As we go through life, we cross paths with countless people every day. And while many of them have faced serious hardships, you wouldn’t always know it just by looking.
But if you pay attention, the signs are there. Maybe it’s the way they’re overly kind, always putting others first. Or how they apologize too much, even when there’s no reason to. Some become expert people-pleasers, doing everything they can to avoid conflict.
Redditors recently shared these and other subtle clues that reveal someone has been through a lot. Here’s what they had to say.
#21
How fast they can flip the switch and not put up with your s**t anymore.
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EDIT: WOW! So appreciative of not only the thousands of upvotes but the hundreds of comments as well. I truly believe that having open discussions about things like this are the path to overcoming your difficulties and being successful. I also appreciate the numerous private messages that have been sent. Please know that I either have or plan to respond to every single one of them.
39points
#22
Can't take a compliment because to them thats the start of manipulation. Also don't like gifts becuase they come with strings usually and they aren't prepared to have something else come back at them because they "accepted" the gifts.
Also likely fiercely independant, although you get the ones that go the other way and are too scared to do *anything* alone.
Also likely fiercely independant, although you get the ones that go the other way and are too scared to do *anything* alone.
39points
#23
Unflappable. Nothing you could possible say could shock them. They appear to handle bad news well because of this, but it’s actually a shut down response.
35points
#24
They’re angry, and resentful. I’m going against the grain here by saying this but as someone who has experienced child abuse and been blamed for it and been misunderstood my entire life, yeah, I’m angry and resentful.
Sorry.
Update: thanks everyone. To those who are going through similar, I feel you, a lot.
Sorry.
Update: thanks everyone. To those who are going through similar, I feel you, a lot.
35points
#25
Their eyes don’t sparkle yet they are the kindest souls to ANYONE and EVERYONE.
35points
#26
Socially distant, not trusting of anyone.
32points
#27
They don’t trust people and aren’t surprised by weird things that people do in public.
31points
#28
The eyes are a pretty good indicator. “Been through s**t eyes” seems to be a thing.
30points
#29
Disassociation.
30points
#30
People who laugh and seem happy,try to make others laugh i believe can hide a lot of things behind that mask.
26points
