"What Screams 'We Are Not Going To Last Long' For Couples?" (50 Answers)

Lack of communication.

Discussing every disagreement means screaming over each other, exploding, shutting off Communications and/or running out of the room.

So they won't be able to resolve anything in a constructive manner

Being attached at the hip/never allowing your SO to have alone time or hang with other people without you. Had one friend whose GF was like this to the extreme. They spent every day and waking moment together for the first 3 months of their relationship due to her always demanding to be with him/never allowing him any alone time. Usually it comes from a place of insecurity. They lasted 3 and a half months and she went full rage crazy when they broke up.

When she pushes you because "you're being a little b***h" while you're going to ER for probably a broken foot.

It was Broken.

When both make the atmosphere so uncomfortable when you are in their house.

Tattoos of each others names.

When one of them posts a giant story on some dating advice sub when the answer is almost always, "You need to talk to your partner about this."

It'll be the most mundane thing being blown out of proportion.

"I (22m) can't stand when my gf (23f) chews with her mouth open. What can I do to make her stop? Should I install a limiter on her jaw so she can't open up as wide? Should I call her mom and tell her she didn't raise her daughter right?"

"Did you tell her?"

"No."

Like wtf!?

Love, to me, is a selfless thing. I think that for a long-term relationship to thrive, you need to care about your partner at least as much as you care about yourself, and your partner also needs to feel the same way.

In my experience:

* Contempt / mockery
* Lack of communication / respect / empathy for the other person
* Glue babies
* Having a wedding as opposed to making a marriage
* With the exception of children, consistently and habitually prioritising others over their SO

Then there’s the things that for me are default dealbreakers: any kind of abuse, cheating, financial dishonesty, violence, gaslighting. This criteria also applies to their treatment of my children where applicable.

EDIT: Since I don’t seem to have been clear enough about what I meant regarding prioritising the children, what I actually meant was my children are the only people I would ever drop everything and run for, over my partner. In day to day life of course your relationship with your partner is equally important.

EDIT 2: A glue baby is having a baby in an attempt to save a relationship.

The extreme jealousy. The jealous one probably the one will commit breakup things

I heard eye rolling is the most common sign of eventual relationship failure. It shows contempt, which is poison to any type of bond.

A pattern that I have noticed is that my friends that spent the very most on their wedding, I'm talking about thousands and thousands of dollars, lasted less than 2 years. My friends that got married cheaply, like me and my best friend, have stayed married. Just an observation.

Edit: typo

The inability to have a conversation about a hard subject that doesn't immediately devolve into a screaming match.

Lack of mutual respect

Talking on the phone/ facetime/ texting 24/7 . Fastest way to codependency. When one of the partners can't pay attention to their phone, the other gets sour. I've seen it a billion times.

Getting angry at your SO for being depressed

A coworker got married. He and his wife never stopped partying separately with their friends. He would come to work and tell the same “clubbing” stories he told before he even met his wife.

Some of us had a secret bet on how long it would last.

Surprise, surprise, BOTH cheated on each other and they filed for divorce before their 1st wedding anniversary.

I bet 6 months. They made it 10 months before filing.

Opening up the relationship after years of monogamy.

I’ve seen poly relationships work when they’re poly from the beginning, but from what I’ve seen amongst my circle, a sudden switch to an open relationship after a decade together is a sign that it’s about to implode.

"Where are you?"

"Hanging out with my cousins."

"Really? Vc me rn."

Joint Facebook account

If your conflict resolution method is either screaming and insults or completely shutting down.