a stranger or going on about how inner beauty is more important than its outer counterpart. For example, if your read-headed, pot-bellied and slightly balding colleague that you usually don't talk to would stop to chat with you, would you feel delighted or later tweet about meeting creepy people? Now the opposite - if the guy were tall, dark, and handsome, your feelings would probably change too.
Scroll down to read the stories about ugly ducklings below. Hopefully, while reading it, you won't find the signs you are unattractive yourself.
#81
I once sent an e-mail asking for advice on a piercing at a studio. The guy who answered was very chatty and we were getting on well. He asked to come in and discuss the piercing and said why don't you bring in some cake and I'll make you a coffee. When i arrived he acted really coldly to me and when i entioned the cake, he said he was professional and it wouldn't be good to have something to eat with a client. I was overweight at the time because of Bulimia. Now i have had treatment and have lost some weight, people are so much nicer to me in general. I've always been a kind person but now people return the favour, but only because of how i look.
5points
#82
Having [and using] mediocre skills. When you're attractive people think you're way more talented at things than you actually are. Like 30 Rock's 'pretty bubble' concept...it's a real thing.
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4points
#83
Not a popular opinion, but from watching drama within my friend group, cheating. Average guy cheats, girl dumps him and never thinks about his sorry ass again. Hot guy cheats, girl says it's over but is dating him again within a month or 2. probably not many people would admit it, they'll all say cheating is unacceptable regardless of looks, but as far as I've seen, their actions tell another story.
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4points
#85
As I sit here fanning myself- sweating.
I'm working my damn ass off outside in the heat and people will think it's because I'm fat. No. It's 90+ degrees with high humidity. All these other girls get to sit at a desk all day in the AC.
I'm working my damn ass off outside in the heat and people will think it's because I'm fat. No. It's 90+ degrees with high humidity. All these other girls get to sit at a desk all day in the AC.
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4points
#88
Wearing a man romper. Handsome guy wearing it: really funny. Ugly guy trying: please bro...
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3points
#89
Being interested in nerdy stuff like anime or MMO's. That skinny kid with the greasy hair that likes anime? What a weeb! Oh, but that handsome guy who watches the same stuff is cool. The chubby fat guy playing Warcraft is a loser, but the hot girl playing just has such an interesting character!
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3points
#90
I've noticed people are much more likely to trust someone who is attractive rather than someone who's not good looking even though everyone lie from time to time and being handsome doesn't always mean you are not a liar.
3points
#91
I don't know if I'm ugly or not. But here my story. When I was in elementary school, everyone was chosen in school drama, but I didn't. I remember my teacher told me that I'm ugly. I have crooked teeth and leg, curly hair, and big eyeglasses. Since that day I try to observe my surroundings about a relationship of beauty and success. I realize that we need the confidence to be success. for beautiful people, may it is easy because they used to be surrounded by people. People tend to go to ask them first to be something important. In contradiction, me as "an ugly girl", I'm lack confident, and I must struggle hard to get what I want. But the positive thing is, this condition makes me never stop to learn, even all my hot friend already got a better position in their job, or the other get a rich husband. I learn self-acceptance. Now I'm really confident. I tried to conquer my fear and It is OK to call me ugly. I accept it.
3points
#92
Questioning your sexuality, or in my case, lack of it.
They don't ask much when I told them I'm asexual back when I was also dealing with obesity and terrible phase of acne. Now I'm a lot better shape, EVERYONE has something to say about it, as if I didn't even know myself but they do.
They don't ask much when I told them I'm asexual back when I was also dealing with obesity and terrible phase of acne. Now I'm a lot better shape, EVERYONE has something to say about it, as if I didn't even know myself but they do.
3points
#93
This happened to me
Hot guy compliments me "look at those legs! *wink*"
All the girls are "jelly". "OOh lucky you! You should ask him out!" etc.
An "ugly" guy does the exact same thing a few days later.
All the girls think he's a "creep" "sleaze". "wouldn't want to be you, you poor poor girl."
When I mentioned double standards they got super rude and defensive.
Hot guy compliments me "look at those legs! *wink*"
All the girls are "jelly". "OOh lucky you! You should ask him out!" etc.
An "ugly" guy does the exact same thing a few days later.
All the girls think he's a "creep" "sleaze". "wouldn't want to be you, you poor poor girl."
When I mentioned double standards they got super rude and defensive.
3points
#94
I eat some chips. I have this girl sitting next to me who a lot of boys think is cute. "You should eat healthier." Said the girl putting a crap ton of junk food on her plate...
3points
#95
I have a friend who had a health condition that caused her to become overweight. She would constantly get mocked for it and it made me so mad!!! She is a nice girl and is always there for people, even mean people. So one day I saw her crying and I asked what was wrong. "I told my crush I liked him and all the sudden he started being a jerk!" She told me how she wrote him a poem and he showed it to his "friends" all while laughing. He showed his gf (yes he had one and my friend knew but she couldn't help who she had a crush on). All these people laughed it up while she was trying to hold back her tears. Now when I heard this, the first thing I thot was how bruised this boy is gonna be when I see him. He isn't attractive, he started doing this to become popular and mock someone apparently less attractive. But she is beautiful... sadly now she is depressed...
3points
#97
Attractive and hit on girl... Okay
Not attractive and hit on girl... Harassment
Not attractive and hit on girl... Harassment
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2points
#98
Buying things that are linked with appearance, like clothes and personal care items. And not even just things like makeup or cute clothes, even basic things like underwear and shampoo. Like you're not supposed to have any sort of personal care if you're not gorgeous.
Of course, tampons and such are forbidden, because god forbid your ugly ass body think it can do women stuff.
Of course, tampons and such are forbidden, because god forbid your ugly ass body think it can do women stuff.
2points
#99
Being yourself.
2points
#100
Representation in my religion. I am pagan (wiccan) and that is trending right now. I constantly see instagram feeds with hot woman hawking what ever crap they are currently trying to sell. It feels like if I am not a hot woman with three feet long hair wearing low cut flowy dresses that are low cut showing off my cleavage while wearing heavy eyeliner, I am not a real witch. I know this is an issue with christians too. I work at a church and even they flyers asking for donations for third world countries have the hot missionaries with somehow the good looking impoverished people.It's actually kinda weird now that I think about it.
2points