Coupledom is a social norm that most strive to achieve. Many people envision growing old with someone they love, as it’s often considered the ultimate path to happiness. However, some are choosing to be single by choice instead of embarking on a bumpy journey in search of a person to settle down with, like everyone else seems to be doing.
Such a decision might seem strange to some, so these women in the list below shared the reasons why they’re doing it, ranging from enlightening to quite heartbreaking. Scroll down to see them for yourself, and don’t forget to share your own opinions on the matter.
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#21
It's just quieter. Safer. Calmer. I'm not expected to pour to the point of exhaustion and get so very little in return.
26points
#22
Men largely want to be taken care of. They want a caretaker they can have sex with. I know there are good, mature, dependable, fun men who were brought up properly. I just never dated one. My life was not enhanced by any man - at least not for very long. It is much less stressful to live with a cat.
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26points
#23
Because there is nothing someone else can do for me that I can’t do for myself and I don’t have time for the BS
26points
#24
I’d rather come home alone and enjoy my peace. No more cleaning and cooking for someone that doesn’t appreciate my efforts.
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26points
#25
I don’t trust my judgment. I isolate hard and making plans is exhausting and even though I love and would like to spend time with the people I love, for some reason 9 times out of ten I regret making plans because when I finally get the day to myself I feel like I just need alone time. The guilt behind that is real. Protecting my heart from anymore heartache and abandonment.
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24points
#26
I just bought a house that l can live in and enjoy peace and safety. I won't jeprodise that ever again.
24points
#27
Peaceful home. Nobody threatening to rip the rug out from underneath me because I dare to have hobbies or success outside of my relationship. Happy kids. Happy dog. Life is just so much easier and more fun without a man around. I KNOW I KNOW *not all men* but plenty of them, okay. The weaponized incompetence is too much.
24points
#28
Tired of trying, of compromising and getting nothing in return. Tired of begging for the bare minimum of affection, respect and help. I’m done.
23points
#29
Because many of us got tired of being the emotionally available ones while men stay stuck in emotional adolescence. I gave love a real shot, more than once, but I won’t beg anyone to meet me at the level I live on. If the bar is on the floor, I’d rather be single and fulfilled than drained by a one-sided connection. Some of us are done babysitting grown men.
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23points
#30
Full control of the remote, no need to pay for sky sports, whole king-size bed to myself, not being asked "What's for dinner" a thousand times on repeat, having a bath without interruption, going out without having to rush because he's bored on his own and phones constantly asking where I am. The peace is fantastic, I can take my own bins out and mow the lawn. Even have a cleaner, apparently it was my job and not necessary to hire somebody for a job I don't want to do.
23points
#31
I’m yet to find someone who loves me for me and doesn’t want to change me. It’s even harder considering I have chronic illnesses and an Assistance Dog (I’ve found partners in the past have felt like they needed to compete with my dog); one day I’ll meet someone, until then, I’m open to the universe finding someone for me when the time is right.
22points
#32
Because I’m an empathetic person who seems to attract narcissists. I’m tired of having love and let them go, after being the only one trying for so long
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21points
#33
It's just easier to be on your own and only be responsible for yourself instead of trying to take care of a man who basically becomes another child/chore. The equality between men and women with the responsibilities around home are still greatly greatly lopsided. It's exhausting and creates a lot of resentment.
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21points
#34
Because every man that ever got close to me was only there to take from me and leave me broken. Last one put a bullet in my back to take my home and life insurance money . After just 14 months married. I do not trust them at all !
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20points
#35
Because I'm not in a position to support myself let alone help support another human being, I won't be a burden on anyone so won't even look into dating until I'm confident in my own abilities
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19points
#36
Because unless she finds someone that is more satisfying than living with the peace she carefully curated for her life, she’s not interested in.
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19points
#37
I am healing from narcissist a***e. I was married for 15 years. I like my freedom. The thought of dating or a relationship gives me an anxiety attack.
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19points
#38
I used to be one of those women who choosed to die alone, no more dating, partners nothing.
I had multiple dv relationships in my life, dad wasn't a great role model for what males should be, and every guy around me were absolutely nothing I'd even consider dating material. I had no exposure of a man that I'd even say "oh he's a good guy, maybe he's out there" so with that, I gave up, there was no hope.
Then.... A guy had similar interests as me, love psychology and self help, loves to better himself and has such a strong drive for doing right and teamwork.
I gave up on my solitary life.... He was worth it. I'm so glad I did give up tho. I was able to filter out so much noise, and I think that's how I found and was able to accept him.
Destinee Spencer replied:
yes, my husband came into my life when I wasn't looking. We were engaged and married in 6 months, been married for 4 years now.
I had multiple dv relationships in my life, dad wasn't a great role model for what males should be, and every guy around me were absolutely nothing I'd even consider dating material. I had no exposure of a man that I'd even say "oh he's a good guy, maybe he's out there" so with that, I gave up, there was no hope.
Then.... A guy had similar interests as me, love psychology and self help, loves to better himself and has such a strong drive for doing right and teamwork.
I gave up on my solitary life.... He was worth it. I'm so glad I did give up tho. I was able to filter out so much noise, and I think that's how I found and was able to accept him.
Destinee Spencer replied:
yes, my husband came into my life when I wasn't looking. We were engaged and married in 6 months, been married for 4 years now.
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18points
#39
Because they are constantly disappointed or lied to, they recognise red flags earlier and just want peace (the four main ones I believe are contributing).
18points
#40
The best thing about this is that the shelters will be able to get all their cats adopted. I am all for that.
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18points