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“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
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“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others

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We've all come across that special someone who can sail through any social situation with ease and grace. They somehow have people eating out of the palm of their hand, without even having to say a word. It's almost like they're using magic. But they aren't.
These highly skilled individuals have a secret strategy. A stash of social “cheat codes” that allows them to subtlety win friends and influence people. These little tricks are the key to success when it comes to succeeding in social situations. They aren't manipulations or mind games. Think of them as upgrades that anyone can learn and use.
Someone recently asked, "What’s a social cheat code you learned from just observing people?" and thankfully, netizens didn't hold back. They shared all the tried-and-tested hacks that keep them cool, calm and collected, even during the most chaotic encounters. Some are simple, others take practice. All can have a surprisingly powerful impact.
Bored Panda has put together a list of the best answers for anyone who wants to level up in this game called life. So whether you’re trying to land a job, diffuse an argument, connect with someone new, or just make your everyday interactions less awkward and more effective, keep scrolling. And don't forget to upvote your favorites.

#1

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
Maybe this counts - at work, I try to say hi to everyone I see. It’s that simple. When I walk through my work, I tend to know people on each floor because of these small interactions that grew into positive regard for one another. I say hi to every house keeper (actually I’m close with a few now), everyone I pass in the hall, when I enter the nurses station I say “morning everyone!” whether anyone answers or not, lol. Be your own sun 🌞
59points

Unless you've resigned yourself to a life of solitude on some remote island, you will have to interact with people at one point or another. Whether you like it or not. And we fully understand if you don't. No judgies.

Some of our social interactions are with friends, family or colleagues. Others are with strangers. And for many of us, these can be the most awkward. This, according the High Existence site, is because our brain is trying to protect us from exposure.

The trick here is to fake it until you make it. Assuming comfort in any social interaction is one of the most powerful things you can do.

"Commanding your brain to feel that you already know the person you are about to meet puts you in a position of advantage," explains the site. "It increases the chances of people showing interest in you and consequently even liking you."

#2

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
Say their name when you're praising them, like, instead of just saying "Thank you" say "thank you chris"... Trust me, its subtle but makes a huge difference.
36points

#3

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
When someone has a really terrible idea that you know will fall flat, don't tell them it's a bad idea. It puts them on the defensive. Ask questions you know they haven't thought through and let them think them through. Nine times out of ten, they'll get to "this is actually a bad idea" on their own but they get to make that call. In the process, you've built trust in the relationship.
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A few answers on this listicle mentioned silence as a secret weapon when it comes to social interactions. "Control the room by listening more than you speak," wrote one person. "Silence is power most people can’t handle."

While another added that silence makes people uncomfortable. "You’ll learn more by saying less. Control the tempo of a conversation with your pauses. Silence is dominance in disguise," they said. "Master this and you’ll own every room you walk into."

It's a sentiment echoed by the experts...

#4

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
I’ve learned it’s surprisingly easy to redirect or disarm people once you figure out what they care about. One well-placed question about something they’re passionate about, and suddenly the tension’s gone, and you’ve got them talking for an hour. People just want to feel seen, and when you give them that, doors open.
23points

#5

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
Common courtesy and respect goes a lot further then one may think
22points

#6

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
Know when to leave the conversation, the party, the relationship quietly, yet quickly, when you see a lack of accountability & emotional maturity.
22points

"Interrupting people when they are in the middle of an important conversation is one of the most annoying things to do," warns the Higher Existence team. "It shows that you have zero knowledge of social dynamics which will lead to unpleasant social situations."

#7

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
Oh man, I know a few, but the most effective ones for me are these:
- Control the room by listening more than you speak. silence is power most people can’t handle.
- Win people over by remembering the small things they thought you’d forget.
- People love talking about themselves, ask the right questions and they’ll think you’re the most interesting person in the room.
21points

#8

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
Respond softly like you have a sore throat and they usually immediately bring down their own tone and speak with less anger. Worked every time for me lol.
21points

#9

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
Theres a viral video of an interview that went around that really stuck with me “dont attribute to malice what you can attribute to ignorance” thats the world
19points

Apparently, there's a trick to knowing when it's okay to talk. And it's all in the feet. "When you approach a group of people while in a conversation, pay attention to their bodies. If they turn only their torsos and not their feet, it means they are in the middle of an important conversation and they don’t want you to interrupt them," reveals the site.

On the flipside, if they turn both torso and feet, it means you are welcome. This is extremely important, adds Higher Existence, because the right timing in such situations may put you in a position of advantage, especially if the conversation was boring for both sides.

#10

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
Minding your own business goes a very long way to keeping yourself safe.
18points

#11

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
Patience exposes what pressure can’t. Stick around long enough and let their actions do the talking.
18points

#12

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
Never reveal how intelligent you are around insecure people. If you're composed & well put-together, they will hate you enough. Strong intelligence will send them over the edge & place a target on your back.💯
17points

Ever been deep in telling a story but you have a feeling the other person isn't listening? Instead of asking them outright, fold your arms. "If the other person is observing you and pays attention, they will most likely mimic you," reveals the Higher Existence site.

#13

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
If you want to vent about frustrating coworkers, only do it with your very few VERY trusted friends, and it doesn’t hurt to remind them every time “this stays between us” - but absolutely continously praise people behind their backs, a lot, when someone does something you admire or appreciate, tell them but also sing their praises to others.
17points

#14

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
The only thing to say to cops:
Yes sir
No sir
On my way home sir
Works every time, but to be fair, I am white. This didn’t always work with my First Nations friends.
17points

#15

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
if you're with someone and you see someone else whose name you forgot, just introduce your companion to them first and then they'll volunteer their name.
16points

#16

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
When enough people join in on hating a bully, they squirm. Hard.
16points

#17

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
Be positive.
Most communication is non-verbal. You know how you get home at the day and you can tell your dog is thrilled to see you without them needing to put it into words? Whenever you interact with people, take a beat to think to yourself “how awesome is it that I get to engage with this person? They’re so cool!”
That comes across, and as long as you have a modicum of social grace, people love it.
16points

#18

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
Be nice and honest, but don't over share ever. People judge you more harshly than they would ever say to your face
16points

#19

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
A little recognition goes a long way. Long term employees are often super valuable but completely overlooked and even feel invisible. Notice them and their contributions and they will be on your side
Report
16points

#20

“Know When To Leave”: 47 Emotional Intelligence Tricks People Learned From Observing Others
Pretty privilege is a real thing
15points
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