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Slept with it face-down, brought it to the bathroom, got twitchy if I even glanced at it. One time it buzzed at 2 AM and he mumbled, “It’s just work.”
Girl, it was not work.
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To learn more about this heartbreaking topic, we got in touch with Nia Williams, Relationship Therapist and Life Coach from Miss Date Doctor. She was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda and discuss some of the signs of cheating that people often overlook.
"While not all signs indicate cheating definitively, certain behavioral shifts can be strong red flags," Nia noted. "These include: sudden secrecy. If your partner begins guarding their phone, changing passwords, or stepping out of the room to take calls, that secrecy may indicate they’re hiding communication with someone else."
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She had multiple partners over our entire marriage, including my best friend.
Divorcing and pulling our lives apart was like trying to separate two phone books with interlocking pages. Had to move out of state to make it happen.
But happen it did - and I’m better for it.
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Long time spent on the phone, sometimes the whole day.
Sleeping in the other room "to get better sleep".
The little smile you see when they check a message, and the speed at which they're checking them.
When you open a door and suddenly the volume of a conversation drops. Or it switches to just typing.
I saw all of it, and I chose to ignore it as I see myself as a jealous person sometimes, and maybe I'm just being paranoid. I thought we had something stronger than that, and at a minimum I figured she would leave me before she no longer cared for me enough to do that in my face.
I saw the signs, chose to ignore them, and I was wrong.
Changes in their routine can also be a red flag. "A partner who starts staying late at work more frequently, traveling unexpectedly, or shifting schedules without clear reasons might be carving out time for someone else," the expert shared.
Emotional distance or hostility can be bad signs as well. "Many people assume cheaters will act guilty, but some actually become cold or pick fights to rationalize their behavior or create emotional distance," Nia says.
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It was absolutely not the sort of thing you would wear under something else either.
Unexplained expenses might hint towards cheating as well. "Financial red flags, such as strange charges or hidden spending, can be clues — think hotel stays, new clothes, or gifts that were never given to you," Nia pointed out.
At the same time, overcompensation might be a bad sign. "Oddly enough, some cheaters overcompensate with affection, gifts, or excessive compliments — this can be a tactic to distract or alleviate their guilt," the expert says.
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His friends started giving me weird looks like they felt sorry for me. They also started to be nicer and more gentle with me instead of teasing or joking. The atmosphere was suddenly serious.
He would get calls from unsaved numbers late at night, but he'd brush them off and say he didn't answer numbers he didn't recognize. Left his phone on silent or DND and it was always glued to him.
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A lack of interest in intimacy, or a sudden surge of interest, might indicate cheating sometimes too. "Both a decrease in intimacy and a sudden spike in s*xual energy (perhaps inspired by a new partner) can be telling signs," Nia shared.
And finally, if you have a gut feeling, listen to it. "Perhaps most underrated is our intuition. If you consistently feel like something is off, that inner signal deserves attention," the relationship expert says.
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My now ex cheated on me once, I forgave.
She cheated again married him.
6 years relationship, in 3 months of long distance relationship, some d**k head helped with her homework and that's it.
Cheaters will always cheat so yeah never bother forgiving them.
But why is it so easy to miss these signs? "People overlook these signs for many reasons — and none of them are about being foolish or naïve. At the heart of it is emotional investment and trust. When we love someone, we naturally give them the benefit of the doubt," Nia explained.
On one hand, people might be scared of finding out the truth. "Sometimes it feels safer to live in denial than face the pain of betrayal or the upheaval that might follow (like separation, divorce, or family disruption)," the expert told Bored Panda.
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Abject_Ad2708:
Same here, kept hearing stories about how nice and thoughtful he is. When I expressed my concerns, she brushed it away saying he is like that with everyone and he is dating someone as well. Ended up cheating a week later
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Hope and optimism can sometimes play a part too. "Many people genuinely believe problems in the relationship can be fixed, and they want to believe the best in their partner," Nia says.
But gaslighting can be at play as well. "Some cheaters actively deny and manipulate reality — causing their partner to doubt their own perceptions," she continued. "This emotional abuse can severely cloud judgment."
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